Fan Jun (Frank Fan) Sina Weibo: @frankfan7 public number: Gettocloud
Life stage Drama
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Every scene in our lives, just like a stage play, every moment a variety of ideas, all kinds of characters you sing I debut, the mood is also changing.
The human brain is so incredible that it can deal with such complex information and instantly form awareness and emotion. So we have a view of the world, to others, to ourselves.
In this bold question, at this time the brain's cognition, whether it is really the real thing. Maybe not. The perception of the same person at all times may be different and may differ from what it is. Not to mention the different people's interpretation of the same thing, perhaps the difference is very big.
So what does this have to do with our life stage play? For example, the brain actually provides the stage of a stage play, all kinds of cognition and emotion can be called the role on the stage, the stage play is actually our life scene. So who's directing the show?
each individual in the growth experience, slowly in the brain automatically formed a personal unique set of procedures, most of the time we are the interpretation of events and emotions is the automatic triggering of this program results. the same thing, some people see the positive side, some people see the negative side, someone laugh someone sorrow. Most of the cases are unconscious spontaneous sensing. That means that the Director is not there in most cases.
Play a
talk about my recent experience. Catch the early flight to meet the customer, a morning but met a plane late. After the plane, too hectic taxi, reported the address, the driver was furious, I realized that the destination is very close to the airport, and the driver in a long queue to receive this trip. The driver mumbled a stop, I was in the morning to catch the plane also mental mood is not good, nature therefore suppressed belly gas. The place was already late than the scheduled time. See colleagues, how to think this buddy trailed, we courtesy of each other greetings How was your weekend
meet the customer, waiting for a half-day people just late. Twists a line of people came to the meeting room, found that one of the familiar, suddenly realized that he had a public speech and the other side of the confrontation, he thought the other side of the problem is offensive, so I reply with the word very tough disagree. I have had a reflection on this matter. OK, this play to see, sure enough in the meeting, this again began to be aggressive, my brain again surfaced once scene, unconscious voice some hair dry. In the time of wandering two times did not listen to understand the problem, blushed to let others say again. I think it's a bit wrong for others to look at me at the moment. Then my attention was completely on how to conceal their nervousness, but the more depressed the more unnatural, the whole brain thinking of what others will think of me, this list is not the lost. My colleagues don't seem to be in the best shape, so it doesn't seem to be very helpful to answer questions. Hey, why are you so on your back today?!!
Wait a minute, the above scene is purely spontaneous. Suppose, I mean, suppose the director is, what should the plot be?
Script B
Early in the morning to meet the plane late, anxious thoughts together, I realized this point, my heart said to myself, I know you are very anxious, but this kind of thing is human uncontrollable, can only let its natural. The mood slowly calmed down. The plane waited for a long time before queuing up for rent, the driver because of the distance close to complain, the heart suddenly fire. I am aware of this, my heart said to myself, I know each other's behavior makes you feel that the service level is not enough, at the same time the driver this trip actually did not earn any money, everyone is not easy. I took the initiative to express my understanding of him, to listen to his feelings, to wish him good luck when he got off, and to add a symbolic tip. Feel the driver's mood a lot better, hope he will smile to the next passenger. To see colleagues, a look is a bad spirit. Though he answeredVery well. but I really want to help him in the spirit, asked to know that he did not rest well because of family reasons, I express full understanding, in the frank communication after feeling he relieved a lot. I met a client, one of whom had attended my public speech and asked a sharp question. I can't help but have a nervous mind. to this point, and my heart says to myself that his problems are not necessarily to embarrass me, This is an opportunity for communication and mutual improvement. I came forward to sincerely shake hands with him and thanked him for his attention to our products. In a series of questions, I was nervous again, to this point, my heart said to myself, Instead of taking this as a marketing opportunity, it is better to understand the client's needs more thoroughly to explore the opportunities for cooperation. The atmosphere of the meeting became open and harmonious. My colleague, though not quite in a position to answer a question, I supplemented it. He sometimes adds to places I can't cover. The meeting ended in a smooth run. Although this is not our best state, but I think it is my heart, we try to achieve a more successful customer communication.
Thank you for watching so much, perhaps notice that I am aware of these three frequent occurrences, unexpectedly complete a beautiful reverse attack! It is my consciousness that awakens the director of the drama of life, thus altering the script to replace the passive response under the intrinsic thinking pattern.
Mindfulness
you might ask, that's not a Q 's son beat Lao Tzu's spiritual victory? What's new. is not the bad things to the positive aspects of thinking, by self-deception to achieve spiritual victory? give you a classic answer that I often use " Yes Or No"
The first layer of No means, how can you be sure that the original natural reaction is the real you, the inherent program in your brain to all your interpretation and emotions? Are you willing to be manipulated by the brain? the world in your brain must be the only explanation of the world?
You see here think I am not crazy, no matter, reason and madness there is no real boundaries. When people are ready, nature is crazy and enlightened.
recent Mindfulness the word in the many books I read, like a big bucket of words to jump out, I think I am ready, ready to consciously invite myself as the director of the life drama, I will not be so willing to listen to the mind's mercy. I know that in the face of the same event, I have the freedom to choose different interpretations of spontaneous reactions, and I am free.
If you ask me again, which of the two scenes above is true? You tell me?
Reference documents
Thank you for encouraging me to continue writing the article friends. The following books and lessons have nourished me and inspired me to write this text. In fact, the concept of writing itself is done by the brain, but the real courage to share is the real director of the life play, not my brain.
Power of now by Eckhart Tolle
Search Inside yourself by Chade-meng Tan
Mindfulness:the 7Thhabit of the highly happy-onlinecoursera free course "A Life happiness and Fulfillment"
Brian at work by David Rock
Self-compassion.org by Dr. Kristin Neff
the journey back to the present by Leonard Jacobson
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"Spiritual Awakening" as director of his own life play