How to spend the interpersonal relationship duration [posting]

There will be many changes in a person's life. From the school to the Unit, from the place to the place, from the old environment to the new environment, everyone has to go through this experience. Every time this change happens, you are faced with a strange space for communication. to get involved in a new social circle, you need to reconstruct a good interpersonal relationship. This period of time is the combination of interpersonal relationships. During this period, if you are not doing well, it will be incompatible with the new environment. If you are doing well, you will soon be integrated into it. How can we effectively cope with the break-down period of interpersonal relationships?
1. straighten out your new location. Each person has a corresponding position in communication. This is a reflection of the rules of communication and also a requirement of social norms. If you cannot properly adjust your communication position, it will inevitably appear abrupt, rash, and uneconomical in the social sphere. It will also be blamed, resentful, resistant, mocking, and cracked down by social groups. As the communication relationships are complex and changeable, it is difficult for them to gain a glimpse at each other and grasp them correctly. It is not easy to adjust your position in the social sphere. Therefore, in the face of the new environment and new friends, the first step is to have a good understanding of yourself, evaluate yourself, determine the face and tone of communication, and enter a new role. A key middle school tries to implement the principal responsibility system. With the support of its superiors, it allocates three backbone teachers from general middle schools to enrich their teachers. When these three teachers arrived at the new unit, they all had the following confusion: the new unit is a key school and maintains the posture of a backbone teacher? Still show the courtesy of the transferred teachers? The proportion is hard to grasp. As a result, the new colleagues laughed at Mr. Huang's "not sure what the sky is. Instructor bundle has changed his old arrogant character, treats others with only promise, and is modest and respectful. As a result, not only do people look down on him, but others doubt his ability. Only instructor Zhang has an insight into the communication environment, and is amazed. He constantly adjusts his communication position. He not only quickly entered a new role, but also quickly won the respect of others. Correcting your new position is a profound process, and not everyone can succeed. Communication Awareness and good psychological literacy are required. Maintaining a normal mind often plays a prominent role in adjusting your position.
2. Adopt a calm and simple posture. The cooperation period is a process in which both parties gradually become familiar with, adapt to, agree with, and accept each other. There are many differences between people, and there are always such contradictions and conflicts. As a new face, when you enter a strange field of communication, you have no scrubs at the beginning, and you cannot work with others. This seems to be a common phenomenon for extrovert and young people and also a problem to be overcome. It is appropriate to adopt a calm and simple form of communication, which helps you to break into the new environment. This is a static approach. In your self-reservation and restraint, you will make a thorough and in-depth observation and grasp of the new communication environment, in this way, we can effectively adapt to and blend with the new environment. On the surface, this is a negative method. It is actually a strategy and a more active and effective technique. The key Middle School held a "welcome meeting" for the three teachers who were transferred in. The atmosphere was very warm. The teachers in this school are very good in quality, singing, playing, and rap. Enthusiastic teachers, of course, will not be cold to new teachers. They will be asked to "come ". Miss Huang couldn't sit down, started a musical instrument, lit his throat, and put on his hand. He took out his house watching skills with a real knife and showed his brilliant nature at a glance. In this atmosphere, Mr. Zhang enjoyed others' performances and began to recite the poems slowly with repeated encouragement. Then, I just read four sentences in "spring evening Joy rain, the curtain is opened, and I don't want to turn ugly. Instructor Zhang's practice is just right. He gives a feeling of "Don't shake the whole altar." Everyone has a crush on him.
3. Maintain proper distance. Interpersonal closeness is usually manifested in interpersonal distance. The relationship between the two parties is close and close to each other. The relationship between the two parties is light and the distance between them is far away. New colleagues and new friends are not familiar with and understand each other. The relationship is just formed, and the distance is naturally large. If you are close to people, it violates the rules of communication. Not only will the other party make a friendly expression, but it will also generate resentment. This counterproductive effect puts you in a passive position. Keep a proper distance to give the other party the opportunity to observe you calmly. You will gradually familiarize yourself with and understand your thoughts and feelings. Your relationship is getting closer, and the distance between them will be hidden. Keep a proper distance, stay within the scope agreed by the other party, and effectively promote mutual attraction between the two parties. When she arrived at the new school, she wanted to establish a close interpersonal relationship. She said that every faculty member made an intimate expression. Sometimes he pretended to be very casual, and he took it from a strange teacher's house, and turned himself into a very annoying role. Miss Huang is the opposite of Miss shu. He is opposite to anyone and rejects others thousands of miles away. It is natural that Mr. Zhang is doing his best to control his enthusiasm to a certain extent and keep the distance between people at a certain level.
4. Effectively implement role conversion. Changing the living space will change the social role of people. If your mind cannot be adjusted and your behavior cannot be corrected again, you will not be able to adapt to the new environment, and you may encounter many misunderstandings and criticisms from others, you will inevitably become a person out of harmony with the new environment. People are active, and the environment is not subject to human will. People should take the initiative to adapt to the new environment, and there is no reason to ask the new environment to accommodate your individual. Therefore, role conversion should be an automatic action, and efforts should be made in particular in the word "valid" to achieve proper and timely conversion of roles, turn yourself into new members in the new environment in a timely and reliable manner. Mr. Zhang is a Chinese teacher. In normal middle school, he is in high school every year. When he arrives at a key middle school, the situation is different. There are a lot of outstanding teachers here, and there is naturally no copy of Miss Zhang in the third year of high school. Even if you have the capabilities, others will have a process of understanding. So Mr. Zhang thought very well. Unlike Mr. Huang, he had to fight for a higher level. His reasonable practice is based on the re-evaluation of his own value and role correction. As a result, he once again won the favor of others. Mr Huang's indecisive actions have led to misunderstandings between leaders and colleagues.
5. Focus on making the first impression. It is important to build an image when interpersonal relationships work together. When others are impressed with you, they will treat you with appreciation and affirmation, and you will be more likely to be consistent with the other party. Otherwise, the other party will examine you with a picky and negative view, and you and the other party will inevitably be confused and rubbed. When creating a self-image, the key is to create a good first impression, which can bring an ideal initial effect. People will keep a good understanding of you because they initially accept you. When Mr. Zhang arrived at the new school, he was very wise to do two things: one was to accept the "welcome meeting" without revealing the good news, and the other was to step back with a high attitude. This gives new colleagues a good first impression. After that, of course, there will inevitably be errors and mistakes, but no one will "stare at them" and have always liked him. Another example: the young pony is violent, full of complaints, and often speak in a foul manner. As a result, the relationship between the company is in crisis and cannot be mixed up, so they have to find another way out. At the new unit, he made up his mind to make a good relationship. On the first day of work, he was so busy, meticulous and thoughtful. New colleagues think this is a very honest and diligent young man. Unfortunately, the Unit caught fire. The pony grabbed the valuables and rescued two women. The pony immediately gave a good impression like a hero. In the eyes of people who appreciate and are friendly, pony gradually overcomes some shortcomings and occasionally makes mistakes. Everyone understands them, and even some people share the same view of their advantages.
6. Cultivate the charm of communication. The highest level of communication is the mutual adsorption between people. Of course, we need to find a solution in this regard to seek a break-in path. A person is attractive to others in communication. This is a complex with rich content. It includes the image, knowledge, morality, ability, language, humor, and other multi-level content. A person full of social charm, others will take the initiative to get close to him, accept him, adapt to him, interpersonal differences and contradictions will be effectively eliminated, interpersonal relationship break-in will become a natural trend. Therefore, in the face of the new environment and new friends, the main thing is to cultivate their own unique charm of communication, create a favorable communication environment for themselves, and bring them an ideal communication position. At first, the communication between Mr. Huang and Mr. Shu was not very good. Due to insufficient preparation and improper regulation and control, the new school has not effectively opened up the situation, and many faculty members have misunderstandings about them. However, they are "backbone teachers" and are quite unique in some aspects. For example, teacher Shu's calligraphy is an amazing way to use his spare time to present his calligraphy skills to everyone. This adds a lot of social media to the teacher. Another example is that Mr. Huang is a joke. Don't look at his usual high-spirited look, but when he is in a group of three people and five people, a few words will make people laugh. Unconsciously, everyone forgot his arrogance and gradually liked him. Today, both instructor Shu and Mr. Huang are working in the same way as Mr. Zhang and become popular teachers in the new school. Recently, Mr. Zhang was promoted to the vice president because of his strong relationship with the masses and strong business ability. He became a highly trustworthy and respectful person.