Why are men passive after marriage?

Last night, Xia, a sister of her wife, asked her over the phone: Is there a huge change in attitude towards women before and after marriage for all men? After that, a series of complaints were made. In such a situation, my wife has been facing this situation many times. Although she is used to it, she is unable to comfort her. Before going to bed, she looked forward to seeing the sky blue forever, and this kind of eyes I have been used to, my wife is asking for proof.

In fact, the question raised by Xia is quite representative and practical. The sky is always blue and I thought it alone, but I never got a satisfactory answer. Some people say this is the fate of a woman, but I don't agree. At the end of life, we still need to enrich some positive things. An absolute pessimism can only make people lose hope. At the same time, if a man's changes are moderate, she must be tolerant and generous.

The sky is always blue and said frankly, after I got married, I had a certain attitude change to the woman around me. As a result, I was not as gentle and obedient as I was before, and I was relaxed in both actions and thoughts, this also makes me feel a little embarrassed. However, this kind of guilt is mostly the helplessness of unintentional natural flow, because in my opinion, this kind of change is inevitable. In summary, it is called: high-profile pursuit, low-profile love.

In Chinese people's love and marriage, men have always been chasing women, and one is active and the other is passive. This leaves a certain degree of necessity for the changes of men after marriage at the beginning. The principle is simple: that's because most men suppress themselves to a certain extent to catch up with women before marriage. As the active party, the physical and mental women are more physically and mentally exhausted than the passive ones. This kind of self-suppression fatigue does not mean that a man is hypocritical, nor does it mean that he does not really love this woman, because at least he was willing to suppress and change at the beginning, it is motivated by love for women. After marriage, they are not the same. After marriage, they face rice, oil, and salt every day, and they must travel for these things. They will be a lifetime, not just a few months or a year or two as they were in love. If the sky is always blue, Let's explain it in an inappropriate example. If love is a 200-meter sprint with no extra burden, marriage is a heavy-duty marathon, and any discomfort is long-lasting, unlike the sprint, generally, you can suppress yourself to overcome the discomfort.

At the same time, from another point of view, time itself implies a regression of nature. This is a natural law. It is totally impossible for a marriage to suppress a certain party, you need to be sincere, casual, and relaxed, so that the marriage will last forever. Therefore, as a smart woman, we should accept this change and allow your man to pursue you with a high profile and love you with a low profile. As long as the love remains sincere in his heart, as long as this change is moderate, let him change back to his own. What's wrong with him?

Another thing we must understand is that, in this change of Men, Women inadvertently contribute to the change of men in many places. Forgive me for the Blue Sky. How many women do not have a huge change after marriage? Before marriage, they love coquetry, snacks, and call men or even bully men. Once they get married, they all seem to have an essential transformation, because from the moment they get married, they instantly changed from guests to family masters. She married this man, so she won't spend his money any more; she married this man, so she will give him enough dignity, she won't call him or bully him at will. She married the man, so she will pay attention to his health and won't let him be a servant of his own house and his parents. I think it may be because of a change in the concept of women that the suppression of a man's original love is gone, which accelerates the "cold" and laziness of a man after marriage, after all, it's easy to get started. Of course, from this point of view, a woman is innocent, not to blame her. It can only be said that her kindness has not completely done a good thing.

After talking so much, many people may scold me, some women may also have men, and some women may scold the sky for being blue and too masculine, and only speak for men; men will scold the sky for being blue and Sb, and shake out all the men's bottom. Alas, let them scold me. At least the blue sky always says the truth from their perspective.

In the end, the sky is always blue. What I want to say is that I am not simply defending men without principles. We should all be aware of the following: "high-profile pursuit of low-profile Love" is originally a natural law from love to marriage. From a certain perspective, high-profile pursuit of high-profile is just a form, the low-key and low-key love is the simplicity of the love in the heart. Marriage requires the latter, not the former, but in the busy and tired reality, we should all remember to give the latter a romantic sweet, men have an unshirkable obligation.