Step Hygienic Handrub Three: responsible for oneself, grasp own destiny
One of the students asked me, "is the world fair or not?" "This issue has aroused a big discussion on the" open-and-re-student network ". Some students think that the world is fair, a person who has the ambition will be able to overcome all obstacles, and some students think that the world-class is unfair, because whether it is wealth, talent or luck, God seems to always favor others.
In this, my answer is: Everything depends on fate (fatalism) and everything on their own (symbolises yet) is not appropriate.
Every person has a choice, there is a chance, but the innate and environmental factors cause each person's chances to vary somewhat. So, this world is not completely fair. But if you give up your chance and choice because the world is unfair, it is your own responsibility, you can not blame the world is not fair.
Give me a metaphor. Some people are born because of genetic reasons, may at some time have a more serious disease. But that doesn't mean he's going to get sick. If he can seize the opportunity, make the right choice, arrange his own exercise and diet, he is likely to be healthier than anyone else, but if he is because of ' gene bad ' to abandon himself, then the chance of his illness will almost certainly increase exponentially.
So, all things have to be clear, what is oneself cannot change and must accept, what is oneself can choose, what is oneself must bravely challenge. When you meet an immutable thing, accept it bravely, and don't waste your time on remorse, envy, and jealousy. What you should do is to proactively seize the parts of your destiny that you can choose, change, and maximize your influence.
And, even in the hardest times, you always have a choice when you feel that fate has left you. As Frank said: "In any extreme environment, people will always have a final freedom, that is, the freedom to choose their own attitude." ”
The meaning of "proactive" is not limited to taking the initiative to decide and pushing things forward, but also means that people must be responsible for themselves. A sense of responsibility is an important concept, and a proactive person does not attribute his actions to the environment or to others. They always make conscious and responsible decisions based on their own principles or values, rather than succumbing to the pressures of the outside world.
Those who are responsible for themselves will face up to life bravely. Let's not put aside uncertain or difficult things. For example, some students think that English is important, but when the school does not test, they do not learn English, or, some students feel that they need to participate in the community to exercise communication skills, but because shyness is not actively enrolled. In this, we must realize that not to solve is also a solution, not to make decisions is a decision, negative solutions and decisions will make the opportunity in front of you lost, you will someday pay a heavy price.
A classmate asked me: "When unsure, how to be responsible?" "In fact, even if you're not sure what you want, you should at least know what you don't need, and even if you can't actively fight for what you want, you should at least actively avoid the last thing you want."
If you want to be a proactive, self-responsible person, I suggest that you act immediately and follow the following strict requirements: to listen to yourself and the language of the people around you for a full day, to see if there are words like "hope", "I Can't" or "I have to".
Based on past experience, would you imagine if you would encounter some sort of retreat in the near future? Is this situation within your own sphere of influence? How should you respond to the principle of being proactive? Please do one by one simulations in your mind.
Find something that makes you feel frustrated from work or everyday life. Think about what kind of thing it belongs to, whether it can be controlled directly, or something that can be controlled indirectly, or something that cannot be controlled at all. Then find a solution and put it into action within your own sphere of influence.
Exercise your self-motivated consciousness. Within the next 30 days, focus on what you have in your sphere of influence, make a promise to yourself, and be a candle to others, rather than judge right and wrong, lead by example, do not criticize, solve problems, do not create problems, do not blame others or whitewash for yourself, don't blame the heavens, not the people. Under the shadow of a colleague or society, take advantage of the independent will of talent and be responsible for his actions and happiness. Try a proactive 30-day training method and see if the scope of your own influence has changed after training?
Step Hygienic Handrub Four: Positive try, encounter opportunity
In the communication with students, I found that some students lost their courage to struggle because of some setbacks. For example, some students regret going to college because of the continuation of exam-oriented education in universities, some students wasted their time because they were not suitable for their majors, and some students were discouraged when they encountered various academic problems during graduate school. Do not know whether people have thought, these are can face the setback, they all need you to have a positive attitude. Life is everywhere is an opportunity, many opportunities are hidden in one setback, if you are discouraged in the face of setbacks, you are likely to pass with their own opportunities.
A positive attempt is the best way to learn. In a state-of-the-art company, you don't have to worry about failure. In a survey of the chief executive of an American company, it was found that the people they admired most were those who volunteered to do a new job. Whether or not they can do well, at least these employees are more appreciative than those who will only passively accept the job because they are courageous, motivated, and learn from it.
For young people who are choosing their way of life, they should be more active in trying different things. In the United States, parents often say: "You have not tried, how to know that you do not like it?" "So, I suggest you make the most of your time, try to do something different and find the way to success." Only in this way can we meet more opportunities on our way to life.
My active habit began at the age of five. I remember when I was five years old, I thought the kindergarten curriculum was too simple, so I took the initiative to say to my parents: "I want to skip primary school." "My parents suggested that I read the book in a methodical way, and then go to primary school when I have enough capacity." In order to learn more knowledge, I boldly put forward: "Let me try it, OK?" If my ability is not enough, I can not pass the primary school entrance examination, but if I pass the exam, it shows that I have such ability, then you should let me go to primary school. "The parents readily agreed to come down. So I studied hard, and finally scored a high score into the private primary school. After more than 30 years, when my mother took me to see "Put the list", see "Kai-Fu Lee" in the top of the three words in the excitement, today I want to still vividly. It made me understand that I had the chance to succeed in my expectation as long as I was bold and aggressive. This also for my future self-confidence and positive laid a solid foundation.
Another example comes from my young friend Guo to disease. His study of life is: every door of opportunity, there is a gatekeeper. The opportunity to harvest the first step, is to actively and persistently to find the gatekeeper. When he graduated from China University of Science and Technology in 1999, he received a number of admission notices from top universities in the United States, but no scholarships. So he started writing letters to professors at these universities, hoping that they would accept me as a research assistant to fund them. One months, he wrote 200 letters, although a lot of professors interested, but because he studied the lack of experience and refused. He also tried to write to Hkust's overseas alumni, hoping to get a referral and no results. One night, in the face of a computer in a letter of rejection, he alone in the dark laboratory in tears. But the next day he woke up and decided to go on knocking at the door of opportunity. A few days later, he received a reply from a professor at the University of Illinois, who gladly agreed to fund it. The professor said that when he went to the department to ask for the material of Guo disease, he found that the department was preparing to Guo Yan rejection letter. Guo went to the disease finally said: "My ' knock on the journey ' continues, most of the time, have no work and return." However, it does not mean futile, because one time, the door of opportunity was knocked open by me. One step at a time, I was able to work at Microsoft headquarters, go to Stanford for an MBA, and work for McKinsey to Amazon and Google. "
Americans like to try different jobs, with an average of four jobs in their lives. Under the influence of the long-term planned economy, more Chinese people are unwilling to change jobs, and more inclined to do one thing for life. In fact, the significance of changing jobs is that the decision you make is not necessarily your lifelong decision, you still have the opportunity to try more things, only in order to really find their own interests, to maximize their potential.
Therefore, do not because of the temporary do not understand their own strengths and hesitates, and actively action! You will find your talents and talents. Everyone should cherish every attempt, because the opportunity is often not copied. Always be prepared to avoid the opportunity to miss the opportunity, but also learn from every opportunity to learn from the lost. In addition, you can fully develop your potential only if you dare to challenge yourself. I suggest that we often set ourselves some very challenging, but not far-fetched, goals.
Step Hygienic Handrub Five: Fully prepare and seize the opportunity
Don't wait for the opportunity to come to the door because it is a negative approach. "There are two ways to wait, one is to do nothing, and the other is to push things forward," says Turgenev. In other words, when the opportunity has not come, should be all intentions, everything to try.
If you are blocked by suffering or setbacks, we should learn to turn setbacks into power, and not to hide in the dark corner of the trouble to complain, not to hesitate to act immediately. Life cannot be spent in such a negative way. We will face ourselves one day and be responsible for our own lives. Therefore, we must be fully prepared at ordinary times, to grasp enough information, in order to make the best choice when necessary, to seize the fleeting opportunity.
Once the opportunity comes, be sure to go all out and seize the opportunity.
When I was studying for my doctorate, through my own efforts (and the help of my classmates Wuen hon), the recognition rate of the speech recognition system was increased from 40% to 80%, and the academic community gave me a full affirmation of my work. At that time, some teachers think that as long as the results of the existing processing, write good papers, within a few months I can get a doctorate.
However, I am well aware that the success of the first step offers me only an opportunity, not an answer, because the 80% recognition rate is by no means the last best result, because the method I use is only the tip of the iceberg. Moreover, I have published my research in public, every research institution will learn and use my method, so if I relax at this time, do not do experiments, and bury my thesis in order to graduate as soon as possible, other schools or companies will soon surpass me.
Therefore, I not only did not relax, but more time to study the research, and even postponed my thesis defense time. At that time, I worked seven days a week and worked 16 hours a day. These efforts have not been wasted, and they have made my speech recognition system a more hundred-foot pole, with the recognition rate increased from 80% to 96%. After my graduation, the system has been the winner of the All-American speech recognition system for many years. If I had stopped at the level of 80%, and casually graduated, then Business Week's "1988 most important Science and technology Innovation Award" would surely have been taken away by others.
So, when you know that the opportunity is coming, be positive and be prepared when you don't see the opportunity yet.
Step Hygienic Handrub Six: actively strive to create opportunities
When the opportunity has not yet emerged, in addition to the moment of preparation, we should also take the initiative to create opportunities for themselves, can not always wait, waiting for the opportunity door.
Remember when I was working at Apple, there was a time when the company was running poorly and morale was low. At this point, I saw an opportunity: the company has a lot of good multimedia technology, but because there is no user interface design experts involved in the field, these technologies can not form a simple, easy-to-use software products.
So I wrote a report titled "How to Reproduce Apple's past glory through interactive multimedia." The report was sent to a number of vice presidents and finally, they decided to take my advice, develop simple, easy-to-use multimedia software, and ask me to be the director of the Interactive multimedia division.
Years later, when a boss of that year saw me, he said to me, "we were very surprised to see the report you submitted." In the past, we have been treating you as an expert in voice technology, and have no idea that you are so good at corporate strategy. If this is not the case, the company is likely to miss out on the opportunities for multimedia development, and you will not have the possibility of being promoted to the Director and Vice president. Today, there is a small part of the success of the ipod, thanks to you and your priceless report. ”
At Microsoft, everyone attaches great importance to Bill Gates four times a year to report the results of the work of the opportunity. A few months before the report, the world's research institutes began to queue up early to report their most triumphant results.
The year the Microsoft China Research Institute was founded, I took the chance to report two research results to bill six months later, when several research projects had not been finalized. Because then I know a lot of people do not understand the Chinese research Institute, if we can successfully demonstrate the results of our research in front of Bill, will be a great help to the development of the Institute.
At the time, I knew that there were four research projects with more than 60% of the possibilities to get good results after six months, but I couldn't wait until the 100% was confirmed before applying. So I booked the location with two vague report topics. Six months later, there were two projects with very good results, so we revised the report title and more than 10 people flew to the United States to make a live demonstration of bill. The report was very successful and was highly rated by Bill.
On the second day of the report, Bill told all the company leaders about his famous sentence: "I bet you don't know that at Microsoft China, we have a number of world-class experts in multimedia research." "It was this sentence that began to establish the credibility of the Institute in the company.
Obviously, if I always wait passively, then we're afraid to miss the chance to report the results to bill.
For college students, we should actively plan for four years of university, actively strive for and create opportunities. Your graduation plan will be the end of your studies and the starting point for your career, and your aspirations and interests will provide you with direction and motivation. If you do not know your aspirations and interests, you should immediately make a plan to explore aspirations and interests; If you do not know what to do after graduation, you should immediately develop a plan to try new areas; If you don't know what you lack, you should write a resume immediately, ask your teacher, friends, and see where you need to improve If you want to go abroad for a PhD after graduation, you should think about how to make yourself a practical research experience and thesis before applying for a trip abroad. If you think of a company after graduation, you should look for an advertisement for the company, compare it to your CV, and see what experience you lack ... As long as you do this, you will find that you are more likely to succeed than the day before.
Step Hygienic Handrub Seven: actively Selling yourself
In the era of globalization and informatization, those who can actively promote themselves are more likely to stand out.
Many Chinese who have worked in the United States for many years have the same impression of American colleagues: "How can they say so?" They have fully expressed their performance, and Chinese colleagues have done well in many cases, but have not shown it, it is a pity. ”
In the company, people who often get promotion opportunities are mostly motivated people who are able to promote and express themselves. When they are an ordinary employee of the company, they will spare no effort to express their opinions, contribute their ideas, and help the company develop and arrange work plans, as long as they are related to the interests of the company or the interests of the team. They often encourage themselves and their peers to complete their work as soon as possible. To improve the morale of the whole team; these people are always on the job, on the things first-they are the most active people.
To grasp the fleeting opportunity, we must learn to persuade others, to sell themselves to others, to show their views. Generally speaking, a good self-promotion strategy can make your life and career icing on the cake. A good self-promoter will take the initiative to find every opportunity for the boss or teacher to know their performance, ability and credit. Of course, in the display of their own, do not belittle others, but also can not forget the team spirit.
When I was transferred from Microsoft headquarters to the United States and outsourced to a Chinese partner in the United States, I was thinking about how to do this very important but resource-poor project.
At this time, I was very surprised to receive an unsolicited letter. This letter comes from a manager working at Microsoft's Technical Support Center. She said in the letter: "Although I do not have this experience, but I have worked in a number of departments, and learning quickly." I am willing to help you to do this thing well in my own time. I don't need a reward, I'm not applying for a job, I just want to do something for China. You choose me without risk, because I can at least make every detail for you to think clearly, so that you can save your time. ”
If it were not for this letter and the subsequent conversation, I would never have thought of giving this job to an amateur and inexperienced person. It turns out that my choice is right. She did not live up to my expectations and did the job very well. As a result of her work, Microsoft has increased its outsourcing business to China by three times times in three years. A few months later, when we finally set up a department to take charge of the matter, she gave all the work to the new department without complaint.
Later, Microsoft Research Asia had a good job opportunity, confered Dean asked me to recommend candidates, I thought of this versatile volunteer. She is today Microsoft Research Asia University Cooperation department director Ms. Song.
Some people may think, "Ask us to show ourselves, is it a complete transition from an introverted person to an extrovert?" In fact, an introvert is hard to change his character completely. Therefore, I suggest that you can be within the scope of their own personality to the "outward" closer, as far as possible to find some "more outgoing but do not bring too much pressure on themselves" opportunity.
My choice; your choice.
On the July 19, 2005, I left Microsoft and joined Google. I have been hoping to return to China for the past few years. And at the same time, I found many of my friends have been very happy to join Google. When I heard that Google would have a big plan in China, I didn't wait for it to call, and I actively contacted Google's CEO Schmidt, who I've known for years. He actively invited me to have a look. I found out that Google was a company that shook me – from its next-generation technology to the passion of its employees, from its integrity and dedication to the public interest, and from its unique freedom and transparency, I found a piece of pure land that I aspire to. I have the right to choose. So, I chose Google. I have chosen China.
A reporter asked me this choice brought a lot of trouble, I will not regret. My answer is: "Until the day I die, I'm going to do something that I'm passionate about." For this decision, no matter how much trouble and troubles, I have no regrets for life. ”
In the journey of life, you are your own only driver, never let others drive your life car. You should sit firmly in the driver's position, decide when you want to stop, to reverse, to turn, to speed up, to brake and so on. The journey of life is very short, you should cherish your own choices and decision-making rights, although you can refer to other people's opinions, but do not drift.
Only active people can succeed in a rapidly changing competitive environment, and only those who are good at showing themselves can get a real chance at work.
Finally, I will give the following passage to Chinese students: your time is limited, so do not waste time or in other people's lives.
Do not be confused by Creed – the doctrine of obedience is living in the lives of others.
Don't let anyone's one drown out your inner voice.
Be important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.
Your heart and intuition know who you really want to be.
Any other thing is secondary.
Steve Jobs (Apple's President)
2005 Stanford University Graduation ceremony
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