Think about "personal traps"

Think about "personal traps"

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Stop and think about a similar "personal trap"

At a cocktail party, Mr. Zhang took out a large dollar bill from his pocket and announced to all the guests that he would like to auction the large dollar bill to the top bidder, in the unit of 50 yuan, until no one increases the price. The person with the highest bid must pay Mr. Zhang the price he prescribed to obtain the large dollar bill. However, although the second-highest bid cannot receive a large dollar bill, he still needs to pay Mr. Zhang the price for his offer. This special auction of 'buy money with money' immediately attracted everyone's interest. At the beginning, the price for "100 yuan", "150 yuan", and "200 yuan" rose one after another. When the price code was raised to "500 yuan", the pace slowed down, only three or four of them are bidding. In the end, Mr. Wang and Mr. Lin were unable to meet each other. When Mr. Wang shouted "950 yuan", Mr. Zhang played a bullet in his hand with a large dollar bill and looked at Mr. Lin awkwardly. Mr. Lin seemed to blurrier out without thinking: "1050 Yuan !" There was a small stir in the venue. Mr. Zhang looked at Mr. Wang with pride and waited for him to raise the price or withdraw. Mr. Wang Bit his teeth and said, "2050 Yuan !" There was a big stir in the crowd. Mr. Lin waved his hand and drank a cocktail, saying that he would quit the "crazy Auction" and everyone was relieved. As a result, Mr. Wang paid 2050 yuan and bought the 1000 yuan bill, while Mr. Lin paid 1050 yuan ". The two were "evenly divided into autumn", and the "1050 yuan" of each loss was included in Mr. Zhang's purse. Three features of traps

This game was invented by M. shubik, an economist at Yale University. People who want to pay for it have almost tried and tried to 'make money' from this auction '. It is a kind of "trap of Life". Mr. Lin and Mr. Wang, who participate in the bidding, are getting deeper and deeper in this "trap", unable to extricate themselves, and finally paid a painful price.

Since ancient times, humans have set up the 'traps 'for animal hunting. They generally have the following three features:

1. There is an obvious bait.

2. The road to bait is one-way, but it cannot be obtained.

3. The more you want to break away from it, the deeper you get into it.

The size and traps of life paths are similar. A. teger) once analyzed those who participated in the "thousand dollar bill auction game" and found that people who fell into the "trap" often had two motivations, first, it is economic and first, it is interpersonal.

Economic motives include the desire to win the large dollar bill, the desire to win back his losses, and the desire to avoid more losses; interpersonal Motivations include the desire to save your face, prove that you are the best player, and punish your opponent. A dollar bill is an obvious bait. In the beginning, everyone wanted to win it in a cheap and easy way, hoping that their price code would be the final price code, and everyone would keep bidding for each other.

After a period of time, that is, when the bid is quite high, the two people who are unable to compete find themselves falling into a trap, but they can no longer leave, they have invested a lot, only by increasing investment to break away from the predicament.

When a bid is equal to a "bonus", Competitors begin to feel anxious and uneasy and find themselves "stupid", but they cannot help themselves.

When the bid is higher than the prize, no matter how hard he tries, he will be the "loser". However, in order to save his face or punish the other party, he will not hesitate to "sacrifice" to raise the price, to make the "competitor suffer even more losses ".

There are traps everywhere in daily life, from competition in malls to waiting for buses, There are traps waiting for you.

For example, a bus usually runs for 15 minutes. When you wait for more than 10 minutes, you will get bored, but you will usually wait, when the bus is unavailable for more than 15 minutes, you may feel "sorry" in addition to cursing. You should walk or take a taxi 15 minutes ago. But usually you will keep waiting, because you have invested so much time and are unwilling to take a taxi now, the result will get deeper and deeper, unable to extricate themselves until the bus is late, your psychological predicament is relieved.

However, there are many "goals" in your life, and they are not "always coming" like a bus, and it is not your "personal time" to invest. How to avoid the trap and avoid the "trap" is also a great learning. The advice of the psychologist J. E. Rubin is:

1. Establish the limits of your investment and the pre-agreement: for example, how much or how long is the investment?

2. Once the limit is established, it is necessary to stick to it. For example, if an invitation is made to the opposite sex, the user agrees to "give up upon a rejection" and cannot change to "give up after three rejections in five ".

3. You don't have to look at others by yourself: facts prove that when two strangers are waiting for a bus together, the chances of "getting out" are greatly reduced because "others are waiting !"

4. Remind yourself of the cost of your continued investment.

5. Be alert.

We may all know these methods, but it is not easy to leave once you fall into the trap of life.