Psychological Adjustment of human nature distortion 1 [pride, paranoia, jealousy, revenge, and villain]

• Pride

  Reason:

  "Modest benefits, full loss", "bad luck, full profit, disaster recovery", "humble progress, pride, and backwardness" are the attitude of alert personnel. However, pride has always been a weakness of human nature for generations. It is not difficult to see people in real life who have nothing to do. The main reason is the lack of personality cultivation.

  Analysis:

  Pride is the result of one-sided understanding. It is closely related to the closed environment. I have made some achievements, or have something that others cannot do, so I feel that my abilities, talents, and standards are higher than others, exaggerating my personal actions. It is a feature of observing the sky. If you can put your abilities and performance in a strong environment, you will find that there are more people than you are, what is the reason for pride? People live and work in a small scope. closed environments make unhealthy people often cannot calmly compare with "strong and medium-handed", and do not realize the danger of pride, in addition, some mediocre people boast that they have contributed to the spread of pride in some psychologically fragile people.

  Adjustment:

  1. broaden your horizons and place yourself in a macro coordinate system.The intelligence, ability, and performance of anyone are relative. The so-called excellence means that a large group may be in an inconspicuous position. Even if you can excel, you do not have to be proud, because you have such talents in other large groups, "strong in your own strong in hand "! If you feel that in a macro coordinate system, you are just a coordinate point, then you will never feel proud, and you will be able to make full use of your talent.
  2. Realize that personal talents cannot be used without relying on the strength of the team.The biggest weakness of pride is to exaggerate your actions. However, the success of any career is closely related to the experience and lessons learned from previous people, and the cooperation and collaboration between colleagues are directly related to the cooperation efforts. There are countless tests-failures-re-tests-and re-failures to succeed. In this process, many colleagues are required to participate and make painstaking efforts. If you have the power of a team, but proud people are usually difficult to work with, you can only stay in the hypothetical stage, rather than become a reality.

  3. See the danger of pride.The motto "pride will defeat", "full body will disaster", and "pride will lag people" profoundly reveals the evil consequences caused by pride. Pride can lead to minor enemies (or difficulties, or major tasks), so that people cannot objectively analyze and estimate the strength of the other party, nor take effective measures to defeat the other party, and even cause huge losses to itself.

  4. Pride can break people out of the masses.If you do not find a partner and become a lonely person, you will not be able to do anything.

  5. Pride makes people stagnate in social development.In the ever-changing social development, if you think you can do anything, do not think ahead, while society is moving forward, and others are making progress. If you are standing behind others. If you do not try to get out of the psychological misunderstanding of pride, the situation will be miserable.

  1. Yes. Pride will only start competition. Pride and shame. Humble people have wisdom.
  2. Proud people are arrogant, do not love to be blamed, have many blind spots, and suffer from evil.
  3. Pride is at the beginning of corruption, and madness is at the beginning of fall.

• Paranoid

  Reason:

  A paranoid person will never give up and always tries his best to defend himself to prove that his opinion is correct. According to the psychological analysis, paranoid psychology is not a lack of education, but a type of personality exception, that is, changing personality disorder.

  Analysis:
  People with paranoid psychology are generally suspicious, easy to envy, good battles, and prone to prejudice. It is always a standalone, like a non-beat solo. They do not believe in others and think highly of themselves. They always think that they are correct and are good at sophistry. Even if they are sometimes deprecated, they also need to force words to justify and blame others for being wrong.

  In addition to the inherent genetic factors, this kind of psychology is mainly related to the development of the acquired environment. It is generally believed that family discord and frequent quarrel between parents during childhood make children suffer from cold experiences and trauma, which leads to self-loneliness and alienation. Especially after adolescence, we gradually formed a paranoid belief that we could not adapt to the social environment, communicate with people normally, and feel strange. Paranoid psychology is not formed overnight, so it is quite difficult to change.

  Adjustment:

  1. Be aware of the dangers of paranoia.It is necessary to make them gradually realize their mistakes through certain environmental constraints. Along with the improvement of the probability of mistakes, family members or colleagues should tell him the dangers of paranoia and make him understand, paranoia will not only make the family cold, the relationship between colleagues, but also not get the understanding, support and sympathy of others, so that they are isolated, and often put themselves in an angry mood, it affects your health. Only when you no longer stick to your own opinions and understand the weaknesses of your own character can you face up to the objective reality and seek to adapt to the environment, so that your character can be more flexible and easygoing.

  2Learn ideas and methods,Objectively analyze and understand things to overcome the subjective one-sidedness. For non-principled issues, we must treat them with an easy-going and tolerant attitude, so that we can coordinate interpersonal relationships without having to be truthful and treat them with kindness. For some differences of opinion, as long as we are tolerant and humble, we will be able to eliminate gaps and enhance feelings.
  3. Exercise unremitting self-restraint and self-guidance to control the occurrence of bad emotions.When others' opinions are different from those of others, they should suppress their own emotions. instead of competing with and arguing with others, they should adopt a way to leave the scene and let their excitement calm. When chatting or researching with friends or colleagues, if you disagree, remind yourself to be modest and patient. Do not go on a bulk or take words without reason. Even if you have to express your opinions, you must be calm, sedated, objective, and rational. Do not despise others.

  4. Handle your remarks properly.If your speech is justified and can hold your feet up, you will be convinced and applauded. If your speech cannot convince people, you should take humorous ridicule as your next step. In this way, neither hurting your self-esteem nor restricting your paranoid psychology.

  1. A paranoid person will be injured and abused. His shame cannot be smeared.
  2. Do not go out and compete with others; otherwise, they will be humiliated.

• Jealousy

  Reason:

  Jealousy is a dark and hard-to-be-disclosed psychology. It is also a hostile psychological tilt that is directed by peers of similar status, similar levels, and similar ages.

  Analysis:

  The Psychological Characteristics of jealousy are:

  1. You cannot recognize that others are better than yourself,You can only indulge in others' losses as a satisfying emotional experience. This is a negative psychological quality.

  2. It is for 'seeking Justice'To achieve a mental balance, and use self-defense means.

  3. Jealousy can both hurt people and lead to mistakes.It is always difficult to get over with yourself and others, to find troubles and to set obstacles, and to worry about others' achievements. When he is a hypothetical competitor, especially the other party's performance increases, the fame increases, and the jealousy increases. So suffering from the total heart, the spirit will inevitably be damaged.

  4. Jealousy is actually a manifestation of lack of self-confidence.He does not review his own shortcomings, but his own length is shorter than that of others; he promotes injustice and hate others. Choosing jealousy not only increases your worries, but also increases your self-confidence and self-love consciousness. A person's self-confidence is a kind of self-love psychology. A person who truly loves himself will neither use others' mistakes to punish himself nor hate others because they surpass himself. If Jealousy turns into a decentralized way of thinking and behavior, it will become a suppression, revenge, narrow-minded, dedicated-minded, unscrupulous person, so as to become a traitor to the consciousness of subversion, so that those who are better than him are regarded as targets of attacks, so as to put the other side to death and then quickly, resulting in many tragedies.

  Adjustment:

  1. self-control and self-regulation are required.Correct yourself and the jealous person's position. Correct Understanding of jealousy is an experience that violates moral feelings. Even if you get away with jealousy, you cannot completely deny others' achievements. Such resentment is like a drag-and-drop, and it cannot deny others. Therefore, it consumes a lot of energy and harms itself.
  2. Eliminate the psychological quality of my sole respect.Jealousy is a kind of self-centered rejection psychology. It hates the superego and despise those who are not as good as me. Therefore, you must break away from the "I" circle. When you discover that others are better than yourself, do not blindly dispose of them with your own emotional orientation, or reject others with no extra thinking, and be confident, I believe that I can create my own achievements through hard work.
  3. The heart has no evil thoughts, and the body is good.In order to stop and discard jealousy, and establish a common heart and compassion for people, we will be able to see the personnel entanglement and fame and fortune, and it will not be easy to envy.

  4. enrich yourself and keep your mind up.Only those who do not want to advance or fall in love with their rights and interests will be forced to suppress others for fear of being promoted to themselves, it will be difficult for someone to replace themselves and eager to train subordinates. If you have the heart of love, we hope that he will be blue and better than blue.

  1. The hatred of a person becomes furious. Never show mercy when taking revenge.
  2. Ø promotion and competition among well-known people. A close friend.
  3. Envy will make the whole body of bones rotten, ugly face. Jealous people cannot get close friends in their life.

• Revenge

  Reason:

  It is not uncommon for malicious and machine-seeking revenge people throughout the ages.

  Analysis:

  Revenge is a kind of pathological psychology, which is produced by the expansion of selfishness. It has a paranoid mentality. It always regards itself as a flower, and others as "bean curd". Even dreaming also wants to put it above others, but in fact its talents are mediocre and hard to do. However, if he is unwilling to bow to others, he attaches great importance to high positions. If others do not satisfy his private desires, they will "remember" this "Revenge" and wait for the opportunity to retaliate and achieve his purpose.

  This kind of pathological psychology is a lack of morality, and for people who lack moral behavior

  1. Be wise and impartial,Don't be alert to him for making small reports, giving gifts, or being blinded by an illusion. You also need to restrict the use of the report without giving him a chance to retaliate. Only by recognizing the essence of his thoughts, making him arrogant and flattering, can he avoid the traps he has set by mistake due to partial listening. The people who work with him should also resist their immoral behaviors. They should keep a clear mind and never be confused by their false feelings. He must also grasp his ideas and make ideological education work to eliminate the hidden danger of seeking revenge in the future. If we do this, we can objectively eliminate the breeding ground for revenge.
  2You must dare to expose revenge against him, so that everyone can recognize his real face.People with revenge often have the ability to refer to the deer as a horse. If they break down the bar, make a big fuss, and use questions to make full use of them, as long as they can attack others and raise their own revenge purpose, they will have nothing to do. Dare to expose such behavior, let people recognize the facts, and make him unable to hide his "fox tail", so as to curb the occurrence of such behavior.
  Of course, the external cause should take effect through internal factors, and revenge should be taken as the psychological quality of personal nature. The key to getting out of this kind of psychological misunderstanding lies in the ability of the Creator to wake up.

  Adjustment:

  1. It is a dialectical relationship that recognizes the ultimate harm of the victim.People seeking for revenge always want to confuse people with an illusion and achieve the goal of self-interest to harm people. They do not know that "fire cannot be contained in paper", and "Fire players will burn themselves", as Lu Xun said: "It is also effective, but limited. Therefore, it is a great success in ancient times." As long as you recognize this logical experience, you can find your conscience, sum up lessons in failure, and overcome difficulties.
  2. It is to establish honest and honest ethics,To be open-minded, not to worry about, not to use personal good and evil to assess the right and wrong; to objectively evaluate yourself, not to think about it, not to meet your own desires and to frame others; to do it, the benefits of others for yourself, especially to remember that others have taken care of and helped themselves, should have a correct understanding, not only remember the benefits of people who have borne your responsibilities but forget others. Morally, it will not always be revenge if we can regulate it in this way.

  1. A person has never harmed you and cannot compete with him for no reason.
  2. Our hearts are not well-behaved, and we have always been evil. So disaster will suddenly come to him. He will be ruined and cannot be cured.

• Villain Psychology

  Reason:

  "It's better to hurt a gentleman than hurt a villain. "Hurt" the gentleman, there will be no aftermarket, and "hurt" the villain, It is endless. The so-called "villain" refers to those who lack morality and behave mean. Confucius hated "little people" and called them "difficult to raise", which meant "difficult to get along" while "little people" often moved to the market and created various events. Unfortunately, the annoying "villain" still has active markets.

  Analysis:

  The "villain" is essentially "snoop", narrow-minded, jealous, and arrogant, so that others are better than him. Instead of surpassing others through competitions, he is engaged in conspiracy and deception to frame others. His self-selfishness and lust, in order to satisfy your own private interests, do not hesitate to confuse right and wrong, and turn black and white upside down; such a person is sinister and vicious and greedy. When they do not have the right, they are good at making public opinions with a thick face. They seize the interests and opportunities of the people to pick up the gap. They do not hesitate to boast about it. If they are not vigilant against their vicious psychology, give it an opportunity to influence society badly.

  Once the "villain" is in control, it will fight against revenge and reject the enemy,Shun Ji Chang, anti-ji dead, Compared with other strong people, they are always dead and fast. However, as a vicious psychological quality, "villain" has different levels of performance. Not all "villain" are hopeless, and some can still eliminate psychological barriers and correct their evil spirits.

  Adjustment:

  1Strengthen ideological cultivation and improve moral standards.The "villain" psychology is a kind of vicious psychology lacking in morality. The onset of such vicious psychology is often an idea of profit. Therefore, we need to abandon this psychological obstacle, we must strengthen our ideological cultivation and enhance our moral standards so that our ideological savvy or conscience will gradually become dominant and we will not do anything against our conscience for personal desires or private interests.

  2. Recognize the evil effects of "villain.The results of both the harm and the mistake of making mistakes and setting up others will be exposed to the fullest extent, and will be pinned on the shame book of life history.
  3And promptly discover and expose the conspiracy tricks of "villain".The "villain" mainly relies on right-seeking to achieve its evil purpose, and seldom hits the restricted area of the law. Therefore, the behavior of "villain" is often ignored. It will only attract people's attention when it causes some negative consequences. In order to prevent them from happening, we must promptly discover and expose the tricks of the "villain" so that others can prevent them.

  4. Set the "Stairway ".Once a "villain" gains the trust of a leader or is in charge of a certain amount of power, it will expand maliciously and do whatever it wants. Therefore, the "villain" must make a good "Stairway" and cannot be promoted, otherwise, you will suffer endless troubles and harm your career or others. They should also conduct strict ideological education, so that they can reflect on, understand the dangers, and abandon the old image. When "little people" are not "ambitious", they often do not dare to be arrogant.

  1. I'm afraid he hates you and Will be insulted. Those who blame the wicked will be corrupted.
  2. The evil will not leave his home.
  3. If you drive out of the villain, the dispute will be eliminated, and competition and humiliation will also stop.