Psychological Adjustment of human nature distortion 1 [hesitation, market competition, dependence, blind obedience, comparison Psychology]

• Hesitation

  Reason:

  Some people are very honest, work diligently, and people are even better. However, there is a problem, that is, being indecisive. Always repeat.

  Analysis:

  From a psychological point of view, it is a manifestation of a weak will to handle affairs in an indecisive manner. Will is a manifestation of the active role of human consciousness. It is a psychological process in which people consciously determine the purpose of action and select appropriate means to achieve their intended goals by overcoming difficulties. Weak will is the lack of will resistance, also known as the lack of will. Its typical manifestation is that it is easily influenced by external hint, with weak feelings, timeness and fear, lack of opinions, and inability to make decisions on its own. Even if it has been decided, it is often rejected. Especially in the face of a variety of options, it is even more worried and helpless.

  The cause of this mental disorder is the internal and external factors.

  1. Internal factors are due to the lack of world-related knowledge,Young and naive, many things are replaced by parents, lack of practical exercise, or due to weak personality, lack of opinion, and easy to be influenced by the outside world.

  2. External factors are frustrated by incorrect choices, forming a negative psychological suggestion,Some are from childhood, family discipline is too strict, timid, and cautious, lest you choose mistakes and be blamed. This kind of hesitation is often caused by external stimulation during the formation of the outlook on life, resulting in distorted personality and mistaken for life.

  Adjustment:

  1When making decisions, we should not be confused by non-concepts,Without much worry, hesitation is actually a kind of direct result that is used to measuring things by non-standard. In the face of choices, we always hope to make the right choices, and think that mistakes can be avoided through repeated consideration, so we can hesitate. You can easily make your own decisions without having to worry about complaints from others. To eliminate hesitation, we should not simply consider the results as right or wrong, good or bad, but as a choice of different aesthetics. In this way, we can subvert, hesitate, and boldly act.
  2. define the purpose of your choice.Once the goal is determined, there will be a backbone that will not be overwhelmed by the environment. Therefore, before dealing with important things, we must make preparations and clarify the purpose.
  3. Be good at responding to emergencies.Everything is not simple. "There is still a loss of wisdom." You have to think about it carefully, and there will be some unexpected situations. This is the easiest trap for weak-willed people to hesitate. Therefore, you must be calm and be patient. Use the will to restrain yourself, eliminate interference, and avoid mistakes in selection.
  4. Do not hear the wind or rain.Different people have different cultural qualities, different life experiences, different interests, and interests. It is normal to have different opinions on anything. Hesitant people are most likely to lose in the face of such different views. Therefore, different voices from different angles do not have to follow suit. As long as you believe that you have made the right choice, you don't have to worry about the gossip. The ability to resist these opinions is also a sign of hesitation.

  1. It is difficult for people with two intentions to obtain any benefits.
  2. It is right to think twice, but without opinions, it will never be able to do things, even small things.
  3. Many people who are hesitant to live very tired are prone to physical and mental illness.

• Stage market psychology

  Reason:

  Test Anxiety, that is, the market phenomenon. People who have worked experience and even mature middle-aged and elderly people often have a rare experience on special occasions. In psychology, it is called psychological tension or emotional stress.

  Analysis:

  It is a subjective psychological experience when people are in a tense state, because it is expected to have some adverse consequences and a kind of unpleasant mood. It is manifested in anxiety, fear, worry, mental retardation, inattention, and self-control ability. It is physically indicated by high heart rate, high blood pressure, sweating in the palm of your hand, pale complexion, bloated mind, and even shock.

  Almost every year, some students who study well at ordinary times are named Sun Shan because they are either out of the test room or scared, or cannot play well on the scene.

  Adjustment:

  The market mentality will not only impede people's learning and work, but also damage their physical and mental health. How can we overcome this mental mood?
  1. Control the source of tension.In psychology, what causes psychological tension is called the source of tension. To control the field mentality, that is, psychological tension, we should eliminate or stop external stimuli that lead to the stage. Treat with an open-minded mind, comfort yourself with a spirit of "born I will have to use", or treat with a high degree of confidence. The source of tension does not work unless you think it doesn't matter. It can also use the spirit of Ah Q to weaken the source of tension.
  2. Use tenacious willpower to stabilize your emotions.When you appear in the market, you can use a strong willpower to imply yourself. The main purpose is to encourage and comfort yourself, not to be flustered. You must be calm and calm, and suppress yourself from avoiding those tensions. This makes it easy to regulate the functions of the sympathetic and secondary sympathetic nerves, so that the psychology tends to be peaceful and the mood is stable.
  3. Make appropriate auxiliary measures.Before leaving the scene, you should avoid the issue properly so that your brain can rest properly, such as taking a walk, listening to music, and doing qigong. If you are in an impatient mood or have a hard time sleeping, you should take some medicine, which is very helpful to keep your on-site energy. When you are on the scene, you can take a deep breath or gymnastics.

  1. Learn to reject timid attitudes, practice strong, benevolent, and cautious psychological habits
  2. Be confident in yourself and believe in your abilities.
  3. Ø learn from failures that are successful in life

• Dependency Psychology

  Reason:

  It is also called inertia psychology, and its performance is diverse. For example, if you want to do one thing, do not dare to do it independently, always want to do it with others; if you don't have the opinion, always wait for others to make a decision; do not believe in yourself, do not dare to give your own opinions, for fear of not being recognized by people; for the sake of human life.

  Analysis:

  Relying on psychology is a kind of lazy psychological manifestation. relying on others, you don't have to worry about it and spend your energy. We are not willing to take responsibility for being specific. In Marriage and Family Life, this dependence is obviously manifested in the dependency between husband and wife and the dependency of children on their parents. If some family men are in an absolute "dominant" status, the result is that their wives are completely dependent and don't use their brains. Some families are very considerate to their children. They don't have to worry about anything, and their parents can do anything. Over time, the spirit of hard work and enterprising has been diluted. From the perspective of psychology, dependency psychology is a common choice of life. They will lose their independent personality, become weak, have no opinion, and become pity dominated by others.

  Adjustment:

  Dependency psychology is not a stubborn disease and can be gradually overcome.

  1. Establish an independent personality and independent viability.Develop independent viability for children from an early age, and cultivate autonomous instinct behavior. If you do everything on your own, you will naturally not be dependent on it. For those who have developed dependency psychology, they must use strong will to restrain themselves. No matter what they do, they consciously do not rely on others and do not follow others' thinking methods, you do not have to obey your opinions. At the same time, you have to use your own brains to understand the advantages and disadvantages of what you want to do, and you will have the backbone in your mind to handle things, and you will dare to handle things independently.
  2. Establish a sense of mission and responsibility in life.People who do not have a sense of mission or responsibility often fall into dependency traps. People with a sense of mission and a sense of responsibility have an ambitious ambition. They demanded that they should be strict, take things seriously, do nothing perfunctory, and be sloppy. The subjective consciousness of self will be ashamed of relying on others.
  3. Do some things separately or make short-term trips.This is to exercise independent competence. It is a kind of personal exercise for you to do one thing independently without relying on others. Traveling is because you are not familiar with it. Out of self-esteem and vanity, you will not depend on others. Everything has to be planned by yourself. In this way, the dependence psychology is restrained and self-reliance is promoted, independent Life principles.

  1. If you cultivate your own field, you must have enough food. They follow the vain, but they are ignorant.
  2. Those who trust in less loyal people in time of suffering, as if the teeth of destruction were wrong.
  3. Those who cultivate their own fields must have enough food. Follow the imaginary, full suffering.

• Blind obedience Psychology

  Reason:

  It refers to the phenomenon in which an individual unconsciously shows the same as the majority of a group in terms of perception, judgment, and behavior. The essence is the result of blindly accepting the influence of the majority without independent analysis and judgment.

  Analysis:

  This herd mentality is blind, irrational, and does not have the nature of obedience and execution. Its behavior effect is more spontaneous and unconscious than authoritative commands. Therefore, when the herd psychology is consistent with the will and interests of the group, it can facilitate the smooth implementation of group behavior, strengthen the authority of the group, and eliminate the headache of individual determination. However, because herd psychology is blind and irrational, it is often caused by mistakes in the choice of things.
  Adjustment:

  1. Establish the subject consciousness of judging things and ask why for everything.When it is confirmed that the matter is indeed in the public interest and harmless, it is decided to participate in its action. Never hear that the wind is the rain. Because a person's words and deeds are at the control of his thoughts, he should always be responsible for his own words and deeds. If you think that group actions are right, you should actively participate. On the contrary, you must not be afraid of being hurt or accused of being "out of group. Once a problem occurs in the involved behavior, you should take responsibility and regret it!
  2. avoid mistakes caused by blind access.People have limitations and blind spots. If you are unsure about some things, you need to listen to the opinions of your loved ones or friends and get some inspiration from them and broaden your thinking. It helps to strengthen the subject consciousness and select the correct action plan. Sometimes he only listens to the opinions of a trusted person, but he also has blind spots. You can find the best action plan if you can listen to the opinions of others extensively and filter them out.
  3. When you have no idea what to do with your choice, do not do it first.When we were at a loss, we simply rushed to the cold in our minds. Let's take a look at the mountains, streams, and streams in nature. Let's take a look at the distant mountains and gather some strange flowers and plants. In calm thinking, we can enhance our insights into social life. After such a period of cool-down, it is not difficult to determine what to do if you look back at the previous issues.

  1. Ø cannot be left or right. Make your feet leave evil.
  2. Do not walk the wicked path. Do not follow the bad guys. The wicked ways seem to be dark. I don't know why I fell.

• Comparison Psychology

  Reason:

  Due to the influence of popular values, when people use a single external value scale to assess their quality of life, they will produce a psychological desire that is "no worse than others.

  Analysis:

  Such people do not pay attention to the self-satisfaction and self-happiness experience of "tailored", but are accustomed to using others' "role models" to determine their feelings. Therefore, they ignore the real experience of life, it is always used to drive the trend and fashion. People who are better than themselves and who are richer than themselves are always the target of comparison. Although they do not have a strong economic base, they do not hesitate to borrow debts or loans to make comparisons.

  They are also jealous. They are jealous and hate themselves. In order to "not worse than others", or even by no means, "they want to be higher than tiangu ". However, when "a mountain is higher than a mountain" and "a mountain is higher than a mountain", they constantly compare and put pressure on themselves, so that their emotions are always in the midst of irritability and suppression, I lost a lot of fun in my life.
  Adjustment:

  1. Fully aware of the psychology of comparison and the dangers of brewing.With the development of the economy, there is a big gap in people's economic strength. Therefore, there are also differences in the selection and requirements of living standards. Those who are keen on comparison are always willing to accept the psychological hint that is higher than or stronger than themselves, and want to live as if they were others. As we do not know, if your economic foundation is different from those of others, your "Wealth fighting" with others will inevitably lead to mental, psychological, and even physical burdens, and you will struggle in the pressure of comparison, even if it takes all the financial resources and energy, it may be "Lost and lost ".

  2. Pay attention to endless comparison desires.There is no end to human desires for life, and those who are more psychological will often develop new desires. When others think that they have so much wealth, they are still upset and annoyed by the richer people. It is difficult to extricate themselves. Over time, it will inevitably damage the health of the body and mind. In serious cases, they will "xiangxiao Yu" in comparison ".
  3Establish the concept of self-life.In order to get rid of the troubles of comparison, we should establish our own concept of life when arranging family life and do not blindly follow popular fashion behaviors. When choosing the standard of life, you must decide based on your own economic conditions. If you have determined the goal of arranging your own life on the fly, you will be able to live securely and enjoy yourself with economic conditions, which can avoid unnecessary troubles.

  Of course, the pursuit of life within its capacity can also stimulate the motivation of life. As long as you do not pursue your life goals, you will not fall into the strange circle of comparison if you "cross one mountain and one mountain.

  1. You should drink water in your pool and live water in your own well.
  2. Do more with wealth and righteousness, and do less with wealth and justice.