I. Overview
It is not enough to know what the problem is, to be clear about how to balance it, and to reject unreasonable demands.
Ii. Reduction of requirements
1. Learn to be decisive in saying "no" to unreasonable demands and transfer responsibility appropriately.
Identify unreasonable requirements, spend more time on important things, and don't take the time to do the chores you don't want to do.
2. Behavior Selection
Passive type, offensive type, self-confidence type.
Avoid alienating each other, explain the facts in a polite, calm way, and avoid negative emotions.
Passivity means apology or humility;
Offense means rudeness;
Self-confidence is to explain the facts calmly and humbly.
3. Confidently articulate your principles
If your life is filled with the demands of others for you, you must make a difference in order to stop this situation.
You have to draw your own boundaries and tell them to "stop there." To clarify the limits that can be accepted or tolerated.
Passive or offensive can not be successful, in a confident way to tell others what you want to happen.
Confidently argue with the "offender" in a rational manner.
The way to argue: to gain attention and elicit positive responses.
Choose a good time, explain the problem, ask for help, repeat the message.
4. Transfer of responsibility
The transfer of responsibility can liberate time.
Identify the right tasks;
Identify the right person to accept the task;
Delegate the task to this person.
delegated directly to subordinates;
Indirectly delegated to a peer or superior.
Tasks, people, delegation.
The transfer of responsibility makes it unnecessary for you to waste your time in places where you don't have to pay attention, and to focus more on what you have to do.
Iii. Making changes
1. Overview of this section
Looking to the future, making assessments, dealing with relationships, simplifying life.
Long-term goals, avoid ineffective, positive relationships, more time.
2. Pursue your future goals
Describe, visualize, plan, and review your vision goals.
Description: Record a sentence.
Imagination: Ample time to consider.
Planning: 1-Year plan and 3-year plan.
Review: Monthly review, Target changes and progress.
3. Evaluate changes (think twice, then go)
The expected result of the change in rational evaluation.
The assessment method of change "weigh positive and negative" PMI, positive, negative, potential impact,
Categorize the results in a table in terms of positive, negative, and potential impact, giving each result a rating,
Use the score to determine the most appropriate way to behave.
The coping style is divided into: unique and multiple.
Adopt a PMI approach to the only coping style;
Adopt a PMI approach for each of the various coping styles.
PMI results: Reinforce belief when aligned with expectations, unexpected when inconsistent with expectations (but in accordance with implementation);
If the positive and negative difference is not big, postpone a period of time, then do PMI.
4. Develop good interpersonal relationships
Critical, general, and bad.
Increase investment, reduce input, and do not invest.
5. Simplify Your Life
Control life without being controlled by life;
Simplifying life acquisition time and space;
Create time and space for yourself.
Create time: Give yourself some time each day, reduce the use of electronic media, throw away unused items or things; don't make excuses.
Iv. adapting to the global
1. Stage: The life has the predictable cycle, the period divides into the stage, the stage has the corresponding change.
The possibility of innovation: the potential to be imperceptible, the lateral analysis method.
A holistic view of change: A clear motive, a potential benefit, an effective time.
2. Changes in life 4 stages
Step by step, fall into the trough, breed new, ready.
Step by step: stable and successful;
To fall into the doldrums: instability is at the brink of change;
Nurturing new students: rethinking, non-action, seeking advice;
Ready to go: be energetic, prepare and start changing.
3. Using the Remodeling method
Look at life with a new perspective.
Strategies for Optimizing balance