"The greatest regret" in life"

A recent article has been frequently posted online-the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed-about the five most regretful events that nurses tell you about your dying patients ). The original article is written by a nurse called bronnie Ware. She takes care of the dying patients, so she has the opportunity to hear many people say what they regret most before they die. She summarized five things that most people regret most.

I'm curious why there are so many people reposted this article. Maybe it's because death is something that can never be experienced in advance. You will not always face the death of others, or often have the opportunity to hear a dying person tell you what he regrets most. Even if you hear it, you may feel that death is far away from yourself. We can never feel the same way. Maybe we will realize what we miss and what we regret most when our own lives come to an end.

1. I hope that I have the courage to live what I really want, rather than what others want me to live.

This is the most common regret.
There is a theory in psychology that people often regret what they do compared to what we have done. So when people look back at the end of their lives, they often find that there are many dreams that should be realized but not realized. Your way of life, your work, your feelings, your partner, in all aspects of life, how many of us live what others want us to live, instead of what you really want. -- It is also possible that you always regard the life that others want you to live as what you want.
However, when you are suffering from illness, you will find that you should and can put down a lot of concerns to pursue your desired life, but it seems a little late.

2. I hope I didn't spend so much energy on my work.

Ware said this was what every male patient she had taken care of would say. Because of their work, they miss the fun of caring for their children's growth and the warmth of their loved ones. This is often their greatest regret and guilt. In fact, this will become a problem for professional women.
If you make your life easier, you may find that you do not need to do many things. Make up the space occupied by those things, and you may have a better time.

3. I hope I can have the courage to express my feelings.

Too many people suppress their feelings and thoughts, just for the sake of "peaceful world", and do not conflict with others. Gradually, they become average people and cannot become people they could have been. In fact, there are many diseases related to long-term suppression, anger, and negative emotions.
Maybe when you speak out, you will offend some people; but you may not know each other in the future because of your pertinent opinions. Even if the result is a face flip, you are also the winner, just to let you get rid of this tiring relationship that needs to suppress yourself to maintain. -- Of course, there is a bottom line to be outspoken.

4. I hope I can keep in touch with my friends.

Good old friends, we always think of it when we have difficulties.
How many people have ignored their friends and friendship because of their busy lives? Many people can put down their money and rights before they die, but they cannot put down their emotions and worries. Friends or loved ones are our deepest memories in the last days of life.

5. I hope I can make myself happy.

This article is also in the top five, maybe a little unexpected, but many people did not find it until the end of their lives, "Happiness is a choice ". They have been in their established habits and lifestyles for too long. They are used to disguise, camouflage, and smiling faces in front of people. They think that life makes them unhappy, but they make themselves unhappy. It is not until the end of my life that we will find out what is the relationship between others and you? Silly or strange, you can have a sincere smile, it is worth anything!