Three things that waste time-same feeling, do it, don't worry!

The three most time-wasting sources in the world: the logs of Kuang haoyue

I ask you, what is the most time-consuming thing in the world?

Renren? Stealing food? World of Warcraft?

No, even though they are ranked first.

Three words are the most time-consuming in the world: worry, blame, & judgement.

First: worry, worried.

There are many things that make us feel worried. The older we are, the more we are. However, in general, there are only two types of things that concern us:

1. We have prepared insufficient things, such as exams, performances, and job opportunities ...... We are worried about these things, because we are afraid that we will screw up. There are many reasons for the mess, but the most likely and direct reason is the lack of preparation. I did not try to review, prepare, learn, or practice ...... Now that we are not prepared enough, what should we do? Sit on the ground and frown?

Of course, it's time to get ready !!!

2. What cannot be changed, such as others' opinions, such as our inherent defects, such as the end of the world?

Some things are not something you can change. Our hard-working Asians always feel that if they work harder, they will be able to achieve perfection, so that people around us will like themselves and the world will be filled with love.

(It's not that the world is full of love ......)

However, you cannot change the world. Like some people who love you, some people do not like you. No matter how hard you work and how hard you are, people who do not like you. Sometimes it's not your problem at all, it's just a bad fit.

Since it cannot be changed, why worry? Can it be changed if you are worried?

Let it go! Let it go if it cannot be changed! Enjoy your life.

Second, a waste of time, blame, blame

Blame is a simple task. It is a human capital.

If we cannot go to college, we blame our parents for improper education. If we cannot find a job, we blame the University for being less pragmatic. If we are late at work, we blame the bus system. If we fall in love, we blame the other party for being selfish; if the performance fails, we blame the speaker for poor performance. If the test gets rid of our blame teacher, we blame the teacher for being silly ......

From now on, if you want to be a happy and successful person, stop that!

Take responsibility for yourself.

You are the only responsible person. Your life, your happiness, is your responsibility.

Yes, we are all sad. You cried and said that your parents beat you since childhood. I cried and said that my teacher abused me in public, he said that his girlfriend had broken his leg for many times and made him afraid to love again. She said that she had no father since she was a child and she couldn't help but like a married man.

Blah blah...

I ask you: So what?

I have never had a sad experience. Let's take a look?

We may meet people who are bad for us. We may marry people who are bad for us.

However, who choose to stay in this tragic relationship?

Who are the people who choose not to try to change or seek help?

Believe me, no matter where we are born, we will always have a choice and always have a choice.

Of course, some choices are not easy, and sometimes we have to compromise. However, choosing compromise means we can and even are willing to bear these misfortunes, isn't it?

Why blame it?

Blame others and others will not be hurt at all. Most of the time, they will not make any changes at all.

A person who feels miserable and confused

It's just you, you blamer.

Don't blame me any more. From today on, everything is regarded as your own responsibility.

If I screwed it up, learn from it and try to do better next time.

There is really nothing to blame.

 

The last time-wasting word: judgement.

Note: The judgement here does not mean judgment. Judgment is necessary.

Here, judgement is to judge others.

We always like watching movies and watching other people's lives. Then we come to the conclusion that John is a dumb, and Li Si is very weak. In fact, Wang Wu is not worth anything but pretending to be rich, zhao qiansun is a brutal and irrational man ......

Yes, these conclusions may be correct.

So?

You have a good view. What do you say is wonderful? Ha, ha, ha, what then?

James is a little silly, but he sincerely enjoys him. Lisi is really weak, but he is very nice to his girlfriend. They will get married happily, wang wuai forced him to wear clothes, but it was because he was despised when he was a child. Zhao qiansun was beaten and scolded by a drinking father ......

Have you seen those stories? What do you don't know?

Have you analyzed yourself?

Interesting?

Judging the lives of others is first of all a very rough and brutal thing. Most of the time, you do not know this person at all, and you do not understand how superficial these judgments are.

Secondly, even if you have determined it, what about it? Others continue to walk his path. Even if it is a silly road in your eyes, he continues to enjoy his life, what about you?

Isn't it even worse to stare at how people live on the side of the road?

You laugh at others with pride, but don't realize that you are also in the picture.

People who pass by are also watching you.

You are also funny.

Or, it should be said that every one of us is funny. But at the same time, we all have their own lovely, hateful, cool, and respectable sides.

In this case, the eldest brother Mo said that the second brother is different and can endure it. If you cannot endure it, you just need to stay away.

Even so, things in the world are always easier to say than to do.

I am still worried, I still blame, and I still define it for others ...... I wrote an article here and tried to give comments to others. It was also a funny person.

However, let's figure this out.

At least I, very happy.

Hope you are happy.