In life, how to learn to lay down

I have been thinking lately, what is happiness? Happiness is a kind of mentality, only to put down the unhappy once, will live freely. Now people are in the structure of reinforced concrete, gradually accelerating the pace of life, people feel stressed too much. Constant pursuit, yearning, and request to make our lives all the way to doubly difficult. When we are troubled by worry, not too much worry, but we have been accustomed to the heart of the deep, all kinds of desires and negative burden back on the body, but do not know. In life, we lack a pair of perception of the eyes, the appropriate choice to put down, in a relaxed and happy to gradually move towards the road of happiness.


There is a small Buddhist story that says, a Zen master waits for a boat by the river. Then the man on the boat was full, and was rowing across the shore. A man standing next to the Zen master asked, "Master, how many people are there on this ship?" The master, who looked at the question, replied, "Two people." The man then retorted: "Master, you are wrong, obviously a ship, you say only two people ah?" "The master replied," There are two of people, a bustling name, a bustling for the benefit. "This story reminds us too much, life often in order to fame neglect the beautiful life, indulge in it forget to appreciate the roadside scenery."

In life, we must first learn to choose, whether in life or other environment, we should first learn is to give up. Each of us has had this or that desire. Modern life is full of all kinds of temptation, do not want to miss a business to make money opportunities, scholarship to let everyone to his recognition. Anyone has ever dreamed that one day he will be a successful homecoming. "Fish, I want also, Bear Paw also I want also." The two can not have both, the fish and take the bear's paw. "However, in real life, and the opportunity is not small, we often can only choose one." Goethe said a word: "The whole mystery of life is to live and give up survival." ”

On the way of life we are in trials and tribulations, the chance of a turnaround is always ahead. For the opportunities and challenges in life, each of us has to make a choice, to abandon or to compete? Abandon also need a high degree of wisdom, to the situation of analysis, to have when broken is the courage. If you choose to compete, that is the shot when the shot, since the decision to do not hesitate, this is life, always gains, "lost roundabouts, received east." ”。 No one's life will be smooth sailing, there will be unsatisfactory time. We choose to lay down when we are in a bad mood, and it is not an extreme contempt for those who ignore us. Life must have the spirit of Tai Chi, soft in the belt just, just in the soft, Fang is a benevolent.

It is a pain to let go of the mind, even for years of persistent pursuit. However, if not put down, blindly persistent at the same time, the new opportunities will also sneak away. There are only two hands, and when you have two hand full of things, what can you catch? Buddhist scriptures often say: "Willing, willing, have to get." "To get and lose, to pursue and to give up in life is an ordinary thing, we should look at these problems with a common heart."

We cannot comment on the loss or failure of others, which, in our opinion, may be lost in his opinion. A person in the pain of learning to be happy is really happy, remember Chow Yun said: "Life is not good ten often eight or nine, why we stare at the eight or nine look, and not to enjoy the one or two?" "Life, if you give too much of the wind, you will not have the courage to resist the bumpy." When you meet setbacks, you are likely to be down. Say: "Give you too much sugar, you will not taste the taste of sweet." "A man who has suffered too much will not be deplored even if he loses." On the contrary, the small harvest will make him very happy.

A person can withstand the dull, withstand the blow, in giving him the opportunity, he will grasp more firmly. "Mencius," said: "So the day will be down to the great people also, will first bitter his mind, labor its bones, hungry its body skin, empty its body, the line to whisk its forces, so tempted to endure sex, gain it can not." The person is constant, then can change, is trapped in the heart, the consideration, then makes, the levy in the color, sends in the table, then the metaphor. ”

Each of us has to face the crossroads of life, although the road ahead will not be perfect. The pain and joy in life make our life appear gorgeous, unpredictable in life is so unpredictable. We need to grasp ourselves from the microscopic, and control ourselves between the gains and losses need not be preoccupied. The past has not been able to recover, the only thing to do is to accept the reality, with a courageous attitude, optimistic to face the future. Every one of us often pay attention to get and lose, but do not think everything will gains, this is the nature of the cycle of law. Forget about the present, forget that everyone's life is composed of countless present, we neglect the most is the moment, this can be controlled by our time.

In a person's life, sometimes a step back is a brighter day. In the narrow sense, there is a saying that says: "Hades, the devil is difficult." "In fact it is so, the more people have the identity of the more self-cultivation, and such people are often very good to get along with, even if there are contradictions are easy to dissolve." Conversely, those who bully, try to suppress others, to show that their existence is necessary, but to show the ignorance of thinking and the incompetence of action. A true strong, there will be enough wisdom, understanding in the conduct of the world and for your. The strong, want is high level of self-esteem. Qing Dynasty a generation of Zhangtingyu home, a neighbor because of the house, to occupy a wall of the land, two disputes. Cho edits want to Zhang intervene this matter, Zhang adults read the letter, immediately get books back a: "Thousands of miles letters only for the wall, and then let three feet?" The Great Wall is now in the same year, not the Qin Shihuang. Mrs. Zhang saw the letter, immediately took the initiative to retreat three feet, the neighbors deeply ashamed, also let three feet, formed six feet wide roadway, this is the famous "six-foot alley" history.

The things of the world, always have a long short, there is black white, there is a lack of circle, in this elimination of the leading in the long. Sometimes when you stick to your own interests, you lose more opportunities than you can see. Everything can endure from the harmony, let him step and how? In the world, we are the audience of the theatre. However, in the eyes of others, we are not the protagonist of the stage? Sometimes the retreat is not a simple step, the retreat is to watch the respect of people, back is the respect of the opponent. Then who is the last victor?

Buddha said: "Put down, to release." "What bothers us in life is our heart, not the surrounding environment. If we can treat everything in our life in a normal state of mind, we will not have so many distractions. How can we remove distractions? Intentions to think about what is behind the essence of the mind, figured out the thought thoroughly, the heart will keep a quiet. Also let the distractions have no breeding place, this is the "put down" realm.

In this world, simple two words can summarize all phenomena, that is, "reincarnation", people always sigh "Sunset infinity Good, just near dusk." But how can you see the dawn if there is no sunset? Who can say clearly "human nature is good" or "human nature is evil"? Human nature is fickle, but also very complex, it can be a trickle, can also be a scourge. It can be eerie, brutal, or warm and serene. In life, we want to enjoy life, we must learn to lay down. Wouldn't it be too tiring to take the past to heart?

Perhaps someone will say, who will really put down? The world has too many temptations and the last resort, fame, Lilu, love, career these things are said to put down can be put down? Yes, people want to live in life, they must be contaminated with these things. But I said put down, is the mentality of the down. Many people in life are very difficult, because the pressure of life makes you breathless. At this time, the spiritual appropriate relaxation, is a way of liberation. If one's life can be in the "I am lucky, not my life." Only ask the cultivation, do not ask harvest. "Spending is the right channel to put down."

In fact, the more simple life, the more easily feel the happiness. This truth is not everyone understand, the real life of people in life has a certain pressure, blindly pursuit of material, long-suffering. If you want to achieve a relaxed mind, you have to know what to do with your destiny and not be forced to. Be complacent when you want to be indifferent, frustrated time to be calm. When dealing with things must be chongrubujing, whether complacent or frustrated is a test of heaven for us. Change our heart to look at the world with different eyes, perhaps happiness is in your side.

In life, how to learn to lay down