"Bystander" evil effect

Two days ago, my roommate moved out, at first, some do not adapt, after all, lived together for 2 years, but just a new discovery, but gradually a glimmer of joy.

Have you ever had this experience when a couple of colleagues went to dinner, and if they were talking to each other and you were reading for some reason (such as a test-prep, a sudden interest in a technology), no matter how firm and earnest you were, when you looked up and glanced at other people's shadows, Will unconsciously come up with such an idea: I want to show in front of them very seriously, very input.

In fact, I can give a personal explanation: in a group, if other people are talking and you are reading, this is generally considered undesirable and non-gregarious. At this time, the first thing we think of is the performance of more investment, because "more input to read" can be "good scholar" label, can dilute the above-mentioned prejudice. This is a subconscious act of self-protection, and nothing can be denied. But this kind of mind really affects you that "is reading", so that you can not really devote yourself to reading. I call this phenomenon "bystander evil effect".

Again, my roommate unconsciously became such an onlooker in the first time.

I have been out of work for four months, not unable to find a job, but not actively looking for. Because the original plan has not been completed--to learn a new technology, to make a set of personal software. But this kind of situation makes my roommate very anxious (this is a real friend because he cares about you), because everyone knows that a programmer, especially the initial programmer, if his resume is blank in six months, then look for a job may face various difficulties.

Therefore, he often urged me to find a job. I also have doubts about my original goal, after all, three months later, my inertia is too bad, the efficiency is too low. But I still want to hold on, in this case, my roommate became my third party. I unconsciously transferred the time of study to his work (the motive refers to the "non-gregarious reader"), but at that time the study efficiency, efficiency is really poor. In this way, their own affairs became the "others" thing, quite a bit of formalism. Also because of such a change of heart, the other time I resist the temptation (games, movies) ability to fall straight down, more efficient.

Such a situation unconsciously lasted for one months, until a few days ago, he moved away. Today, I suddenly found myself in the recent period of high efficiency, the game played very little, the film is not seen. Should be the mentality from "to others to show" into "for their own learning", self-control, resistance are not consciously improved.

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From the perspective of "bystander evil Effect", solitude is very helpful for self-improvement. Perhaps the library, the Office, the classroom and so on can improve the individual study/work efficiency, also because of shielding the "bystander Evil effect" reason (in these places, is the person who does the same thing, naturally does not exist "spectator").

Judging from the "bystander evil effect", if you want to succeed, it is very important to find a partner who can support you with each other. Imagine, if the "Curie" couples do not support each other and encourage, if Mr Curie is indifferent to her views or even hostile attitude, then this "can not get rid of" the spectator produced. The presence of bystanders may provoke Madame Curie in the early days, but such a situation continues, 3 years, 5 years, 10 years or even longer, it must become a burden, and the discovery of radium may also be postponed. (I am sorry to take the Curie couple such a great man to do such a metaphor!) ）

"Bystander" evil effect