"Turn" MIT tells us the truth about mating.

Source: Fortune gas station Hefangfang release time: 2015-09-09-17:17:06
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The experiment came from the Upside of irrationality, the famous economist at MIT, Dan Ariely. The results are interesting and are particularly common in our lives.

Part 1.

The experimenters found 100 college students who were in the middle of a young age. Half Men and women. Then 100 cards were made, and the cards were written from 1 to 100 with a total of 100 numbers.

The odd 50 cards give the boys, even the 50 cards to the girls. But they didn't know what the number was on the card.

The staff then unpacked the card and posted it behind the college student.

Experiment Rules:

1. A total of 100 men and women, male singular number, female double.

2. Number is 1~100, but they do not know the number is the largest is 100, the smallest is 1.

3. Number affixed to the back, you can only see the number of others.

4. You can say anything, but you can't tell the other person's number.

5. Experimental requirements: Everyone to find a pair of opposite sex, as long as the two people add up the larger the number, the higher the prize, the prize money belongs to them.

6. Pairing time is limited.

Guess what, everybody?

The experimental setup is simple, that is, men and women can find suitable for their own opposite sex, and strive to get the greatest sum.

The experiment is a bonus, and the bonus amount is 10 times times the sum of the numbers. For example, the number 83rd boys found a pair of 74th girls, then two people can get (83+74) *10=1570 dollar bonuses. But if girl number 2nd finds a pair of male number 3rd, they can only get $50.

Part 2.

Experiment begins:

Because everyone does not know the number behind their own, so the first is to observe others, quickly score high boys and girls quickly be found out.

For example, male number 99th and girl number 100th.

The two were surrounded by a large group of people who wanted to persuade them to be paired with themselves.

"Come with me! I will give you happiness!"

"We're a perfect match!"

Yes, some people are born with "goddess"/"Male God" halo ... Everyone wants to be paired with the best "goddess"/"Male God".

But human monogamy determines that people cannot be paired with n individuals at the same time, so they become very picky, and although they don't know exactly how much their score is, they know it must be higher than the average person.

Why? Look at the playboy around you and see it from the ardent eyes of those who aspire.

From childhood is the goddess of why the outside world seems to be more "noble cool arrogant", because from small to large they have too many messy waves of wave bee flapping over. The pursuer is too many, which has the time to go to one by one good mouth opposite? Only high cool a little to reject the unqualified is the best strategy.

Those who hit the wall of the pursuit of frustration can only be returned to the second, the original goal is to find 90+ to match, slowly found 80+ can also, even 70+ or 60+ also make up.

But those who are too small are very sad, they are all over the wall, are rejected everywhere, be despised.

According to one student, after taking part in the game, he had a different understanding of life ... Because he felt the world's warm in just a few hours-the numbers behind them were too small (basically single digits), and it was even harder to find someone willing to pair.

In the end, the way they came out of it was no more than two ways:

One is that we find a similar make-up, such as 5th and 6th two people paired together, although the bonus is only $110, it is better than No.

Second, and the other side of the discussion, if you are willing to match with me, then get the bonus time is not half, I am willing to give you more, such as 37 points or 46 points and so on, or after the event to invite you to dinner, although the dinner is definitely more money than the bonus amount, but can not find a match is too face.

(This is a real trade marriage: trading conditions include house, property, other material, intergenerational marriage, fake marriage, etc.)

After a long pairing process, see the time is coming, there are a few unsuccessful pairing, these people have no way, can only hurriedly find someone to complete the task. Because the single person is not to get the bonus ...

At the end of the countdown, no match was made for a random person. Of course there are college students who insist on not pairing and ending the game alone.

The experiment is over.

Part 3.

Psychologists have found that the majority of the number of matching objects behind their numbers are very close to their own numbers, in other words, the ancient Chinese said "good match" is still very reasonable.

For example, 55th boys, his target is 80% of the likelihood is 50-60 between the girls, two people the difference between the number of more than 20 of the situation is very rare.

Who do you think the girl of number 100th is paired with?

Funny thing is, 100th girl's match is not 99th male, is not 97 or 95, unexpectedly is 73rd male, two people difference 27! Why is it so different?

The original number 100th girl was dazzled by numerous suitors, she took the strategy is "cover plate reluctant" (because she does not know 100 is the maximum, also do not know oneself is 100th), she is still waiting for a bigger number of men, until everyone is paired, she finally began to panic. So she found one of the biggest numbers in the rest of the boys, the lucky number 73rd. She finally tried to find 90+ 's boys, but they already have a date, and it's not realistic for them to abandon their existing girlfriends to match her, not to mention that they don't hurt their reputation for this money.

We can also summarize a lot of experience from it:

1, because too many places too small, you can not run to see the numbers behind each person. (Space, circle, geographical restrictions)

2, you just see Chinben around the people, who is a large number of people, and those around the lonely empty people, is certainly a small number, through this method you can immediately filter out the target object. (Majority choice, halo effect)

3, small numbers of people to pursue large numbers of people are generally very hard, because to large numbers of people accept the small number of people is not so reconciled, so the pursuit of the party to pay greater efforts to do, but the larger may be how you work hard, the other side also ignore you. (Goddess and cock silk)

This psychological experiment is simply a simplified version of human love behavior.

Part 4.

Each of us in the face of a heterosexual, instinctively will begin to evaluate the value of each other, this is completely subconscious. But the human value is very difficult to assess, no one will put the numbers behind their own, people tend to deliberately exaggerate their value. As for the exaggerated means, the grandiose tools are various.

We've met more than 100 people in our lives, and we're faced with a more complex environment that has multiplied the difficulty of making decisions. Because of the difficulty of choice, humans have evolved some very simple indicators. For example, we are more inclined to decide our own judgments based on the judgments of others.

Experiments let us know that if love is a precise match game, the most important thing is how high your own value is (that is, the size of the numbers behind), and what you do to love may be secondary. But there is a very important difference with this experiment: human society is too complex, a person's value is not so easy to reflect. And it's hard to judge the value of a person.

Another point is that each of us in the eyes of the value of the standard is different, so we can see so many Yuan love. Mr. Zhang and Cui Yingying, Rhett and Scarlett, Romeo and Juliet ... These stories are the story of generations, and it is enough to prove that love that is "impossible" seems to be happening in every age.

Who are the people in this world? It's your neighbor, aunt and uncle. The classmate of the school next door, even your parents.

This social craze is determined by these "most people", so when you see the value tendencies of society, you see the standards of most people. But do most people have to be right? They may not even know what standards they should use to treat love.

Conformity is the best strategy for most of them to "express their opinions". For some of the neighbors of the three aunts, marriage is a business, the woman has a depreciation rate, so the sooner the better to marry out; a man chooses to hire a woman instead of a purchase ...

In fact, as a rational economic person, this may be true. The essence of marriage is an exchange of interests, just as everything in economics can be quantified and replaced with an equal amount of money. But we are all animals that have feelings and weaknesses. The magic of marriage is that this exchange of interests is sometimes wrong, and the reason why it is not equal is what we call variables.

This variable is called "affection".

An old man who teaches economics, who once told students about the economics of love:

"Girl, one day a millionaire asked you to marry him, he would give you everything, it would have been a very good thing." You think you've earned 1 million. But at the same time a multimillionaire has a crush on you, the chance of marrying a millionaire is 10 million. In other words, if you marry a millionaire, you will lose 9 million. ”

This is economics.

"I am very glad that my wife's economics did not learn well, when she was very beautiful and I have no money, but she still married me." ”

This is love.

It is up to you whether you are being taken by these thoughts or have your own view of love.

"Turn" MIT tells us the truth about mating.