Recording of the subtle relationships in the "performance trap" office.

The subtle interpersonal relationships in the office are a prism-the images you want to see are often different from those seen by others. Almost all new office staff were excited when they sat down at their computer desk: It was a mixture of feelings of contentment and confidence, especially for young and single people who enter a well-known company, when they call back to report their parents to their parents, their parents will always tell them that you are a new person and should not be lazy; what additional work do you have, everyone can push, you don't need to push, not only do not push, but also do more external things, people are always right to be positive ...... Ah, for the first time, you have a sense of continuous consistency. From then on, you voluntarily took on many extra tasks in the office, you are as busy as an alarm clock with enough clockwork. If you feel so hard, you should be closer and closer to success. If it wasn't the time when I accidentally heard about my colleagues in the company's restaurant, you thought you were far ahead of the company's career road ...... However, for your "hard work" and positive work, it seems that others do not appreciate it. Instead, they may doubt your talents and character. In general, they think that you are a person who knows how to make a show and has a vanity. Do you feel helpless and sad when you hear these arguments? You will think, "How can I reveal my heart to everyone? Is it true that the customer is actively opposed to being mistaken? " The subtle interpersonal relationships in the office are a prism-the images you want to see are often different from those seen by others. So you need to review the current situation and immediately bypass the "performance trap" of some unsatisfactory desires ". One of the traps of positive performance: willingness to be assigned You always think: I am a newbie. If I do more things, I can always earn Positive scores. Actually not. More than of new people are assigned with no complaints to show their "Modesty and willingness to do". Even when the development ends, direct superiors and senior colleagues will bother them with private matters, they are also embarrassed to refuse. "I'm a newbie. If I do more things, I can always earn a positive score. "The other point is," It is really hurtful to reject others in an artistic manner. It is better to be responsive and easy to earn. "The problem is, is it useful for your career development? After you are willing to fall into a lot of transactional work, my colleague's impression on you is: "if he is willing to do these things, it means that he has a 'nanny composite ', this kind of person is suitable for passive work and lacks creativity and personality. " Are you really jealous? In order to meet their needs, you have spent so much time and energy, but are said to be a person who lacks the Initiative Ability and initiative consciousness at work, you can only share a bowl of soup in a humble manner in others' plans. You can't help but make a Grievance: people are not old. I am so grateful to them, but they are despised. In fact, this is a natural qualitative change. When you occasionally help others to do some transactional work and repeatedly emphasize your lack of separation, others will appreciate you; the key to your attention is, "do not have the sense of supporting role too early. "The main character" can do some transactional work, but this is costly. colleagues need to help him with some trivial matters to "repay". "The main character" won't be happy with transactional matters. There are two ways to get rid of the fatalistic deadlock: first, we need to establish the consciousness of the "protagonist", and we should not take the "secondary role" as our own place when we come up; second, you can assign people who have appointed you with a peaceful attitude, so that they can feel that accepting the assignment is not only out of kindness, but also out of responsibility and friendship. Before your colleagues learn to think differently, do not always accept their assignment at will. Trap 2 of "positive" on the surface: indulging in overtime inertia You don't go back until 8 nine o'clock or even later in the office every day, even on weekends. You think you are diligent. Without a strong "time-limited task pressure", you are also used to staying in the office until nine o'clock or even later every day, even on weekends. If the company does not open its restaurant on weekends, you 'd rather buy a bowl of noodles and have a sense of grief for your persistence with your computer. On that day, you just picked up the bowl of noodles. It coincided with the inspection by the boss of the company, and let him "Salvage" to your diligent background. This gave you a piece of speculation and excitement: You are a newcomer, the person with the greatest hope for promotion, right! However, when you forget to go to work on Monday, the department director and colleagues sniffed out a box in the office, and they had a complicated look. HeIen, the middle-level supervisor, said, "I also came from new people. They took the office home in three months. I think it would be quite normal. But if they stayed in the office a year later, when the last bus arrives, I leave reluctantly. I will feel that their life is too closed and will directly affect their interest in this job. "HeIen concluded that Zhang Youchi will be interested soon, so she does not like her subordinates to stay in the office around the clock. Even more severe supervisors than HeIen would not politely point out, "If a person is not in the rush phase and cannot finish his work within 40 hours a week, he must work overtime, it can only indicate that he is inefficient. In addition, many single employees are also making long conversations in the office on weekends, but they are not part of the company's work. "If you leave the last impression on your boss, it's terrible: using the company's resources to satisfy your desires is intolerable for any boss in a company. So why don't I play a tennis game or go home to eat some delicious food from my mom on weekends? Why do you have to stay in an office building with high carbon dioxide concentrations, and there are really lost treasures on the carpet, so it is worth your bid to stay there in minutes and seconds? Trap 3 of "positive" performance: excessive reporting of secrets You send a self-satisfied planning secret to the boss's desk, and then think that the highest decision-making layer will look at your talents differently. Actually not. After making a self-satisfied plan, you did not put it on the department manager's desk, and then merged a kind of "collective wisdom" through discussion and modification by Department colleagues ", instead, they secretly send it to the boss's desk, hoping that the highest decision-making layer will look at your talents as soon as possible. Have you reached your initial idea? You often find that there are only two results for doing so, One is that the boss sends your report back to the department manager, so that the report is as regular as possible.ProgramDo it, calculate your copy; Second, the boss does not move your report. It seems that this is not the case. We will activate the second plan for your department. Neither of these two results is what you want. You are a "positive" and have suffered a triple blow. The first one is to weigh the weights over and over again, the boss is impatient with you. If you choose one between the enthusiasm of the department manager and the enthusiasm of the department manager, you can only select the latter. The second blow is, department managers will always "look at you differently". The third biggest blow is: Public Opinion sympathy does not stand on your side. Through this incident, everyone will regard you as an eager winner, if you have no reason to isolate yourself, is it worth the candle? Believe that the power of self-confidence is a reflection of the confidence of new office staff. In fact, before getting familiar with the entire company process and learning to consider the interests of buyers and sellers, the whimsy of a person are often "pavilions on paper", which cannot be inferred. Trap 4: Active demands You are like a chivalrous man in the office at the top of a vacant space, from then on a one-two work grind, turning you are the eyes of Venus. Miss Huang in the office asked for leave to go to the German intensive education class, and then she will visit her country for three months. After she left, there were five months of vacancies, when talking about this, the boss is like a slightly melancholy tragic drama hero ...... My colleagues all said, "There is no sound at this time," but you can't resist the noisy colors on your boss's face. Finally, you stood up and said, "I 'd better do it for Miss Huang first, wait for the company to find the right candidate ". Your boss looks at you to make you feel that you have done the best thing in the world, as if Yi Shui Xia Ke. Okay, you are grinding. The boss also relaxed and no longer gave a brief review of Miss Ding Huang, a temporary employee. You were so busy that you waited for Miss Huang's return like a lover on the calendar. However, five months later, the news came that Miss Huang stayed with her boyfriend in Munich, I am applying for a local language school. For this chair in China, she only says "sorry ". You started to get an eye on Venus. It has been five months since you paid for two people. Isn't it always so old? You have exhausted too much energy for this. If you want to go down, you will be healthy? You cannot get the sympathy of a person. If you get a pay-as-you-go payment for your application, your location in the office will be more subtle: everyone thinks that you have violated the interest in his income account-why don't you wait for your boss to evenly distribute the jobs of the absent persons so that everyone can share their responsibilities and interests? You only consider the first layer and not the second layer. Expert suggestion: difficult to cause Criticism Of course, not all "positive" performances are acceptable. It is against the identity of a new employee. Is it difficult? Let's discuss what kind of positive behavior will not be criticized: Stay interested in and understand the latest developments in the industry. At the right time, tell your boss and colleagues about the "charging" plan related to the industry, which can definitely help you earn a good score. Many of them are on the planning position. If a colleague has a good suggestion, be sure of its value. Do not mind that the colleague becomes the "second author" of the plan ". Strive for direct superiors and partners to recognize their own solutions. Develop a reasonable division of labor plan and take the initiative to bear the most difficult part of resistance. Do not get tired after completing a big plan. If you take a vacation in time, you will be noticed. It also indirectly proves that you are greatly consumed and invested in your work. Exercise caution and find out what temporary location is good for your own growth. If the practice in this position can become your "potential stock" in the future, don't worry about the price. If you need to be "prospective" at the top of the gap, you have to think twice.