Shiuan: Teach you to win positive reviews of the social circle

Shiuan Psychological Course every time is full of dry, harvest, willing to write down, willing to practice a good experience, a lot to feel.

At the outset, Shiuan pointed out that although we are now a very rich social network, network expression rich, network communication, but still is "meet the three Feelings", and more network communication is not as good as seeing a face exchange came to better.

So what we're talking about in this class is mastering the five tips of winning a positive social assessment in the interview. We can use the gesture "yes" to say, in fact, this gesture can also represent the meaning of peace.

A: Positive positive speech

No one likes to make friends with a frown, so when you go to a party, you have to put the negative emotions away. Because when you have too many negative words, you can easily become a negative person. Too many negative words can become a cycle. If negative things are expressed in the positive language is a kind of humor, but the positive things in the negative language to express is a kind of finding fault

So try to keep the language positive.

Second: engageing to maintain a person's interest and concern

Everyone likes fascinating stories, everyone wants to show the best of themselves, but what we do is not how to show the best of ourselves, but how to help others to show them better. A basic skill is: when talking to people, look at each other's eyes and learn to focus on interacting with each other. Some people are always absent-minded, this feeling will be very bad!

Former U.S. President Bill Clinton is said to be a good communicator, and he interacts with people to make people feel that the world is only two of them.

To keep the curiosity of the world forever, this kind of novelty can give your social bonus points.

Three: Authentic True

Social, people least like duplicity, the most annoying people with masks, two, anarchic.

We should pay attention to the unification of three V in social communication,

Verbal what you said.

Vocal your tone and tone.

Visual expressions, Body language

Note that three V is consistent. Don't over-pack yourself, do too much fake emoticons. Remember that your expression should be the same as your tone, and the words you say.

Four: Connection connection establishment

Two strangers found connection in the beginning of the conversation. The dialogue should focus on finding common ground. May be a fellow, may be a classmate, or find common friends, common background, common interests, such as music, team, film and so on. Once you have a connection, the next conversation is much better.

V: Empathy Empathy

Empathy is not only better to be liked by others, but also easier to like others. Because he can understand each other more easily, so it is easier to see each other's good, empathy and compassion is different, compassion is you poor, and empathy is not help, not understanding, but understanding.

Empathy is to remind us not to rush to judge, do not rush to preach, first try to understand each other. You can tell him that I disagree subjectively, but I'd like to hear your opinion. When you use empathy to talk to each other, it is easy to let the other side remove the defense, agree with your suggestions.

Then the five points are capitalized peace, If you can make these five points, then you can get positive comments in the social circle.

Shiuan Each lecture will be asked to have a guest to interpret different scenes, so that will be more than when the sermon to speak more clearly. So every time I watch a video, I feel a full harvest.

This lecture is the social skill that Shiuan himself summarizes, of course the skill is not the most important, the most important is still true and sincere.

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Shiuan: Teach you to win positive reviews of the social circle