Never argue about the weakness of human nature

The story-telling gentleman referred to the word "the Bible". He's wrong, I'm sure. So, in order to show my sense of self-respect and superiority, I am a nuisance to correct him. He clung to his words: what. From Shakespeare. No way. Absolutely impossible. That sentence really came from the Bible. He is very confident.

The story-telling gentleman sits on my right side, and I think my old friend, Frank Gamont, sits on my left. Mr. Gamont has been studying Shakespeare for years, so the storyteller and I agree to ask Mr. Gamont to do the referee. Mr. Gamont, listening quietly, kicked me under the table with his feet, and then said, "Dale, you're wrong." This gentleman is right. That sentence really came from the Bible. ”

When I came home that night, I said to Mr. Gamont, "frank, you know that sentence is from Shakespeare." ”

"Yes, of course," he replied, "the second scene of act fifth of the Haremt." But Dear Dale, we're just guests at a grand meeting. Why do we have to prove that a person is wrong. Does that make him like you? Why don't you save him some face. He didn't ask for your advice, and he didn't need your advice. Why do you have to argue with him? The argument should never be avoided. ”

You can't win the argument. If you lose, you lose, but even if you win, you fail. Why. If you win each other, and you get him to pieces to prove that there is no virgin, then what can be. You might feel good about it. But what about him. You'll only make him feel humiliated. Since you hurt his pride, he will naturally resent your victory. and a person even if verbally admit defeat, but the heart is not satisfied at all.

If you accuse others of being wrong by using your eyes, tone or gesture, say they are wrong. Do you think they'll agree with you? Absolutely not. Because you have directly hit them with wisdom, judgment, pride and self-esteem. It will only make them fight back, but will never make them change their minds. Even if you mechanically all of Plato's or Kant's logic to argue with them, you can't change their view, because you hurt their feelings.

If you always say: "I want to prove to you ... "That would be a bad one." Because that is tantamount to saying: "I am smarter than you." I'll tell you how to make you change your view. "It was a challenge. It only leads to rebellion and even makes the other person argue with you before you speak.

Even in the mildest of circumstances, it's not easy to change someone's mind, so why make things worse. Why ask for trouble?