What is your core competitiveness 7-weakness makes you shine

Fan Jun (Frank fan) Sina Weibo: @ frankfan7 Twitter: @ franfan7

After facing up to your weakness, some netizens pointed out that my article was about how to make up for the weakness and didn't say how to make good use of the weakness. In this article, I will crawl through the pole and further share my personal feelings. It is the first step to face up to vulnerabilities and improve them. How can we make good use of vulnerabilities without unexpected gains?

 Unload armor

When I was with my children, they gave birth to a smile without disguise. Instantly smile like flowers, instantly thunder and lightning, not so fast! As we get older, they will become our adults. It also carries a variety of masks and armor that are not fit into each other. Wrap yourself up strictly. This is the game rule of the adult world. Otherwise, you will be fooled and bruised. After a long time, I'm afraid it's hard to tell you what is really you and what is your armor mask.

You can be confused when you are honest with yourself at night. Yes, we hide our vulnerabilities and do not want them to be seen. This seems safe. But what have we lost?

"Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, Joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. it is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. if we want greater clarity in our purpose ordeeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path. "-daring greatly by brene Brown

Weakness is the source of love, belonging, Joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is also the source of hope and responsibility. Only through the weak point bridge can you remove the fog and reach a truly purposeful, deep, and meaningful life.

Embedding vulnerabilities makes us lose the courage to try new things, because at critical moments, hidden vulnerabilities will jump out and ask ourselves: Can I do it? What should I do if it fails? What do others think?

Of course, removing armor does not mean that you trust anyone without thinking. displaying your weaknesses also requires you to know the time, occasion, and whether the object is trustworthy.

Not perfect

I once believed in one sentence, "Either don't do it, do it best ". This naturally has a positive meaning. It puts a limited amount of time and energy into something worth it and brings it to the extreme. But from another perspective, this limits our creativity and reduces the chance of trying. If you pursue perfection in all things, you will miss a lot of wonderful things.

Because the pursuit of perfection may take too much time on the details, or worry too much about the cause and effect of the event, it may greatly affect the execution speed and efficiency.

Recognize your weaknesses and understand that there is no absolute perfection. Sometimes, when I speak in English, I struggle with my accent or the pronunciation of a word, but I gradually understand that this weakness cannot be changed overnight, if you are too entangled, it will affect your strengths. So let go.

Fade yourself

We sometimes care so much about vulnerabilities and hide them with caution. The ultimate cause is nothing more than ego. I can't find a very suitable Chinese translation for this word. Let's call it self-consciousness. Each of us has a "self" in our hearts. He sometimes remains dormant, active, and controls his thoughts. "Self" is eager to be respected, recognized, appreciated, and accepted... If you don't get this, you will feel that you have no value and are not worth it.

Brene Brown said in the book daring greatly: your self-worth is far more than a painting, an innovative idea, an effective tive pitch, a good sermon, or a high Amazon.com ranking.

Your value has nothing to do with what you create. If your self-recognition is fully based on respect and recognition from the outside world, it is tantamount to building a tall building on the sandpile, instantly shaking up and falling apart. No matter how hard you work, there are many factors that affect others' judgment on what you create and how ridiculous it is to pin your sense of value to others' decisions!

Instead of thinking too much about how others will think about themselves, it is better to put limited energy into what they create. For example, I am nervous during the Q & A phase of explaining the solution in English. I am worried that I cannot understand other people's problems, and I am worried that I will be despised by others. To put it bluntly, you should take yourself seriously. Audience 99.9% hope that the speaker will succeed, and no one will deliberately expect you to make mistakes. In fact, no matter what the result is, when I got onto the podium, I knew that I had succeeded. Because I once again challenged my weaknesses and tried again bravely.

 Sublimation weakness

 One day, I accidentally read on Twitter that an acquaintance was suffering fromADHD. A congenital nervous system disease is manifested in the inability to concentrate and many other problems. I was shocked. He is also influential in the European virtual cloud computing it circle, and his career development should be successful. He has the courage to write his own experiences and has a series of articles to explore how to deal with the disease and plan the appropriate career direction. He realized his weaknesses and stepped out of an unusual it career development path, and inspired many people. Many IT people reply that they have similar problems,

Lyrical is my long term, and finally I will be inspired. This video tells us that nickvujicic has an extraordinary day.

He was born with no hands or feet, but he did what most normal people could not do. He sublimated his weaknesses and became an inspiring speaker.

 

Remove armor, not seek perfection, fade yourself, and raise weaknesses. These four steps are easy to say. Every step is difficult, and may be bruised and bruised, and may be suspicious of yourself. Brene, creator of daringgreatly, also had doubts about his value in his ten-year study of weakness. You and I are mortal, do not ask for sublimation, but do not regret.

Embrace your weakness!