"The Jungle" will never disappear, "survival of the fittest" is still in the general rule of the implementation of the dominant community. For a group of social animals, the so-called "fittest". Not only is the body strong. More importantly, members of the public can participate in community life.
1. Heroes have three help
People are social animals, in the body, leaving the group, our life value is not attached.
There are many reasons why a person is not gregarious, such as: inconsistent values, timid shyness, poor words, introverted character, etc.
And for a technical cattle person. The reasons for its non-gregarious also add a: Look down on others, think "zeros and seek".
China has always had the habit of disparage each other, in fact, the phenomenon of procedural ape light is no less than in the literary world.
2. Gregarious who can do it
Every man has a line of defense against external things. This is a kind of self-protection instinct.
For those who are not in the group, this line of defense appears to be exceptionally tall and strong enough to isolate him from others into two worlds.
(1) What kind of group
Suppose that a bunch of people who behave badly or don't have a high style should withdraw decisively. You should always keep a proper distance. shall not be limited to each other.
For those who are not interested in themselves or less helpful to their own groups, do not refuse, otherwise it will give people an impersonal impression. Be able to participate in their activities properly, but not too much, or they will take up too much of their time.
The focal point of intercourse should be the person who is congenial to oneself and helpful to oneself. Get along with them, not only can learn from each other, and the happiness and value of life can find a foothold.
(2) Grasping words and deeds
The most important point is to be bitter, shelter, compliance, moderation. For example, when we play, you can play, don't be an alien; don't joke about too much, embarrassed; Don't act weird, wait.
(3) Respect for others. In order to remain equal
This is the cow's advice, because the cattle are superb. More easy they think they are superior. Despise others.
"Ape from Program Project Manager" Reading notes (eight): The program Ape Station--and the herd