Why do some programmers quietly survive the 35-year-old midlife crisis?

Sharing today is some of the seniors who have weathered the midlife crisis and see how graceful the transition is from them. If you want to keep on the process of the road down, it is recommended to read. Article slightly longer.

Character one: Undergraduates, former Baidu Research and development manager, Ctrip customized tourism CTO

From programmers to architects to managers, finally to entrepreneurs

I have always believed in the phrase: The real crisis stems from doing something wrong at the right time. Failure to accumulate at the right time for the next step is the source of the crisis.

For example, when you step over the 30-year-old, your ability is limited to the scope of the program, and does not accumulate its own depth and vision. If this is true, I think I will be able to sleep every night, the daily reviled himself, you special day in the dry god horse.

I have always believed that when you drain your tears, the only thing left is action and effort.

If you are a friend in this growing up, wake up late, this is what I want to say. Do not wait until middle age to find that they did not build their own moat, this time only to know the effort. At the stage of their own efforts, not only do not work against the choice to indulge themselves, this is the root of the crisis.

• Do the right thing

Some heartfelt advice to know what to do at each stage and what kind of ability to reap.

23-27 years: Technology accumulation stage. Assuming that you graduate at the age of 23, the first 5 years of your job are the groundwork for you. In this 5 years time, you have to accumulate enough technical base, polish their technical strength, become a technical subdivision of the field of cattle people.

I still remember the scene of that year: squatting in the rental room nightly every night of the technical documents, in the company continuously dozen dry night scene.

Only those who have really experienced poverty and have experienced hardship will be able to understand that hard work is the only way and opportunity in their life.

27-30 years: The stage of forming thinking methodology and knowledge system. When you accumulate enough technical strength, for example more than 100,000 lines of code, you should form your own thinking methodology and your own independent learning skills, any new technology in your eyes can quickly see the nature of technology, quickly absorbed into your knowledge system as a part.

As long as the foundation of the previous stage is strong enough, you will begin to nibble on other areas, which is certain.

Gradually no longer satisfied with the pure technical field of exploration, but began to explore the things behind the technology: what technology on what occasions to maximize the value of the technical team how to build, the future value of technology in the company? What are the technological needs of a startup company? Support technology products, how to learn to do products? How does the operating system behind the support product be built? What is the understanding of the business community about technology, products and operations, and what are the specific laws of the business community? Maybe more ...

At this stage, the accumulation of technology is simply a piece of cake for you, you need to hone is the ability to think, form your own thinking and knowledge system, this will be your life to help the weapon.

• The 35-year-old crisis through

At the age of 30-33, the key is to understand yourself. Know what you are good at, where your strengths are, how you can maximize your value, and know what your major flaws are. The future is to avoid weaknesses or to keep their own shortcomings, these need to be clear in advance. Once you think it through, you're left with action. You can choose to avoid doing things you are not good at, do not force yourself, do not let yourself in the adverse environment. Of course, you can also choose to keep short, your own not good at the point of becoming what you do best. This need to combine their own situation to choose carefully, finally see what kind of road you want to go, is to do technical experts, managers, or technical combination of products, or entrepreneurs.

• Go your own way.

Programmers, designers, architects, product managers, it's all a job. Occupation must have his professional basic conduct, this is to abide by. Do not do the programmer do not start to change products, in exchange for operations, such thinking no matter what you do, maybe you can do nothing well.

So, before you do your job, don't talk about career change easily. can also be a good pondering, a lot of programmers come from, which programmers are not good, dare to say that their products are very good, I am an operational genius.

Person Two: Yang Yi, senior career planning consultant

Whether you admit it or not, you must pay attention to the 35-year-old phenomenon.

Many companies are clearly under 35 years of age when recruiting talent. If your age is 35 years old but still in the recruitment site to send resumes, constantly job-hopping, you should reflect on what you did wrong.

Of course, according to our practice consulting experience, if you are really 35 years old or even higher age to think about this problem, it is likely that you have not been able to solve the problem, a lot of practical difficulties will make you powerless, helpless.

To keep your career from becoming a mess after your 35-year-old, you should at least set a clear goal at the age of 30 and take 5 years to catch up. This may be the best time for you to grow up. Miss this time, you are no longer young, the community will not be tolerant of the mentality to forgive your young frivolous. Otherwise, you have to go the wrong way, you must be in the future at a cost of 10 times times back.

• 30 years: Three big questions you have to face

First, can we take up family and responsibility?

If you are already married, you must be conscious of how your career is going to be developed to ensure that you support the burden of your entire family. This includes not only your spouse but also your child and your parents (especially when both are only children, you have to bear the support of four elderly people on both sides).

At this stage, your stress is multiplying, but if your growth in the workplace is not doubled, or even in some form, you will be under more pressure for future career development. And this pressure, more times, will make you have no spare time to seek better development.

Many people in the job-hopping, often have a big concern: if I jump, income is not high now, then, now the work, I will easily move again?

So, if you want to act, it's early. It's your only choice when you're not carrying the burden of a family, traveling light, and trying to push forward. Do not at this time to enjoy the ease, otherwise, you will always be in the middle of the life of mediocrity "be comfortable" down.

Second, does your ability match the age?

Among many of our clients, one of the more difficult situations is the inability to match age. Many people who work 3 years, 5 years, and even those who work for a year do not have much difference in their abilities, so when their career wants to break up, they encounter a lot of resistance.

There are two reasons for this to occur:

One is frequent job-hopping, no accumulation in one direction, no skills;

Second, although in one direction long-term accumulation, but only the first year is growing, the remaining years are doing repetitive work, in situ.

So, for those 30-year-olds, from now on, you have to look at a question carefully: how many years have I worked since I graduated? Do I have the ability to match my age?

If not, then you must establish a sense of crisis early and run forward to make up for the gap with those foresight and ensure that you will not be squeezed by others during the competition.

Thirdly, do you build and upgrade the knowledge structure?

In the workplace, different job levels, the things are not the same, they have the vision and thinking patterns are also different.

A most basic salesman, thinking how to maintain a good terminal, this is the tactical level of things, but also his responsibilities; but if a marketing director such a role, but also as the salesman every day to think about how to deal with the terminal boss, that is his dereliction of duty.

The operation of each enterprise will be composed of strategy and tactics. Big strategy will be divided into small strategies, small strategy will be broken down into one of the execution tactics, from the grassroots to implement. Different levels of people, respectively, responsible for the different heights of work, their respective roles, which is the significance of teamwork.

Similarly, there is a different knowledge structure for each person at different levels. The higher the level, the more you look at the problem and the higher your thinking, and the level of your overall knowledge structure must evolve and break through. Otherwise, your ability, can only stay in the specific level of operational level, there will be no big development, the position is more unlikely to rise.

• Before age 30: How to lay a good foundation

I suggest you do two things.

First, find a goal that can be fought for 5 years, 10 years or more.

This is one of the most desirable states. Because a clear goal allows you to grow your career around a point to accumulate experience, and this accumulation of accumulated experience, but also your future promotion of the bargaining chip. Although experience is not necessarily related to ability, but without the accumulation of experience, your ability is basically not the possibility of Ascension.

Macolm Gladwell, in his book "Alien", said: "Whether the best athletes, entrepreneurs, musicians or scientists, after investigation, you will find that they have at least spent 10 years, no less than three hours a day after the effort to emerge."

The second thing is to learn to be a man.

I even think it's more important to be a man than to do things. Finding a suitable career goal may not be easy for a lot of people who are confused, but learning to be a person is a professional accomplishment that you can cultivate at any time in your company.

In the cultivation of human beings, there are four elements that can have a fatal impact on your future career development:

1. Your ability to handle interpersonal relationships

This includes relationships with your boss, and relationships with your colleagues.

2. Ability to learn continuously

I once met a customer, already nearly 40 years old person, does the accountant to do 14 years, still is only a basic level supervisor's position, in the company also did not see the promotion opportunity, for many years did not have the raise.

We asked him, "Have you had any training, education or any other kind of charge during the past 14 years?" ”

No ”

"Never had it?" ”

"Never did. ”

This is a very extreme example, but this phenomenon is very common in the workplace.

Without study, your career development will be in place. You think you have not regressed, but in fact, others in progress, you and other people in the gap between unknowingly opened, is tantamount to a setback.

3. Building a professional spirit

Whether you have a goal or not, whether or not the job is something you want to do, as long as you are in this position, you should do it well.

Even if you don't like the job, don't treat it in a negative way, because you're wasting your time, not just your company's time. In the workplace, you can reap nothing more than two things: one is the return, the second is growth. Before you have a clear goal, make the most of what you are able to achieve in this position, and use your best efforts to fight for it. Take a negative attitude towards your work, you will be empty-handed and get nothing.

4. To have a strong heart

Many of the people I met, in fact, are very fragile inside, unable to withstand the long life on the road of all kinds of suffering. You know, everyone's growth is not smooth sailing. Even Jesus, would not suffer the baptism of suffering?

A strong heart can let a person in despair see hope, and negative pessimism will only let you in the hope of the wrong opportunity in front of the machine.

• After the age of 30: How to achieve a qualitative breakthrough?

To make your career a lot bigger after you're 35 years old, you should start at the age of 30 and take advantage of 5 years to get started with the following 3 essential things:

Complete your professional brand building

"The father of Japanese strategy," the former research and development in the "professionalism" put forward the view that:

"Why did you win?" The future can affect the world's trend, is the competition between individuals. Can we dominate the world stage and forge core competencies beyond others? The only thing you rely on is professional. ”

Are you a first-class business person or a general office worker? The difference is right here! Give yourself a professional positioning, establish their own brand image, will be your future career development to add more valuable chips.

In order to support your "professional" brand image, you need to make efforts in the following two areas:

The first is the knowledge structure problem mentioned earlier.

To get out of a specific operational level, put your eyes on the problem higher, farther, and become a person with "foresight" rather than "sighted."

You want to be the best people in this industry, and with them as the goal, as the example of their cultivation and growth, step-by-step to make up for the gap between excellence. At this time, on-the-job learning, training and so on need to put on the agenda, learn to enrich their minds with new knowledge.

The second is to establish their influence in the industry.

If you want to be a good professional, you have to be in the best of people, set up the influence in this industry, use your thoughts to influence others.

No.2 himself into a good middle manager.

Stepping on a managerial position is a key step in your career growth. After the development of space, and this promotion is inseparable. But this seat is not everyone can sit steady.

Gallup once conducted a survey that found that basic employees often quit frequently, often not in the company, but in their bosses: the company's middle managers.

Because of the poor management of the middle-level, and the development and growth of the subordinate staff has caused a very negative impact, resulting in their professional development, whether in professional ability, or in professional training, can not be effective growth.

You have to realize that your management is likely to change the life of your subordinates, and that the way you manage them unconsciously hurts your subordinates and forces them to leave the company.

When your growth is hindered by your boss, it is your misfortune, you can choose to "vote with your feet", and when you become a manager one day, we do not want this misfortune to continue to pass.

No.3 find a growing company and grow with it

This is a very important thing.

One is you can see a company from small to large, from weak to strong growth process, for the company's operations will also have a deeper understanding, you can also understand your role in the company's growth position and role.

Second, in the process of growth of the company, your value will have more room to play, it will be easier to show out.

Many people tend to look for big companies when they are looking for a job, which is understandable, but it is a better choice to grow quickly and look for companies that are not too big to grow. Because in the process of growth, the need for talent is more urgent, your position will be promoted faster.

Third, your loyalty will bring more rewards for your development.

One of the most important things about a company is loyalty. Especially now the job-hopping rate, wastage rate in many enterprises stubbornly high situation, loyalty becomes a very valuable professional spirit.

Whether you are now "Ben three", or is "Ben three" on the road, please always warn yourself: do not waste the good times, seize all the time to seize, for their own life to accumulate a number of thickness.

Finally, borrowing my favorite jobs quotes as the end of this article:

People in this life can not do too many things, so every one to do a wonderful.

Your time is limited, so don't live for others. Don't be constrained by dogma, don't live in the minds of others. Don't let other people's opinions about your inner voice. The most important thing is to be brave enough to follow your own heart and intuition, only your own mind and intuition know your own true thoughts, everything else is secondary.

Original: http://www.sohu.com/a/216247713_744669

Why do some programmers quietly survive the 35-year-old midlife crisis?