How do you know the joy of fish?

There is a story in Chuang Tzu, with the intention of saying: Chuang Tzu and Hui Zi, a good friend, enjoyed the river scenery on the bridge of ShuShui and saw the fish in the river play freely. Chuang Tzu sighed and said: "The fish swim freely. This is the joy of the fish." Hui Zi retorted: "You are not a fish. How do you know they are happy ?" Chuang Tzu asked: "You are not me. why do you know that I don't know the happiness of fish ?" Hui zi said: "I am not you, so I don't know you; you are not a fish, so you don't know fish. Do you still use it ?" Chuang Tzu was very smart and said, "Let's discuss the problem at the beginning. If you ask me how to know the happiness of a fish, it means that you already know that I know the happiness of a fish, so you ask me how to know it '. I know it on the bridge ."

 

Fish swim in the water, fast and unhappy, people do not know, Chuang Tzu said that the fish are happy, just their own feelings, the so-called "wind and the moon have no ancient and modern, feelings from a deep. Some people see the lack of flowers, tears; Su Dongpo "only fear the night flowers to sleep", waiting for the candle, is actually a personal feelings.

 

The joy of watching fish is like this. It's like watching things, watching mountains and rivers, and waiting for things. This mistake is called "first-in-first-out, it refers to judging others' thoughts, behaviors, and activities based on their own experiences, knowledge, feelings, thoughts, and opinions. This mistake is the most common mistake in people's lives. Unfortunately, it is not noticed by many people.

 

People with similar interests and experiences can easily talk about them. People you like can easily see their advantages, or even attract others. People of different types are not very close to each other, A person you dislike may have rejection, or even devalue his advantages and exaggerate his shortcomings.

 

All people know the story of "wisdom, son, suspect, and neighbor". Once upon a time, a man lost an ax and suspected that he had been stolen by a neighbor's child. So he secretly watched the child's action, regardless of the verbal actions and manners, they all look like an ax. After several days, he found the lost ax in the back hill ,. Later, he went to see the kid again. He didn't look like he was stealing an ax.

 

In the story, people use their own psychology to measure others and identify their children as thieves. Therefore, the more they look at them, the less they think of them as thieves. In fact, a child does not look like a thief, but is totally influenced by his mind.

 

We also found that the other principle of preemptible is that we often impose good or evil on others based on the criteria of determining whether a person is a good or evil and ignore the feelings of others.

 

I remember seeing this story when I was a child: I had a military officer who had never liked pork at all. I felt that eating Big pork was the most painful thing in my life. One time, he found two soldiers in a fight. The military officer was angry and wanted to punish him. Finally, he came up with a wonderful solution. He made two bowls of braised pork in the kitchen, let the two fighting soldiers finish eating in front of him, and say that if they are committing crimes, they will let them eat larger pieces of pork, which makes all the people inexplicable.

 

This is a typical person who handles things with their own likes and dislikes. Starting from his preferences, he does not understand the feelings of others. When we laughed, we looked at ourselves. Maybe we were just as arrogant as this military officer and did some stupid things.

 

In our daily life, observing people's behaviors is a common mistake! However, people have subjective initiative, and the way they do things is the reproduction of a person's thoughts, judging others' thoughts based on personal experience, understanding, feelings, and thoughts is the basic way for us to deal with things! Obviously, errors are inevitable. Judgment is closely related to the quality of the judges.We should look at things with appreciation, so that they are not simple, rude, subjective, and fair. Only by taking advantage of the power of the family can we avoid making mistakes.

 

Remember Huizi's words:How do you know the joy of fish?.