Psychological Adjustment of human nature distortion I. [Psychological comparison, flattering psychology, concealed psychology, evading psychology, and narcissistic Psychology]

• Attach Psychology

  Reason:

  Attached psychology is a kind of psychological state that aims to contact people with higher status and identities to achieve a certain purpose or meet certain emotional needs.

  Analysis:

  The psychological mechanisms of this sort are basically virtual and real:
  1. In fact, most people who have a certain position or position are pursuing their own interests. In order to promote, promote, or achieve a certain purpose, they seek a convenient way to earn a career;

  2. Its Virtual users are satisfied with vanity. Most of them are ordinary people or people with low status. They cannot climb to the point of obtaining real profits for those with status or influences, it's just full of mystery and worship, so it's satisfying to have the opportunity to meet them or take a photo with them to show off yourself.

  Attach psychology does not cause losses to others, but it is easy to bring itself into the misunderstanding of psychological barriers. It can expand the selfish psychology and avoid any risk to achieve the goal. For example, gifts and bribes are useless. Some use the relationship between them to do illegal activities. It has also polluted the social ethos and damaged its own image, resulting in immeasurable losses.

  Adjustment:
  1. It should be clear that it is an unhealthy psychological quality. "Panattachment" is a derogatory term. It is similar to vine or morning glory that relies on twines or other trunks to survive. It has a certain degree of dependence and lacks the character of self-independence. The behavior you attach reduces the value of yourself, indicating that you are not a strong person in your life, but a person relying on others to cheat. The embodiment of a noble and independent personality is to create your own world without relying on the wisdom, talent, and struggle spirit of others. Such a life has value and meaning. If you understand this, you will not attach yourself to others.
  2. Treat yourself realisticallyDon't look forward to achieving your personal goals through bad means. No matter which type of attachment has a common psychological characteristic, it is to improve your worth by virtue of the celebrity effect, or to achieve your goal through a clever way. It is true that some people have been promoted by means of the obvious advantages, but it is not a normal phenomenon. If you are ambitious and do not have to make a close cut, you should take your own path in a down-to-earth manner. Even if you do not get improvement, you are at ease.

  3. Recognize the Emptiness after the show-off. Those who are proud of getting a star signature or taking a group photo are even more arrogant. You are proud of your family. People don't know you yet, just like a flash in the pan, the vanity of the moment is also fleeting. After the show off, there is only emptiness.

  1. The hot mouth, the evil heart, as if the silver slag package tile.
  2. I am afraid to give your honor to others and your years to cruel people.
  3. I'm afraid that outsiders are full of your strength. If you work hard, you will be included in the homes of outsiders.

• Adserver Psychology

  Reason:

  Obviously, flattering is for a selfish purpose. Some are for making money, while others are for a small reward in the future. People who love to flatter do not have the hard-working spirit of those who work well. They do not have the best talent in their business, nor do they have the right and upright character to study the business. However, if they want to develop, they want to gain a leader. They cannot compete with the strong with their own capabilities, but they can climb up with the support of flattering. Mediocre people use this psychological mechanism as a shortcut to achieve their goals. There is no motivation to satisfy your own desires.

  Analysis:

  In fact, the behavior of the owner is very explicit. The Flattering client does not seem to be aware of it, so it is rare to hear that the video has been kicked by a horse. This is because people, especially those who are leaders, all have a kind of vanity and like to hear praises. This kind of vanity shows that the target is also interested in it for a selfish desire. It seems that it is for the same purpose that the owner and the owner belong to the same kind of psychological emotion, but the expressions are different. Naturally, it is easy to catch up with each other. Many of those who are provided by them are also provided by them. They do not necessarily mean that they are willing to do so. Some of them are not willing to do anything, but to achieve some purpose. To make your money or profit, you will be flattered.

  Adjustment:

  1. Attach a letter to the consortium, or do not listen to the adserver.Or, without being given a gift, he will not dare to flatter you if he finds him uninteresting and loses his face. This is a powerful measure to manage the bad habit of flattering. It is a pity that some of the owners are very happy to accept the flatter, to meet their vanity and ulterior motives, and to provide a breeding ground for them to form a mutually beneficial relationship. Indeed, external factors work through internal factors. If you are unwilling to accept the commitment, you will not see the commitment.

  2. Be flattered to purify your own soul,Abandon your selfish distractions and realize that the flattering and charming words are to cater to your vanity. They are not so competent to really look at you so high. This arrogant word is just a means for the believer to take advantage of you. When your self-cultivation is complete and your character is upright, you will recognize the essence of the flattering behavior and dislike the buttering, and you will feel that it is meaningless.
  3. The contractor should recognize the price paid for this behavior., Flattering is not completely "high return ". On the surface, it seems that you may not be able to take up this role and be under pressure every day to give your boss a tribute, give a small report, sing a song, or constantly serve, and get promoted or promoted. And thus lost the most valuable personality. The promotion of your position degrades the prestige of the masses. You will be farther and farther away from the masses, people will look down on you, and people will not be able to establish prestige in the masses, and become a dog-watching person for superiors. This is a life inequality caused by small loss.

  4. Be steadfast in your work.Interpersonal relationships are not static. Your benefits are achieved by flattering your superiors. To save the existing benefits, you must continue to flatter your superiors. Once you don't want to flatter or contribute, you will be kicked out. Make all the difference. It can be seen that, as if it were just like a wire, there were a lot of risks. Instead of spending time on shoot horses and spending money on tribute, it is impossible to get rid of whimsical ideas and do your work in a steadfast manner.

  Recognizing the dangers caused by shoot on horses helps regulate your behaviors and easily get out of the psychological misunderstanding of flattering.

  1. You should discard the foul mouth.
  2. Your eyes should be visible forward, and your eyes should be intuitive forward.
  3. Ding is also a trial of Refining of silver, furnace for refining of gold, and praise of people.

• Disguise Psychology

  Reason:

  It is a kind of "self-defense mechanism" mentality, that is, a kind of self-ridicule psychology that is adopted when you are eager to get something, and never admit defeat, I always look for various reasons to give myself a step, not to blame others for mistakes, but to show that I am willing to compete with them. This is a typical psychological manifestation of disguise.

  Analysis:

  When a person's behavior or motivation is not accepted by the society or trapped in setbacks or failures, a self-deception or distorted approach is often taken to relieve psychological pressure and pain. This kind of psychological reaction is a protective measure of self-defense. It can resolve and disperse the psychological trauma caused by setbacks and failures, and strike a certain balance between the damaged psychology.
  There are two ways to conceal psychology:

  1. It is the object of transfer vent.If you have encountered setbacks or failures, you should condemn and criticize yourself, but blame the environment or others. If someone fails to take the test, they do not find the reason from themselves, but complain that the teacher has not taught well, the test environment is too noisy, and the test is still difficult.

  2. Self-ridicule and self-happiness.Since you cannot get what you want, you can describe what you don't get as bad as you do. Instead, you can turn your dissatisfaction into a sour grape, it is also regarded as the best, to ease the anxiety and sorrow.

  As a self-defense measure in people's lives, this concealed psychology can help ease psychological tension, resolve conflicts, reduce mental burden, and maintain a psychological balance, it is of positive significance to prevent violent behaviors due to anger. However, everything has a dual nature and its advantages and disadvantages. It is easy to go to the opposite side to conceal excessive psychology and become a stumbling block to the forward. Therefore, we should prevent the psychological weakness from falling into the misunderstanding.

  Adjustment:

  1. We need to realize that disguise is a kind of self-defense measure to cure the symptoms.Its positive role is to maintain a short period of self-esteem and psychological balance, to prevent excessive behavior due to anger. Just like pain pills, if you always take medicine to treat headaches, not only will it be prone to drug resistance, but also will delay the serious illness. If you encounter setbacks or failures, you can use a cover-up mentality to comfort yourself. In this way, you can easily develop an escape mentality, make yourself depressed, and become unhealthy. This affects your progress and health. Therefore, the abuse of cover-up psychology has more disadvantages than good ones and cannot be ignored.
  2. Learn to know yourself correctly and dare to face up to setbacks or failures.It is not a strange thing to encounter setbacks or failures on the road of life. As long as you work hard and have a dedication, you will inevitably miss setbacks or failures. The problem is that when you encounter setbacks or failures, you can only seek temporary silence by means of disguise, but what you lose is a lofty goal. If you can calmly analyze the cause and find out the lessons in the face of setbacks or failures, you can find the crux of the problem for yourself and obtain a cure for the Temporary pain, it is still beneficial for future development.

  1. If a person burns fire in his arms, will his clothes not burn?
  2. If a person walks on the charcoal, Will his feet not burn?

• Escape Psychology

  Reason:

  People with pathological escape psychology are generally unable to think about things. When thinking about problems, they tend to use points to represent the surface, to be partial, to stick to their own opinions, and to stick to their paranoid ideas. He is introverted and in a low mood. He always looks at things with a negative attitude, and always makes pessimistic estimates of the outcome of things.

  Analysis:

  If I have made a mistake, I will not be able to do anything if I treat it correctly. However, due to the psychological shortage of these people, I can't think of any problems. I always feel sorry for myself and I am wronged by myself, if you are confused and interfere with yourself, you choose to leave regardless of others. This kind of ill psychology will not only cause itself to suffer many difficulties and obstacles, but also cause a great burden on others.

  Adjustment:

  1. improve psychological quality and eliminate psychological barriers in a timely manner.Psychological disorder is a kind of passive mindset. It refers to the psychological factors in which people tend to stick to their narrow knowledge and experience when observing and analyzing problems, and cannot turn moral requirements into personal psychological factors, the incident lingers in narrow circles and thus makes wrong decisions. If you can jump out of your own small circle, things will have a positive turn.

  2. constantly improve the knowledge level and enhance the learning of the way of thinking,Learn to expand your thinking and get rid of prejudice. In case of a problem, we should be so angry that we should discuss it with others repeatedly. This will help improve our psychological quality and avoid risks due to the inability to open our mind.
  3. Think twice before thinking about it.Think about what you want to do and who you want to put pressure on? If you are at fault, your criticism will be helpful to your progress. This is a kind of hate, not discrimination. Shirking responsibility is just a shame in your mind. This is a behavior that is totally impossible. This type of adversarial, untargeted escape behavior can only expose your own weaknesses, and is equal to self-punishment.
  4. Even if you think there is a reason to leave, you must imagine the result after leaving.If you take into account all the specific problems, it means that you have already drilled out of the horns.
  5. You should realize that escaping behavior will cause harm to your own body.Why is there a good end to this step? In this situation, you will feel frustrated, regret, and hate those who are related to your departure. But how can this happen? This kind of physical destruction and mental frustration seriously damage your health and your own loss. As long as the psychological quality is improved, we can get rid of prejudice and avoid evil.

  1. Even though he has used deception to conceal his resentment, his evil will be revealed in the meeting.
  2. People are drifting away from the place, like birds and birds traveling away from the nest.
  3. Those who conceal their sins will not survive. Those who give up their sins will be pity.

• Narcissism

  Reason:

  Narcissism is a pathological psychological manifestation. It is characterized by a high rating of itself, the feeling that they are perfect, outstanding, think that they are doing better than others, like to command others, praise others, Joy, victory, once others are cynical, they will be justified, thunderous, and even revenge.

  Analysis:

  This self-centered psychological quality is a kind of freak born with childish attitudes and pride and complacency. As far as their self-centered, they are the psychological characteristics of children. When a person is a child, the common way of thinking is to consider himself only, and seldom care about others. This psychological feature is normal in early childhood, but it is reflected in adults and becomes a psychological obstacle. In addition to childish and paranoid thoughts, adult narcissism is also related to arrogant and complacent psychology. As we are proud and complacent, we feel that we are better than others and better than others, so we are taken for granted to give orders and direct others. We cannot accept criticism from others..

  Adjustment:

  1. Abandon the concept of "I-centered" and objectively understand yourself.Focusing on me is a kind of naive view of understanding. I cannot see myself as a member of the group. To this end, we must realize that everyone should get along with each other on an equal footing in the lives of people in a group. There is no distinction between high and low levels, and there is a harmonious and mutually restrictive relationship between each other. If you look down on others, others will treat you with the same attitude.

  2. Performance depends on your own strength and performance.The value of a person is presented by his own strength and performance, rather than being exaggerated by others. As long as you have achieved remarkable achievements, you will be able to win the respect and trust of people.

  3. Realize that "strong, self-and strong-starter ",Even if you have made some achievements, others have made more achievements.
  4. Learn to care for others.Narcissistic patients always "treat themselves as a flower and others as bean curd ". Out of such ideas, it is often difficult for others to put forward different opinions, or even be jealous of others' talents and achievements. To this end, we must cultivate team spirit while getting rid of self-centered, and learn to care for and love others. By incorporating yourself into the ocean of the team, you can cultivate your love for others. If a narcissistic patient is able to work toward this goal, he will gradually become more open-minded and feel that he is a part of his team's life.

  1. There are thorns and traps on the road of well-known people. Keep your life confidential.