[Workplace] How to expand connections and enhance network competitiveness

People are in the rivers and lakes, and the importance of network of contacts is self-evident. If you are born without a rich father, you are not married to a rich girl, or you are married to a golden turtle, then you do not have an inherent network of networks, you need to expand and enhance your connections.

It sounds troublesome to expand connections and improve the competitiveness of connections. Remember, no matter how difficult it is, you have to despise it strategically so that you can win. Well, let's get down to the truth. Next we will talk about how to expand connections and improve their competitiveness.

1. Expand connections

A magic weapon to expand connections:

1. cultivate confidence;

2. Cultivate communication skills;

3. Learn to praise others.

Self-confidence is your comfort circle, that is, the degree to which people feel comfortable in different occasions.

A person without self-confidence is very small and always afraid of being rejected. Therefore, he does not want to take the initiative to go out and interact with others, let alone expand his connections.

For example, in a cocktail party or wedding banquet, Westerners will first eat and arrive at the scene early before departure. Because it is their chance to know more strangers. However, in Chinese society, everyone is a little shy about such occasions. Not only will they be late, but they will also try their best to talk to people they know. Even good friends have an appointment to sit at a table to avoid meeting strangers. Therefore, "although many opportunities are around you, we always let it go ."

Second, communication ability. The so-called communication ability is actually the ability to understand others, including understanding others' needs, desires, abilities and motivations, and giving appropriate responses. So. What should I know? Remember, listening is the best way to understand others.

Hu Xueyan, a famous "red-top businessman", is a good listener. When talking to people, he not only can speak, but also be obedient. No matter how tasteless the man is, he can be honest, two eyes looked at, as if they were very excited. At the same time, he is really listening. at a crucial moment, he can add one or two languages to extend the meaning of one or two, so that those who talk about it can't go against the speed of their hearts. Naturally, they feel speculative and turn into a hand.

Finally, praise. Everyone can think of this, because people love to listen to good words, no matter how impressed they are with you, no matter how well they cultivate their looks and abilities, it is certainly not objectionable to say praise. However, remember that people love to listen to good words, and at the same time, people hate deception. Therefore, praise should be appropriate in a timely manner, there cannot be too many beautiful words to make people feel charming. In this way, the other party will not only look down on you in personality, but also privately wonder if you are trying on him, ".

In fact, self-confidence and praise are both communication skills. If you are not confident, you cannot communicate with others. praising others is the first step in successful communication. Therefore, you must expand your relationships, first, we must have excellent communication skills.

 

2. Improving the competitiveness of Contacts

Keep in mind several keywords: trustworthiness, sharing, helping people, carefulness, creativity, exposure, curiosity, empathy, and value of being used

1. Build a trustworthy image.

If you are not trustworthy, you have no sense of responsibility. If you do anything, you must be smart and be responsible first!

The most hateful person is not trustworthy. Confucius said: no one is trustworthy. People cannot do things without being honest. Remember, remember ......

A year ago, a Changzhou boss found me and asked me to prepare an online marketing plan for him. For this reason, he specially rushed from Changzhou to Xuzhou to see me and know that I love tea, I was invited to sit in the teahouse, and they had a great chat. I agreed that the draft was handed in 45 days later, but the contract was broken in the planning work for 15th days. After a few months, he found me again and asked me to help him make plans for another project. He also expressed his guilt for the first contract breach and said that, in order to make up for mistakes, I sent a copy of my tea from Tianmu Lake and asked me if I wanted a school address. I enthusiastically said that I would receive tea before the summer vacation, he looked forward to it, but now he is about to start school. His tea didn't even have a movie, and he had no news.

I will not do anything. I will definitely not do business with him in the future.

2. Share.

To understand the fact, the goal of cooperation is to achieve a win-win situation, rather than losing ourselves and losing ourselves. People who believe that cooperation is ultimately about to steal from the other party will certainly not understand and share. If such a person is unwilling to be with him, there will be fewer and fewer opportunities, in the end, there will be fewer and fewer people. On the contrary, there will be more opportunities for people who are willing to share with them, and more people who are willing to share with them.

The chairman of the board of a company (not remembering which company it is)Famous saying: Share, share, and share again!

3. Helpful

People always like to interact with people who are happy to help themselves. This is a question that dummies can think of with their toes. So, don't ask me why.

4. Be careful

Carefulness is also a manifestation of the Sense of Responsibility. Careful people always minimize the possibility of leakage in doing things. Such people are reassuring and easy to give people a sense of security.

Careful people are good at observing things and understanding tiny phenomena. In many cases, a trivial phenomenon may contain the most important information, so that you can learn more about each other, this lays the foundation for the successful establishment of the relationship.

5. Originality

Creativity makes people feel that you are different. Creativity makes people feel cared for and needed by each other. Creative people will not make their interactions boring and dull. Creativity creates fun.

It is said that when Liu yingwu, general manager of Sun moonlight semiconductor, first served IBM in the United States, he tried to meet his boss every day to observe the time when his boss went to the bathroom. At that time, he chose to go to the bathroom, add interactions.

6. Multiple exposures

First of all, let others know you and see you. Every time you see your figure, your impression is deepened. If you want to participate in EMBA, Lions Club, and other groups, even if you are inside the company's welfare committee, tour groups, gymnasiums, and other groups, you are selling yourself to others, it is also an opportunity to build your own image. Do not underestimate these opportunities. In these groups, people can communicate in the most natural way.

7. Curiosity

People with strong curiosity tend to take the initiative. Taking the initiative is the foundation of successful communication. Don't sit and wait for others to discover you. There are 7 billion people around the world, mostly with two eyes and one mouth, and two ears and one nose, you have nothing special. Why do people need to pay attention to you first?

A person who only cares about himself and has no curiosity about others or the outside world will pass the opportunity even if a good opportunity appears.

8. Empathy

Put yourself in the shoes of others, enjoy the pleasure of others, and be anxious of others. At the same time, put yourself in the same environment as others to discuss and make the other Party feel: Oh, he is the same as me.

9. Increase the value of your use

The highest level of networking is mutual benefit, not unilateral games. In the end, the relationship between people is the relationship of mutual use. Don't misunderstand. The "use" here is not just what you think, it is a neutral word, but actually, only valuable parties can reach consensus and establish close contacts.

For example, in school, our girls always have two girlfriends. Our girlfriends and we have a very strong and strong relationship. The reason why we can establish this relationship is, this is because we both have the need to talk and relieve loneliness, and girlfriends can meet this need. Such a relationship comes from natural, pure, and cute, and does not contain any distractions, but it is indeed a relationship of mutual use.