From 30 years to 35 years: accumulate some thickness for your life

All the questions you have never imagined will come to you with the passing of time, and all your ever-dashing, well-being, will also make you bear the costs that seem to have been doomed over time. In this world, "the only thing unstoppable is time, which, like a razor, silently cuts through hard and soft everything, moves forward steadily, and nothing can make its march a little bumpy, it changes everything." "I always believe in a word: come out mixed, sooner or later." Although you and I are mortal, just a common person in this crowd, but I still hope that everyone's life will be able to meet the sun to bear fruit. Whether or not you can understand the meaning of this passage in your present experience, please write it down first. I believe someday, you will understand. Because, time can explain everything, time can prove everything, time can solve everything.

--Preface

During the recent year of career planning counseling, I clearly felt the urgency of the need for career planning for people over the age of 35. It is from these cases that we have a clear insight into how time-point mastery plays a decisive role in the growth of a person.

In our customers, there are often two types of more extreme cases: one is to have achieved a certain level-at least the director level above, in the company has a certain position, a salary of not less than 200,000 of the people, the other type of work for many years, but still in a relatively low position, regardless of job level and material return, or personal sense of value, can not get a higher recognition. Although these two kinds of cases are extreme, they provide us with some thought that can be used for reference. By contrast, we find that anyone who has a certain degree of success in career development has a common feature, that is, at least 10 years of intensive cultivation in areas of familiarity and expertise. And those who do not find their position in the workplace, often belong to every other two years in the direction, never in a certain direction in depth accumulation. Of course, in addition to frequent job-hopping factors, there is another factor, that is: already in a direction of deep accumulation, but this accumulation of duplication is a labor-style, and did not rise, resulting in career development in situ.

Whether you admit it or not, you must pay attention to the "35-year-old phenomenon". Many companies are clearly under 35 years of age when recruiting talent. If you're 35 years old and you're still posting resumes on the job site, you should reflect on what you did wrong. Of course, according to our practice consulting experience, if you are really 35 years old or even higher age to think about this problem, it is likely that you have not been able to solve the problem, a lot of practical difficulties will make you powerless, helpless. At this time, many people will regret the choice because of the original incessantly, but want to cry without tears. So, whether you're trying to avoid more detours, or move towards greater success, you have to think ahead about your future livelihood. There have been too many cases to prove that preparing for a rainy day is much more useful than cramming.

A significant part of our clients are Gen Y and a highly prevalent career planning problem. The oldest generation of Gen Y, already over the age of "30", but still a significant part of Gen Y, is moving towards the 30 road. If Young is the capital that God has given you, you still have time to make up for it, but if you have reached the 20-year-old's tail, this capital will no longer be your patent. Graduated from college, to your had been, this time is long enough, so that you have enough opportunities to understand society, adapt to society, and reflect on their own growth.

From the age of 30 to 35, this is 5 years. If you are given enough time to make a mistake, you should at least set a clear goal at the age of 30 and take 5 years to catch up, in order not to make your career a mess after your 35-year-old. This may be the best time for you to grow up. Miss this time, you are no longer young, the community will not be tolerant of the mentality to forgive your young frivolous. Otherwise, you have to go the wrong way, you must be in the future at a cost of 10 times times back. From the age of 30 to 35, you should learn to accumulate some thickness for your mortal life, so that you don't have to spend the rest of your career in regrets and regrets like "if it's all over again."

30 years: Three big questions you have to face

The first problem is the question of family and responsibility.

Don't think you're young. Don't think that some problems are too far away from you. Whether it is decadent or busy, your time is passing quickly, you feel that you are accelerating aging. There are some problems, whether you want to face it or not, but the stage of your growth determines that you have to bear the responsibility of matching your age. Most people, at this age, have to think about family issues. If you are already married, you must be conscious of how your career is going to be developed to ensure that you support the burden of your entire family. This includes not only your spouse but also your child and your parents (especially when both are only children, you have to bear the support of four elderly people on both sides). At this stage, your stress is multiplying, but if your growth in the workplace is not doubled, or even in some form, you will be under more pressure for future career development. And this pressure, more times, will make you have no spare time to seek better development. Many people in the job-hopping, often have a big concern: if I jump, if the income is not now high, then, now the work, I will easily move again? More bluntly: do I dare to move again? Do I still have the guts and the guts? So, if you want to act, just before you have to carry the burden of the family, travel light, make the best effort forward, this is your only choice. Do not at this time to enjoy the ease, otherwise, you will always be in the middle of the life of mediocrity "be comfortable" down.

The second problem is the problem of the matching of ability and age.

Why does a lot of enterprises in the recruitment of talent, clearly stipulated to 5 years of experience, 10 years of experience and so on similar work experience requirements? Because working time means the ability level to match it. The same work, 5 years of experience and 10 experience accumulated capacity is not the same, can assume the responsibility is not the same. The longer you work, the more often it means that you are more capable, a positive doubling of the relationship. But if you violate this relationship, then you will not be able to obtain the recognition of the employer, thereby losing the better career development opportunities. Among many of our clients, one of the more difficult situations is the inability to match age. Many people who work 3 years, 5 years, and even those who work for a year do not have much difference in their abilities, so when their career wants to break up, they encounter a lot of resistance. There are two reasons for this situation: one is frequent job-hopping, no accumulation in one direction, no skills; second, although in one direction long-term accumulation, but only the first year is to grow, the remaining years are doing repetitive work, in situ.

So, for those 30-year-olds, from now on, you have to look at a question carefully: how many years have I worked since I graduated? Do I have the ability to match my age? If not, then you must establish a sense of crisis early and run forward to make up for the gap with those foresight and ensure that you will not be squeezed by others during the competition.

The third problem is the construction and promotion of knowledge structure.

We have served a customer, do sales for five or six years, but also accumulated a wealth of practical experience in combat operations. Once job-hopping to apply for a well-known FMCG Enterprise Regional Marketing Manager position. In the course of the interview, all the questions about the specific operational aspects, he can fluent, but up to the system level and the strategic level of the problem, his brain is blank. I believe that people who have worked in the workplace for five or six years have this feeling that they can be proficient at the specific operational level, whether it is the process, or the skills and methods, but if you look at the problem from a higher level, you often don't know how to do it.

In the workplace, different job levels, the things are not the same, they have the vision and thinking patterns are also different. A most basic salesman, thinking how to maintain a good terminal, this is the tactical level of things, but also his responsibilities; but if a marketing director such a role, but also as the salesman every day to think about how to deal with the terminal boss, that is his dereliction of duty. The operation of each enterprise will be composed of strategy and tactics. Big strategy will be divided into small strategies, small strategy will be broken down into one of the execution tactics, from the grassroots to implement. Different levels of people, respectively, responsible for the different heights of work, their respective roles, which is the significance of teamwork. Similarly, there is a different knowledge structure for each person at different levels. The higher the level, the more you look at the problem and the higher your thinking, and the level of your overall knowledge structure must evolve and break through. Otherwise, your ability, can only stay in the specific level of operational level, there will be no big development, the position is more unlikely to rise.

Also, from a communication level, the higher your position, the closer you are to the boss, and the more opportunities you have to reach your company's top leaders. If your thinking about the problem is not consistent with the boss, then your ability cannot be recognized. In this case, your chances of upward promotion are negligible and your career will stop there.

Before age 30: How to lay a good foundation

30 years old is an age of continuity, but also a very important point in time. Before we conduct our career planning consultation, we have an evaluation link that systematically evaluates the client's comprehensive basis to see if it is suitable for career planning. One of the most important criteria for investigation is the age issue, with the emphasis on age of about 30 years. If you have almost no accumulation before you are 30 years old, it is very difficult to make a breakthrough in your career after 30 years of age, and there are many realistic problems that cannot be solved. This is a mishap. Whenever we meet a customer with such a mishap, we can only say to them, "Sorry, we can't do anything." "So, if you want to make your 30-year-old career without regret, and get through the 30-year-old, you need to be responsible for yourself before the age of 30," he said.

The first thing you need to do is to find a goal that you can fight for for 5, 10, or more years. This is one of the most desirable states. Because a clear goal, you can let your career growth around a point to accumulate experience, and this accumulation of accumulated experience, but also your future promotion of a salary stack. Although experience is not necessarily related to ability, but without the accumulation of experience, your ability is basically not the possibility of Ascension.

On the issue of goal and core competence--the so-called core competitiveness, must have a core. Around this core, you can build your competitiveness. And this is the core of your career goal--what do I want to be? The problem is solved, the direction is clear, even if you go slow, you can go faster than those who detours, because you clear your goal, you have been moving towards your goal, you are walking straight. What is a shortcut? A shortcut is not a detour, always go straight.

We consulted a customer last year, and 7 years in exchange for 6 companies. According to the usual understanding, people tend to think that this person's career development is very bad. Not really. This person's current post-tax monthly salary is 10,000 yuan, belongs to the kind of good level. You may wonder: Why does a person who frequently job-hopping, will have such a level of professional development? Some people think that he is lucky and that he has better luck than others. Not really. Observing his growth experience, we find that there is only one reason, that is: every time a job, he did not deviate from the established direction. As long as the direction is good, then, every step of his action, is in close to this direction, are in the future career development to accumulate more chips. The thickness you accumulate will ultimately determine the height of your future development. Now the house price, the price is so high, many people's survival pressure also suddenly increases, thus also causes many people to be forced by the existence pressure to become impetuous and the drift. A job, often adhere to a few months, feel no hope, wages can not improve, often choose to change jobs. But in fact, job-hopping does not fundamentally solve the problem. Now the employers have become very pragmatic, how much to do, how much money to take the right (of course, the privileged class is not within the scope of discussion). If you can't contribute more value to the company's development, but also want to get more returns, so that only the non-profit of the sale is no one willing to do. How much value you contribute to the company depends on how strong you are. And the accumulation of ability is derived from the long-term persistence in one direction. Even those who seem to be very envious of success, but also the accumulation of accumulated cultivation and growth. Those who want to take the loss back in a very short time because of the detour, will only let you lose more things.

You may have heard of the 10,000-hour law: Whether you want to succeed in any field, you have to give at least 10,000 hours of discipline. Macolm Gladwell, in his new book, The Story of the "Heterogeneous: Successful people," said that whether the best athletes, entrepreneurs, musicians or scientists, after investigation, you will find that they have at least spent 10 years, no less than three hours a day after the effort to emerge. There is an example of this: the 34-year-old world's top violinist, Maxim Vengrove, was born in Siberia, reaching the first violin at the age of 4, and has shown extraordinary talent. However, his talent and engagement are proportional. He practiced 7 hours a day, held a recital at the age of 5 and won an international award at the age of 15. "My mother came home 8 o'clock every night and taught me the violin until 4 o'clock in the morning after supper," Vengerov said. It was torture for a 4-year-old child, but two years later I became a violinist. ”

Many people are complaining about not having a chance. Not really. Frank Freddy, a sociology professor at the University of Kent, believes that people who invest a lot of time in practice will naturally have their own luck: "They are almost demanding, and when luck comes, they are ready." "This is the Chinese old saying-" Opportunity only favors the prepared mind. "If you don't get the chance, don't complain, you have to reflect on yourself, in the end, which areas are not enough?" According to our experience, you can only be rewarded if you persist for at least 5 years in one direction, and this return will have a relatively long-term impact on your future career development. At the same time, it is such a long period of accumulation, so that your foundation is very solid and solid, your footsteps will stand more stable.

In the workplace, nothing but to do two things: one is to do things, and the other is to behave. If the target is to accumulate more core skills and better things to do, then, learning to be a man, is your key to the development of the field to consider the second big thing. We even think that it is more important to be a man than to do things. Finding a suitable career goal may not be easy for a lot of people who are confused, but learning to be a person is a professional accomplishment that you can cultivate at any time in your company. Even if your professional skills do not make much of a breakthrough and growth, good professional quality will add leverage to your career development from another level. We also meet a lot of insufficient capacity, but the attitude is very good, very positive customers, they use their excellent professional accomplishment successfully conquered the interviewer, got a good development opportunity. There is a word called "to do things, first person." "Ability is insufficient, can develop slowly, but if not a person, in any organization, will become raves of rat."

In the cultivation of human beings, there are four elements that can have a fatal impact on your future career development.

The first is your ability to handle interpersonal relationships. This includes relationships with your boss, and relationships with your colleagues. Having a bad relationship with your boss is a direct determinant of your promotion. So I often say this to our clients: "If you have a bad relationship with your boss, it basically means that your career at the company ends." "And the relationship with colleagues is not good, even if you have a promotion, become their leader, you will be because of the lack of" mass base "and led to the overhead of power, your subordinates are not responded to you, is deliberately provocative, you will find that the leadership of this position is actually very difficult to sit.

The second element is to establish the ability to learn continuously. We should pay attention to the importance of learning. We met a client last year, already nearly 40-year-old, accounting for 14 years, but still only a primary-level director of the post, in the company also do not see the opportunity to promote, has not been a raise for many years. We asked him a question, "Have you had any training, education, or any other form of recharging during these 14 years?" "No," he said. "Never had it?" "Never." "This is a very extreme example, but this phenomenon is very common in the workplace. As for your own learning and growth, you may ask yourself a few questions: does my professional ability improve significantly compared to a year ago? Whether it is theory or practice, do I have my own unique opinion? If I meet the responsibility within the scope of the matter, whether I can alone, whether the ability to independently? thickness determines height. You therefore have the thickness of the accumulation, the reason is that you continue to strengthen the learning ability. Without study, your career development will be in place. You think you have not regressed, but in fact, others in progress, the gap between you and others has been unconsciously opened, you also regressed.

The third element is to establish a professional spirit. Whether you have a goal or not, whether or not the job is something you want to do, as long as you are in this position, you should do it well. In his position, this is the minimum of a professional accomplishment, but also any job is indispensable to a professional spirit. Since in this position, your job responsibilities require you to do a good job, if you do not want to do well, then leave, don't waste your time here. Good professional quality is sometimes more important than ability itself.

I have seen on Sina Weibo "enterprise in 8 categories of spiritual beggars", I feel very good description of the current part of the workplace attitude: The leadership does not communicate with me, I do not communicate, the leader does not recognize me, I do not do good work; I am not happy because the leader will not coax me , do not have a task, always take a bunch of objective reasons to deal with, after doing wrong, always hope that everyone do not make a fuss, do not know the technology, complaining about the company has no training, not progressive, complaining about the company's bad atmosphere.

A good professional spirit, is a lot of excellent people must have the quality of success. Even if you don't like the job, don't treat it in a negative way, because you're wasting your time, not just your company's time. In the workplace, you can reap nothing more than two things: one is the return, the second is growth. Before you have a clear goal, make the most of what you are able to achieve in this position, and use your best efforts to fight for it. Take a negative attitude towards your work, you will be empty-handed and get nothing.

The fourth element is to have a strong heart. Many of the people I met, in fact, are very fragile inside, unable to withstand the long life on the road of all kinds of suffering. You know, everyone's growth is not smooth sailing. Even if it is Jesus, it will not suffer the baptism of suffering? A strong heart can let a person in despair see hope, and negative pessimism will only let you in the hope of the wrong opportunity in front of the machine. "Shawshank Redemption" has such a line: "Cowardly imprisoned people's souls, hope to feel free." The strong self-help, the Holy one Watanabe. "You have no ability to be a saint, but you must become a strong man." "Natural selection, survival of the fittest. "The survival of the fittest is always the eternal rule of natural progress. You only have to adapt to this law, in such a competitive society to survive.

After the age of 30: How to achieve a qualitative breakthrough

Career development after the age of 30, should not be in situ, stagnant state. To make your career a big development after you are 35 years old, you should start at the age of 30 and take 5 years to get ready for the following 3 critical things.

The first thing to do is build your professional brand. How to build your own personal brand. After you reach the age of 30, again frequent job-hopping, is certainly not, the biggest disadvantage, is your professional knowledge growth, always just stay on a relatively low level, and this will affect the promotion of your position and salary growth. What should I do, what is suitable for, at this time should have a clear and clear positioning, and use the remaining 5 years to accumulate. Otherwise, the "35-year-old phenomenon" will be staged on you.

"The father of Japan's strategy," the former research and development in his monograph, "professionalism" also put forward the point of view: "How do you win?" The future can affect the world's trend, is the competition between individuals. Can we dominate the world stage and forge core competencies beyond others? The only thing you rely on is professional. "Are you a first-class business person or a general office worker?" The difference is right here! Give yourself a professional positioning, establish their own brand image, will be your future career development to add more valuable chips. We have encountered 5 years of job-hopping 13 times, contact more than 10 industry customers. If you do that, there is no professionalism to speak of.

Of course, in order to support your "professional" brand image, you also need to make efforts in the following two areas:

The first is the question of the structure of knowledge that we have mentioned earlier, to be divorced from the specific operational aspects, to put your eyes on the problem higher and farther, to become a person with "foresight" rather than "sighted". You want to be the best people in this industry, and with them as the goal, as the example of their cultivation and growth, step-by-step to make up for the gap between excellence. At this time, on-the-job learning, study, training and so on need to put on the agenda, learn to enrich their minds with new knowledge.

The second aspect is to establish their influence in the industry. Every industry's talents, have their own circle of aggregation. such as the Harvard Business Review Network, professional Managers network, salesman network and so on, are the relevant talent gathering place. Why do some people go out and tell one lesson is tens of thousands of? Why are some people able to use their own power to promote the development of an industry? The reason is that they have too much influence. If you want to be a good professional, you have to be like the best people, set up the influence in this industry, and use your thoughts to influence others. We met a very good guy last year and we are impressed. He is a printing professional college students, after graduation to the printing factory to do sales. Perhaps in some people's view, this profession, this position does not have any special place. But it is such a position that does not seem to have any gold content, but he is in his own unique way to build his own influence. He set himself a requirement: write an article every month, published in the most influential magazine in the industry. Of course, not every article can achieve the quality of the publication, but every month must ensure that the quality of writing one. The advantage of this is that the first is to establish your influence in this industry, and secondly, to form your own knowledge structure. We have mentioned the question of the structure of knowledge, which needs to be emphasized here. You get the knowledge through learning, training and other ways, and ultimately others, not your own. To form your own knowledge structure, you need to apply these inward-absorbing knowledge to your work practices. In the process of practice, the same theory of knowledge, in different situations, each person's feelings and experience is not the same. You write the process of the article, that is, your own in the practice of sentiment and experience to summarize and reflect on the process. The knowledge structure formed in this process can truly be called "your own" knowledge.

The second thing is to develop yourself into a good manager (this is the middle manager and your first management goal). In addition to those who are passionate about technology, if you want to get more space in the workplace, the job promotion is essential. Some people will say that I do not want to be a leader, I just want to do my own job, I am satisfied. To those who have this idea, I can only say that I am sorry, this is not your choice. The reason is simple: when you are 25 years old, you can be a basic employee; When you are 30 years old, you can be a basic employee, but when you reach the age of 35, you're not too realistic to be a basic employee. We have mentioned the "35-year-old phenomenon" earlier. If a person who is 35 years old, his ability is confined to the basic position, then, such people are basically worthless (of course, the backward state-owned enterprises and institutions, except). So, whether you like it or not, you have to take the job promotion as an important goal on your career path and work on it.

Stepping on a managerial position is a key step in your career growth. After the development of space, and this promotion is inseparable. But this seat is not everyone can sit steady. Gallup once conducted a survey that found that basic employees often quit frequently, often not in the company, but in their bosses, the company's middle managers. In our career planning consulting experience, also often encountered the problem: because of the middle management of the poor, and the development and growth of the subordinate staff has caused a very negative impact, resulting in their professional development, whether in professional ability, or in professional training, can not be effective growth.

Here we do not discuss the "middle-level crisis" for the development of the company how important such a macro topic, simply from small, you have to realize: your management, will likely change the life of your subordinates, is your wrong way of management unknowingly hurt your subordinates, forcing them to leave the company. Managers in the recruitment of staff, for frequent job-hopping people are hated. But as a bystander, what I have to say is: When you are complaining about the infidelity and low quality of job seekers, have you considered establishing a virtuous talent growth mechanism so that everyone can grow? Are you complaining about the shortage of talent, and have you considered how to train people seriously? Many enterprises will say that we cultivate, but can not stay, in the end are for others to do the wedding clothes, this is a loss of the matter, so for talent training is not so enthusiastic. But here's the problem: why can't you keep people? If every company does not cultivate talent, all want to eat "ready-made", then, the final result will be: all enterprises, will face the situation of no one available!

When your growth is hindered by your boss, it is your misfortune, you can choose to "vote with your feet", and when you become a manager one day, we do not want this misfortune to continue to pass. Only in this way, talent training can enter the positive cycle, so that everyone can find their place in the workplace. This is a lot of difficulties, but I hope that the ideal person can continue to work hard, slowly change all this.

The third thing, is to find a growing company, in a relatively long period of time, accompanied by its growth. In the process of growing up, looking for a company with growth potential and development space, and with the company grow together, is a very important thing. One is you can see a company from small to large, from weak to strong growth process, for the company's operations will also have a deeper understanding, you can also understand your role in the company's growth position and role. Second, in the process of growth of the company, your value will have more room to play, it will be easier to show out. Many people tend to look for big companies when they are looking for a job, which is understandable, but it is a better choice to grow quickly and look for companies that are not too big to grow. Because in the process of growth, the need for talent is more urgent, your position will be promoted faster. Third, your loyalty will bring more rewards for your development. One of the most important things about a company is loyalty. No company likes fickle employees. Especially now the job-hopping rate, wastage rate in many enterprises stubbornly high situation, loyalty becomes a very valuable professional spirit.

Whether you have now "Ben three", or is "Ben three" on the road, please always warn yourself: do not waste the good times, seize all the time to seize, for their life-like lives accumulate some thickness. When you grow old, looking back on your life, do you want to be a happy life, or a life of regret and chagrin?

Finally, borrow my favorite jobs quotes as the end of this article. "People can't do too many things in their lifetime, so every piece has to be wonderful." Your time is limited, so don't live for others. Don't be constrained by dogma, don't live in the minds of others. Don't let other people's opinions about your inner voice. The most important thing is to be brave enough to follow your own heart and intuition, only your own mind and intuition know your own true thoughts, everything else is secondary. ”

From 30 years to 35 years: accumulate some thickness for your life