Wisdom will hurt, love is not a long life, strong is an insult; Modest Gentleman, gentle as Yu

Deep Affection

[Original sentence]: Hui will be hurt, and his feelings will not be long-lived, and he will be insulted. He is a modest gentleman and gentle as Yu.

[Explanation]: a person who is too smart and wise will be damaged by himself. Those who are too addicted and persistent will not last for a long time, and those who are too deep may suffer from heart disease, depressed and unhappy and detrimental to the health of the body, resulting in early death, too prominent people are bound to be humiliated, the gentleman should be as gentle and calm as Jade, implicit perseverance, not publicity, but self-evident value.

[Source]: Jin Yong, in the book "Sword of the letter", used Qianlong to send Chen Jialuo peyu a lettering to express his life's special realm, which is exactly these four sixteen words.

However, it is interesting that no one can check the source of such a good sentence (people think that its realm is quite certain to have a source ). Some people have searched Kong Meng Lao Zhuang and the four books and five classics, but they have not yet obtained this problem. Therefore, they have posted this problem on the Internet and won't be able to get it for more than a year. Therefore, it is called "an exclusive question of martial arts and Chinese culture ". Among them, the closest answer is that "the word is a gentleman, and the temperature is like a jade .", Yijing 15th contains "Modest Gentleman", but that's all.

2  Analysis

A friend once talked about Jin Yong's famous saying. According to the author's understanding, it is nothing more than making people not to be strong. If they are too strong, they will be prone to setbacks. If they are too affectionate, they will be easy to short-lived. If they are too strong, they will be bitter. Everything should go with its own nature. In fact, many people think this is a negative view.

After thinking for a while, my friend gave me another explanation, which I think is brilliant.

"I don't think it is as negative as you said. On the contrary, it is a kind of positive wisdom. Everything is developing according to its own law. At the end of any law, it is destruction. development cannot be stopped, but destruction can be avoided. I think this is its wisdom. We can choose to infinitely close to this end, and never reach this end. Of course, we will not perish, that is, we will gain eternal life. Not strong, of course, is one of the meanings, because the more powerful the, the faster it will perish. It's also like being emotional. My understanding has two meanings: one is being emotional too deep, and the other is not easy to maintain for a long time, just as a knife is too sharp to be broken. A person who has a deep feeling is easy to survive for a long time, just like your life is a string. If the moment is tight and straight, it will be broken soon. It is so time-consuming. Therefore, we need to leave room for ourselves to share our own lives, love each other for seven points, love ourselves for two points, and leave the rest for reason. This is not selfish, but to keep our feelings for a long time. A gentleman treats everything with a gentle attitude, and will not be damaged even if there are setbacks or injuries. The moral Sutra advocates "inaction is all done". As long as you are able to gain benefits by gaining momentum, without being arrogant or futile, you can get the result you want without any effort. This is the unparalleled wisdom left by our ancestors. If the Sages only teach people negative ways to avoid the world, they cannot become sages ."

3  New Solution

1. Love is not long-lived: the friendship between the gentleman is as simple as water, love is sincere and deep without complex decoration, just like this simple Tiancheng Meiyu, you don't need to be all-round, fine carving. The word "Shou" is engraved and carved. (Shoushou: engraved; see "medical history Li weichuan": "The system of one party and the service is effective, the special life of the wood .")

2. Strong, strong, and humiliating: strong, and bound to be frustrated, as if Mu Xiuyu Lin. Here, the word "insult" is used for frustration, compromise, weakening, and pressure relief. (Humiliation: pressure down, frustration; see "the tomb of Yinque Shan Han Zhu Jian Sun Yi Bing Law": the future is not sent, the arrival of the end, or to attack its strength, or humiliate its sharpness .)

3. Modest Gentleman, gentle and gentle as Yu: Duan fangda ya, treat others and look forward to others, and behave calmly and calmly. His character is like this fine jade. (See Guofeng Qin Feng Xiao Rong, which contains "a gentleman of the word, and a gentleman of the temperature ." And see Yijing 15th, which contains "Modest Gentleman") (xianxi sangren)