The only way I want you to do anything is to give you what you want. So, what do you want? Freud said that you and I do anything that stems from two motives: the desire for sex and the desire to be a great man.
Professor John Dewey, one of America's most profound philosophers, has a slightly different wording. The deepest desire in human nature, he says, is "the desire to be an important person." Remember this sentence: "The desire to be an important person." "This sentence is of special significance. In this book, you will also see a lot of relevant content.
What is it that you need? Maybe not a lot, just a few things you want to have--you're constantly longing to be able to enjoy them. This is what most people want to have:
First, physical health and life continuity;
Second, food;
Third, sleep;
Four, money and money can buy things;
Five, longevity;
Six, the sexual satisfaction;
Vii. The happiness of the children;
Eight, the feeling of being respected.
In addition to the 8th, almost all these needs are not difficult to meet. But there is a desire that is as deep as our hunger for food and sleep, but it is hard to be satisfied so easily, and that is what Freud calls "the desire to be a great man", which is what Dewey calls "the desire to be an important man."
President Lincoln at the beginning of a letter saying, "Everyone wants to be flattered." James also said: "In human nature, the deepest nature is the desire to get the attention of others." "Note that he does not say" desire "," desire "or" hope "here, but" desire "(to be valued by others). This is a distressing and urgent need to solve the human "hunger", can truly satisfy this hunger is very rare, and it is this kind of people can grasp others, even "at the time of his death, even the funeral parlour those who touting business will sigh for it."
one of the most obvious differences between humans and animals is the desire to be respected.
The desire for sex and the desire to be a great man-Carnegie