Why do I not like to raise my hand to speak?

As a child, I was also a class struggle to raise their hands, after growing up, do not know why, always feel the left hand becomes very heavy, can not lift up!

As a new era of love thinking five good young people, I think it may be so.

My character is gentle and tactful, restrained deep. In front of so many people raise their hands to answer questions, oops ~ ~ ~ (mask) Think about it is very shy Ah!

This semester the teacher always love to find me, but I am a humble student, how can I express my protest? You are not the latest to say that everyone is positive, I just don't say! I just don't raise my hand! What can you do to me? haha ...

Recently Genius Deskmate class good low-key, oneself immersed in a book, the teacher howling on the podium: raised his head, actively raised his hands! People indifferent, a face disdain looks good handsome oh! Well, I also want to learn ...

This problem I will ah! Look up, how did not raise the hand, is not very difficult, whether it is I think wrong? In case you raise your hand, and then get up and answer the wrong question, then I would not be very embarrassed, or wait. Moreover, even if the answer is right, there is no good! Even some of the students are following the dictates.

Mother all day take me and neighbor Xiangmingbi, even class raise hands more than, rogue bar http://www.wulai8.com/good annoying ah! How can I such a genius with him, he did I do not do, beat death I do not lift! It's good to be able to answer the question like a chicken blood low!

Be serious! We have a very serious discussion, please come up with some dry goods, OK?

It's just dry foods! I'm afraid I'll blow you up! Everyone crossing take it seriously!

In fact, the above several cases have been the main reasons for the problem covered, nothing is: self, family, the surrounding environment, the teacher of the four factors. Their own personality and cognitive attitude and guidance of parents is the internal cause of influence. The surrounding environment, the teacher factor is the external cause.

Why do you say that?

Character is just an excuse that we need to delve deep into their hearts.

It is generally accepted that introverted children are reluctant to answer questions and reveal themselves. It would be too irresponsible if an introvert could put the cause of the problem to the past.

In my opinion, it is mainly because of their cognitive differences, their self-evaluation is based on self-recognition, rather than the recognition of others. I think I'm good, why do I have to mix? This will make them less sure about the outside world, and raise their hands to become irrelevant.

In addition, in behavioral psychology, there is a reinforcement called substitution hardening, some people raise their hands to answer questions to be praised, if your own answer is similar to his or even the same, then you will feel the same satisfaction with the hands of the person. This is enough, I am also good! Then, raise your hand to appear superfluous!

And, as we grow older, we start to learn to rebel and pursue individuality. Do not raise hands but the results are still very good to get the envy and praise will certainly be more than the praise that can be obtained by raising hands or achievements. This is another form of reinforcement, and not raising your hand will make you feel more fulfilled! than raise your hand to be a good boy, I would like to look different! At the same time will form a more narcissistic attribution-I am very smart, I am excellent

The above explanation is those who clearly will but do not raise their hands, no! Should be the classmates who disdain to raise their hands. There are some people who want to raise their hands but do not dare to lift, how to explain?

Then we dig deeper, and as we age, our consciousness is divided. Especially with the increase in contact and social norms, our consciousness has more from the outside norms, the recognized part into your consciousness inside the moral level, that is, super-me. When you do something, your super I will give you more rules and attention. Will not be wrong, will let others jokes, will not let the teacher dissatisfied ... As you struggle with this problem, you become more and more anxious and less confident. When others answer like you, you will repent, then become more disgusted with yourself, and may even shift your focus to the respondents, or envy, or envy, but only lack the action of change. Even the envy of others will counteract your remorse and go into a vicious circle! When you know that your answer is incorrect, you will flinch and tell yourself or forget it. You will become more and more cowardly, less courage!

Parents have to do is precept, let your child imperceptibly affected.

Why should I use the parental influence as an internal cause? This is not an excuse for children to shirk their responsibilities, but rather to highlight the importance of their parents. The authority of the parents is not influenced by the definition of the rules of the society, and the most important comes from the dependence of emotional support. That is to say, no matter how old the children are, how independent their consciousness becomes. Your emotional connection is symbiotic, and your parents ' dissatisfaction can stir up greater anger, and parental approval will strengthen your confidence. This kind of emotion and the particularity of the relationship, let the parents ' mood and the way of doing things affect the child is the most important, is also the most profound! Like the drizzle of the moisten, the silence has become very precious.

When a child wants to do something, some parents are like this: will ... You don't have to ... Otherwise...... Remember ... When you finish these words that let the child learn to be cautious, when they listen to is a scoop of severe winter cold water, and then the fiery passion also do not shower a heart cool, confidence is flying! Then slowly the child learned such a mode of thinking, fell into the above the kind of tangled pattern. When they know the answer, they are not considering whether there is a better answer, but rather a waste of my hand. This is the parents cured by the show of hands the biggest disadvantage! This makes the child to find the wrong thing of the center of gravity, the impact of the future more terrible!

The influence of parents is carved into the bone, although some do not like or even hate, but it is because they give, a lifetime can not be thrown away! Do not know that parents can understand this grievance or even anger?

In fact, as long as parents know that they do not do the big bad thing, can look forward to the child said: To do it! Believe in yourself, Mom and dad have been behind you!

For those stubborn and reckless children, they eat the loss of nature to remember, who is not memories of their past time will sigh: Hey, look at this silly x! for those calm and cautious children, encouragement is the last straw in the decision to die, the child will not only fart to complete, but also feel good mom and dad, I love you. Don't be afraid of bad results after the child's complaints, this is just a vent of their emotions, deep inside: He and the world has always loved you!

Don't make too many rules for the kids. You're going to do it, and when you're done, your kids will be better!

Finally, parents should not compare their hands to the matter. See! xx how good, like to raise hands, you learn more! " What you need to compare with your child is not others, but yourself. More than others will be tired, very people will be blindfolded! Or compare with yourself, the kind of constantly surpass their feelings is really cool, like the climax of the peak experience will let them decide, become decisive.

People often say, do things first to find their own problems! Actually raise a hand really is a not very important thing, have the ability of the person standing up Ma slip The answer to say, dashing sit down, leave the teacher's amazing and classmate worship, not is fast! Just, you have to become a capable person, nature will not be tangled up in hand!

If the internal cause is to make you brave to take the first step, then the external factors determine the pace behind you to go well or not smooth. So the external cause is also very important!

However, the other two factors, schools and the environment, because the length of the longer, afraid of everyone because the dry goods too much support, I am very thoughtful not write. Don't thank me, please call me Lei Feng! (I'm not going to tell you that I'm trying to be lazy.)

Why do I not like to raise my hand to speak?