How could life be simply summed up by losing and winning?

My daughter first studied at a local public elementary school, and then at an international school in Beijing. On one occasion, I asked her at the table what was the difference between the two schools, and she thought, "at the local school, the teacher always lets us not make mistakes; at international schools, teachers encourage us not to be afraid of making mistakes." ”

The psychological effects of the differences between the two modes of education are obvious to children. In October 2015, in the reality TV show, the strongest brain, a 12-year-old Chinese boy competed with an Italian boy of his age to see who could remember the order of 102 grooms and brides in the shortest time possible and then reset them by employing a couple. According to the rules of the game, the Italian boys first reported their own sort, the result is completely correct. At the same time, the Chinese boy began to weep, and then Howl, the host Shangchangjian asked him why he cried, he was annoyed to cry: "I remember right, but the wrong line!" "He was so sad that he almost collapsed in the chair. In the parents and the scene guest's all kinds of encouragement, he finally summon up courage, with bluesy voice to quote his sort, the result is completely correct! He even became the ultimate winner because of his short time.

At this time, the host found that the Italian boy was also crying, asked him with concern. The Italian boy replied: "I see him cry so sad, also feel very sad." "It turned out that he was crying because he sympathized with the Chinese boys!" Two children are the true feelings, as the audience I do not feel: "Chinese children's pressure is too big to lose!" ”

Among the people I interviewed, Elon Musk, inventor of Tesla electric vehicles, once said, "Who likes to fail?" Failure is terrible. But if there is no risk, it means you are doing something ordinary! Failure is also an option. If you have not failed, it means that you are not creative spirit. ”

In 1995, Musk founded the software company with more than $10,000 in his own and his brothers. To save money, he put his office and apartment in the same room, and slept in the office couch at night. At the age of 31, he successfully sold a company to Compaq and sold another company to ebay, earning $20 million! His choice is not to live a comfortable life from now on, but to put all the money into the new company and start again. The failure rate of electric vehicles and launch vehicles was high during the experiment, and the mood of Musk also fluctuated, even before a Christmas Day on Sunday night, nearly collapsed! Almost miraculously, the next morning, he received a call from NASA and gave him an order of $1.4 billion. He was so excited that he said loudly to the man who called, "I love you!" ”

The belief that he can keep facing risks and failures is this: "I hope one day, when I look back, I can say, I have a good influence on the world!" "This phrase in the" All-round entrepreneurship, innovation, "the upsurge, can bring a person to inspire and alert. Anyone who founded the business, 95% failed, "I can afford to lose" is the entrepreneur should ask their own questions.

Once upon a while, we used "winners" or "losers" to judge others and judge ourselves. But are losers qualified to claim respect? In 1865, the American Civil War Southern Union commander General Robert E. Lee, in the case of ammunition, to the Northern Federal Army commander Grant General surrender, thus ending the civil war. Before that, due to his excellent military ability, the South Army in the Bull Creek Battle and other beat, set a remarkable record. He himself was not a defender of slavery, and he had said that if 4 million of the slaves in the United States were owned by him, he would gladly give them freedom in order to avoid war. In 1862 he freed all the slaves in the family and allowed them to cross the line to join the northern Army. He is fighting for his hometown. But when he saw that his soldiers could only eat wild vegetables and rotten potatoes, he realized that the continued bloodshed would only lead to senseless sacrifices, and ordered the white flag to be lifted. He said to his men, "I may have to become Grant's prisoner, and I think I must make my instrument as good as possible." ”

At the time of the signing of the surrender agreement, he suggested that defeated could not be humiliated and asked Grant to allow his soldiers to keep their horses, because without horses, it was difficult for them to harvest the next crop. Grant was well aware of General Lee's prestige in the southern army and decided to give his opponent a decent treat. Later he said he would rather resign from the commander-in-chief than arrest General Lee and bring him to court for trial.

In the final years of his life, General Lee was devoted to education and was laid to sleep in the Church of Washington College in 1870. The civil war killed hundreds of thousands of people, but after the war, the decision of President Lincoln and General Grant made the country unified. What would have happened if they had decided to liquidate the crimes of all those involved in the war in the South?

People often see only the facts they are willing to see, like to focus on the success of certain people and to be deified, and not too concerned with many of their failed experiences.

In October 2015, I interviewed Michael Jordan, a player known as the "flying Trapeze". He has miraculously led the Chicago Bulls to win 6 NBA championships, led the U.S. team to win two Olympic Games, he himself won 5 times the "Most Valuable Player", 6 times Finals "Most Valuable Player" title. His legendary experience, along with his tongue-in-the-dunk action, was a delight to fans who called him "the god of the 23rd shirt." His name became the most successful personal sports brand, and after acquiring the Bobcats (now known as the Hornets) he became the largest shareholder in the history of the first professional player, earning more than the sum of his years as a professional player. But he said: "I have at least 9,000 pitches, I have lost no more than 300 games, 26 times people expect me to win a goal when I made a mistake." In my life I failed one after another, and that's why I was able to succeed. I have never been afraid of failure, I can accept defeat, but I can't accept not to try. ”

In the interview, he recalled the pain that the injury had brought to his body: he stretched his hands, and I could see clearly the deformed joints of his right hand; he had left the NBA to play baseball in order to circle his childhood dreams, and was booed on the pitch, letting him know that he was not omnipotent, but would not be annoyed by the attempt. The mental anguish of his father's being shot was even more memorable, after which he led the team to win the NBA Championship of the season, and after the championship he wept bitterly over the floor of the lounge, and the confusion and struggle that the Washington Wizards were questioned and kicked out ... In the face of all this, his magic weapon is the parents from childhood education his sentence: "Who will encounter bad things, your task is to find ways to turn bad things into good." ”

Life is so rich, how to lose and win a simple summary? In addition to the winners and losers, can't we be a player and experience the thrill of challenging ourselves in the pursuit of dreams? What if it succeeds?

How could life be simply summed up by losing and winning?