We lost, we didn't lose anything.

Lead: Whatever the reason, no matter what the big things, as long as the loss of a loved one, for anyone is a disaster. When we lose someone, we have to go into the process of letting go, mourning the loved ones away from us.

We lost, we didn't lose anything.

u martina :

any loss is a disaster.

Whatever the reason, it's a disaster for anyone to lose a loved one, no matter what the big thing.

When we lose someone, we have to go into the process of letting go, mourning the loved ones leaving us, and this sadness will affect us to some extent.

Even knowing the spiritual concept of death, I still have to deal with the fact that the person does not actually exist.

Losing someone always reminds us of the fragility of being human, and the thought that life can have so many different ways of presenting.

Therefore, we have to commemorate the "loss" of this matter, to give ourselves time to face.

Some try to escape by making themselves busy, by not acknowledging those feelings, by not dealing with sadness, and by pushing away the "lost" thing, either pushing it deeper into the heart, or pushing it into the future, or they think they don't feel it.

However, those feelings are very common.

The emotions that arise from "loss" give us the opportunity to commemorate our loved ones, to glorify our spirituality, and to remember ourselves as a spiritual being.

So, on the one hand we have lost, on the other hand, we have not lost anything.

Many people do not understand that we can actually keep in touch with those who have died.

If we calm down and transcend our emotions, we can talk and connect with the people we love, and in many cases we still have the opportunity to say what we haven't said before-perhaps our love is not enough.

We may need time to face it, or we may just remember this moment.

Losing is not easy to face, I never say to the one who loses love: "Don't worry, people are immortal, so losing is not a big deal." ”

Everyone really has to give themselves some time to face the loss, even if it is not too pleasant to think of that person, you can take a picture that lets you remember the good times with each other, look at that picture, remember the joyful time that you spent together, spend the years together, and express gratitude for this feeling, And then go on with your life.

Devoted to years and mourning

la défense parc :

i believe that one of the most important aspects of a disaster is remembrance and mourning, and the need to mourn it wholeheartedly.

It is said that in India, when the husband dies, the widow goes up the hill with the coffin and buries her husband.

Others would keep reminding the widow to look at the coffin and see the fact that her husband was dead, and then she would cry and cry, crying very sad, completely immersed in grief.

After that, she would go home, cook for the children, sing, and accept the truth completely.

Most people can't do it, but at least you have to accept your sorrow, accept your grief, and then you can burst into tears and cry until you don't want to cry.

When you cry, while you mourn, you acknowledge your grief and acknowledge that you have lost your love.

At this point, however, you have to look at the whole picture and understand that every soul has its destiny and journey, and you should show respect.

Sometimes you might want to say, "Why not wait a little longer?" I knew I should have done it or should have done that. "But you have to understand that no matter what you do will not help, death is doomed, no one can change, and no one can resist."

Therefore, you must know that every soul has its own journey, and when they are gone, you should show respect.

In fact, everyone who has had a near-death experience says that they feel good, and that the moment the soul leaves the body is light and beautiful.

So, when the beloved is gone, you can be sure that he or she is in a good state, which will make you a little bit. Do not use busy work or other things to cover up the sadness, but also do not immerse in grief forever.

I've seen some people become powerless, unable to do anything, and then fall into depression after their parents or children die. I think this is a sign of resistance-the fact that the loved ones have gone.

This will not only change anything, but also ruin your future life, which is the last thing your loved ones would want to see.

Losing is the choice of the soul

u martina :

According to my experience, I would like to add two things.

First, when someone loses the life of such misfortune, from a higher level, this is the soul to make the choice, that is called life, you can not affect it, can only accept.

Second , people who are living tend to feel guilty, especially when their children are dead, and parents find guilt and think they could have done something to save their children.

in fact , remorse is futile, if you believe in the soul of this matter, let me tell you, millions of people around the world through the media and the dead to communicate, and then all get the message: "I am very happy, very calm, I'm home, don't worry about me, take good care of yourself. I'm waiting for you, and when your time comes, we'll be together again. ”

suffering is your own choice.

La Défense parc: However, one might say, "What if this is not true ?" What if my beloved is suffering? ”

If you want to think like this, you have to know that this is your choice, and this choice makes you suffer.

no one knows which is true, but even if there is so much evidence that the dead are living happily in heaven, some people choose not to believe and to suffer.

If This is the case, I think these people must understand that they are using their beloved death as an excuse to deprive themselves of their happiness, to become losers and victims of life, So that they don't have to work hard to Live,

For example: "My mother died, so I'm the victim and I don't have to keep trying." Because of this and that reason, I am not happy, do not need to strive to make themselves happy, do not have to work hard to live. ”

Please think carefully, you choose to believe what will be the loss?

Your family is in a better place.

u martina :

that's right. If the departed loved one was in a better place at the moment, and as he looked down from there, he found that you were suffering for him and he would not feel good.

so let 's put it down, because when we go to the afterlife, one of the biggest regrets is that those who are still alive don't know what's going on.

death is not terrible, so if you lose a loved one, you have to know that your loved ones are in a better place and their only requirement for you is that you accept the fact Then happily on the road of life.

if you want to commemorate your child or loved one, celebrate it with a happy life , not a miserable day.

There are so many facts in there, and if you still don't believe, I suggest you find a good hypnosis teacher and let him take you to a deep hypnotic state where you can meet and talk to the person you love.

i 'd like to tell you a story of my own personal experience.

When my youngest son, Joey, was 12 years old, a very close aunt died, so he was very sad and couldn't go to his aunt's funeral.

I saw his sad appearance and asked him, "Joey, what's wrong with you?" ”

He said he was too sad to go to the funeral to see his aunt on the last side.

Then I asked, "Do you want to meet her?" ”

He said of course he wanted to.

So I asked him to sit down, relax, and then say to him, "Imagine yourself climbing the stairs, step-by-step, and then you come to a beautiful meadow, where you can see that your aunt will come out and talk to you." I'll count to five, and I'll let you stay there. Come back when you're ready to come back and tell me what's going on. ”

10-12 minutes later, Joey woke up with a bright smile on his face. I asked him what had happened, he said he had met his aunt, and now she is beautiful and no longer suffering from diabetes and other diseases. Aunt also told him not to be afraid, she was happy, because now she and her dead dog together.

Many people have the same experience.

If you relax and talk to the dead loved ones, you will always get the same message.

Sometimes you don't even need hypnosis, as long as you can put down your emotions, relax, imagine, and then let it happen, almost everyone will have the same experience and get the same information.

So you can choose to feel miserable, or choose to accept that people don't die, and then know that when we get home, that's the perfect place.

Take more responsibility for your own happiness

   la Défense Parc:

I think that when the beloved people leave us, the reason why we feel sad is not because they died, but because we lost them.

We need them, we need their presence to comfort us, to make us happy.

Therefore, what we care about is not what happens, but what happens to us after the death of the Beloved.

We must be more responsible for our own happiness, knowing that even if the person you love is away from me, I am not a victim, I have been able to stand on my feet and live a good life, so when I meet the person I love in another world, we will be happy.

U Martina: Some people are especially sad when they lose their loved ones, because they put their happiness entirely on their loved ones, so once their loved ones are gone, they ask themselves: "Why do I live?" ”

It is clear that now you are living to create your own happiness.

Whether or not your loved ones die for whatever reason, maybe that's part of the plan, because you may be focusing too much on the wellbeing of your loved ones, and think your happiness depends on it.

So they force you to turn the focus back to your own happiness, your own happiness, and now you have to deal with your karma relationship.

So in a sense, it also opens a door to your spiritual path.

When you return to peace from the loss of your beloved, you will think:

"Why did I come to this planet?"

Why do I live?

What can I do to be happy?

How can I enjoy this life more? ”

so the passing of love may even be a sacrifice at some level, forcing you to go your own way.

I listen to you with love and compassion!

We lost, we didn't lose anything.