Today, my wife told me one thing:
- Last night neighbors take children A to the home to play, two children would have played in the tent is very good, after a a see the bookshelf on the submachine gun, want to win to play, A's mother said you go to ask aunt, wife want to take down to him, then son also come to play, and then two people began to rob. The wife said that you two who first want, a said I want first, the son does not speak, also does not let go, smiles and a Rob, the wife will give the gun to a, the son to take away, the son wronged cry up, then the neighbor walked, wife very calm and son analysis of this thing, but son still have fire did not send out, night has to look for dad.
Analyze your son's psychology:
- First he will rob things as a fun game, at the same time he is home, the gun in the hands of his mother, so although know that they are after said, but still believe that mom love themselves will help themselves. It is not the toy itself that matters to the child, but the toy that proves that the mother loves herself.
But how do we deal with this matter? It may still be difficult to handle this perfectly well, and this needs to be quick wits, and the accumulation of communication and teaching in the weekdays.
- First of all, the gun should be the son's not mother, the correct way is to let a go for the son's consent, so as to increase the son's sense of real rights;
- Second, we need to cultivate the idea of sharing the son, if other people want to play anything is also very bad.
- Third, in the home to establish basic rules, let the son know the basic social norms, such as "first put forward to get" is the concept of daily indoctrination, the son will be very easy to accept.
If the treatment is not good enough at that time, the remedy is also feasible, at least to do not leave hidden trouble.
- First, the emotional and behavioral separation, acceptance of emotion. Hug proof mother still love you, admit son hope mother will gun to himself, not give the grievance mood is normal, good mood relief.
- Then, by asking questions to guide his son to communicate and think, the son from the right brain (emotion) back to the Left brain (logic), when he is still in the emotional brain, any truth is not to be heard in the sense.
- Before the completion of the problem can be analyzed and explained, to supplement the rule awareness, understanding the adult world social norms. Mom didn't give you give a is mom don't love you? Of course not. Mom loves you most, but mom wants you to have a lot of friends, more people love you. Sharing consciousness, first-come first-served, etc...
Parent-Child Diary (iv)
