Rebalancing of work, study, and life

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My work, study, and life have been in the balance status over the years. All in all, hello, everyone. But since my wife was pregnant, it seems that the balance has not been as stable as before.
After my wife is pregnant, she needs to take a 1 to 2 hours walk with her wife every day. She needs to share more housework and worry about whether the baby is healthy, worried about whether there will be conflicts with the elderly in the education of the baby in the future, worried about the beautiful world of two people in the past will never go forever... and so on.
After the baby arrives in this world, from the first cry, she has changed every day with curiosity, but there are also many problems and challenges, I found that I had so many unknown things. At this stage, the main problem in the family is whether the speed of getting new skills as a father can catch up with the speed of the baby's get skills. with the baby, it is obvious that the proportion of the family in the balance has increased. In the past, I used to read the most technical, management, and history books, now I mainly look at books with babies.

After a period of hard work, work slowly, and study and life are in a rebalancing state. Record some thoughts as a summary.

Living in the present is really important.

The "current" is the smallest unit of time in Buddhist scriptures. There are 3600 current units in one second, and the time is switched to a very small unit. What is it?Live nowWhat about it? My understanding is to remove distractions, chew and swallow while eating, gradually lose consciousness while sleeping, and enjoy the tip rotation in calligraphy and painting, when you are with your family, do not think about the right and wrong aspects of your work during the day.
Live in the present is not to think too much unrealistic if and if possible, actively respond to changes. Your mentality affects people around you, especially those who contact your colleagues and family members every day. A simple and happy environment will create a positive energy cycle, helps face environment changes.

Efficiency takes time.

Uncle Lei Feng said, "Time comes from squeezing and drilling ". In fact, I don't quite agree with this sentence. No matter how crowded, There is only 24 hours a day. The real time comes from more reasonable planning and careful implementation.
We often hear that"Time cannot keep up with changes"This sentence can only be seen literally where the problem is.The planned speed does not keep up with the changing speed. The plan is dead, and people are active. Do not make too unrealistic plans or stick to a dust-free plan. Review your plans in a timely manner so that the plans can keep up with changes.

Pay is proportional to return, but not the more time you pay, the more you return. The simplest formula:Workload = time x unit efficiency. In the face of work, study, and life pressure, I often feel that time is not enough. The solution is also very simple, that isImprove the efficiency per unit time.
Every day, I shouted to improve efficiency, but I could not provide it myself.
Efficiency Comes from investment. The longer you spend with your family, the more happy you will be. Get up early for 10 minutes and have a little fun with the children. It will greatly increase happiness if you give a hug to the wife who takes care of the baby at night and then go to work.
Efficiency Comes from thinking about methods. It is strongly recommended that you take a look at the book "re: more simple and effective business thinking", which is a small chapter in one article. You can read it in one breath. List the points in a few books. If you have a resonance, don't hesitate. It is worth reading this book after several hours.

• Being conditioned is a good thing and a source of creativity.
• It's really good. Don't indulge in complicated problems.
• Instead of using semi-finished products, it is better to prepare half of the products. The difference is that semi-finished products make people desperate, while half of the products give people hope.
• Workaholic is the loser. workaholic creates more problems than solves the problem. workaholic makes up for the laziness of thinking by means of brute force. The result is to make the work efficiency lower.

Know what to give up and create space for your hobbies.

Steve Jobs said that staying focused is not what to do, but not what to do. Chi Jianqiang said in his "Life Element Programming" that he can stick to writing because he gave up TV completely and used the time for watching TV to write, but it does not reduce the time spent with family members.
Don't give up on your hobbies even if you are overwhelmed. But not too much. Keep one or two hobbies, such as writing text or drawing a painting every week. This is a good way of self-regulation.
Knowing what to give up is important and giving time to more meaningful and valuable places.

It supports genuine copies and rejects piracy and shanzhai.

Buy genuine software, buy genuine clothes, especially a little better shoes. Protect your ankle and knees. A pair of comfortable shoelaces can only give you a sense of relaxation.
These seem to have nothing to do with the balance of life, but they are actually related. Here we will not talk about the use of pirated and shanzhai goods in terms of morality. We will only consider time efficiency.
In many cases, we will look at the value of paper, but ignoring our time is also very valuable. Rejecting piracy and shanzhai reduces the risk of time-consuming incorrect choices. Of course, because of the powerful imitation capability in China, some pirated and imitation products can be of the same quality as genuine products, but that is only part of the products after all, you still need extra time to choose, don't you?
Therefore, you can simplify your needs and control unnecessary desires. Instead, you can only buy the most desired products and clear things that are unavailable for a long time, A clean and tidy space will also make people feel a lot better.

Rebalancing of work, study, and life