You should be born from the home

Isn't life a hundred times too short for us, how can we find ourselves worried?
1. Frederick William Nietzsche

My patients often tell me this: "My mother always wants
Let me be a doctor, "" my father wants me to pick up his business like him ,"
Or "My sister thinks I should be a teacher like her ." Then, I
The patient said, "But what should I do? No matter what I think
How should I spend my whole life? Even my neighbors think they are
The best idea. It seems that I do not want to know what I want to do ."

What do you think?
Who will arrange your life?

Who will make your important decisions? Who will hold your career? Follow the other steps
You may find your opinions unsatisfactory. If you hear what they mean
Someone will be happy, but it's not you. If you want happiness,
To be satisfied and succeed, you have to plan your life.

Five hundred-year plan

Can you live for five hundred years? You are the kind of person who can survive infinitely
? If so, you can use the first one hundred years of your stay on earth
According to the needs and aspirations of the parents, "according to their opinions ". However,
In the second one hundred year, you should "follow the opinions of the neighbors". He is always better.
People, to see what they want you to do. In the third one hundred year
"They are also very important. In the fourth one hundred year,
You can "follow the opinions of some groups you pay attention ". In this way, you have
It is very generous. The fifth one hundred year is the last one in your life.
For centuries, I think you should live on your own.
However, you are a mortal, your life is not infinite, you cannot put
Abandon your desires and ideals to follow others' ideas, or you will regret it.
Hate and blame them.
All we have is the present, but today. You
Everyone we know is dying. who left this beautiful world?
There is no longer life. Achieving "success" in your life is based on your thoughts
Give full play to the role of every precious period of time in your life.

What do you think is important?
How can we make you smile?

Ask yourself: "If I only have one year to live, and every star
How can I pay for it if I have to work for forty hours or 'pash' for forty hours?
What about the time? Will I still live like this? "
If the answer to the last question is not "yes", I will be awake.
Right! You are a mortal, dear friend. The clock keeps ticking. You
How many years are there!
I often hear people say, "I hate my job, but it depends on it.
Active ." I thought, "Are you kidding yourself? You must be the one that can survive
Five hundred years !"
As for myself, I only have one hundred year, maybe less than one hundred.
Year. I can't afford to spend my life doing what I hate. Me
I have to find work areas, friends, and lives that bring joy to my life.
.
"Living by it" is not a good reason. Suppose you hate the present
I am very worried about my work. I almost don't want to get up in the morning.
Bleeding, but able to earn rent and cars, can earn to buy necessities
Money. Then, you can remind yourself: if you have the ability to get used to relying on you
You have the ability to maintain your own life through tolerable work.
To maintain your life. You don't need to stay here. If you
If you have done a good job in a specific field, you can do the same job as what you are willing to do.
It works very well. Be bold in your life, and look for you without fear
.

Don't hesitate, don't hurt, don't waste you
Limited life.

I don't want to do anything

It is generally not too difficult to persuade people to live their own lives. TROUBLESOME
Yes, they asked, "How can we do this? I want to live on my own,
I am not sure what I want to do ."
When some patients first came to me, I called them "the biggest
Loser ". They have never been able to do anything.
Negative attitude. They don't know what they want, so I call them
"The Biggest Loser ".
I gave them a pencil, a piece of paper, and said to them, "You pull a sheet.
Child: 'I don't want to do anything? '"
They write fast. Many people cannot remember what they want to do.
But they do not want to do anything, because they are used
I am holding a negative attitude. "I want to be a cleaner ,"
Write, "you don't want to be a servant ." They wrote and wrote, and finally couldn't think of it. Pass
After a while, this kind of negative attitude does not work.
Then I said to them, "Now, open another list and write" I ".
There may be no objection to doing things '"-- it is still in a negative form, because
This form is widely used. So they wrote it again.
They are willing to take some time to do things. When they cannot remember
What are their attitudes when writing on this list?
Some.
So I asked them to open a third list: "What I think I might like
." This question is still very uncertain, because I am used to being a loser.
People are afraid to make decisions and are not responsible for making clear statements. I'm afraid they made a decision.
Action is required, and finally failure is required. They are worried about failure.
Hope is strong.
In order to help the patient enter a state of success, my goal is not
Is to let them say "I certainly want to do --", but to give them
Are there any jump points to worry about? Let them test new possibilities and
Start thinking about the problem. Once the patient "may like" what they do
Having a minimum vague idea, that is, before a successful idea
.

Practice now

Maybe you have already considered which industry or
Occupation. Then, you can start by viewing the recruitment advertisement. Go to school or
The training center will talk with people who have already worked on that line to find out what machines are there.
Yes. You may have decided to sign up for a course and find that you are not happy at all.
Huan it. Great! You have learned and made great efforts. This is a kind of Exploration
Suo is wise. It doesn't mean you have to do that line all your life, but just do
It is a smart way to evaluate your knowledge.
When you know more about the situation, you can better judge whether
No. continue learning. Know what you might be interested in, you
There is a start point, because --

To be successful, you must "take action ".
And go all out !"

Some people want to make some achievements, but they do not
It is very difficult for them to figure out what they want to do. Because
I don't have a clear goal, so I think it's hard to make up my mind.
What. So they sat down in Yari, waiting for a magical thought.
I think, "to know exactly how you want to spend your first time
."
However, I know that many of the projects I have received have achieved great success.
People do not have many clear goals in mind, but on the contrary, they have changed dramatically.
Fast, sometimes it doesn't even know what the target is. They just keep trying
Try to do new things until you are satisfied with your choice. He
Many of their operations are like playing a baseball "try a mistake", and it looks like
Rashly, but with too many bits, we have played a lot of "Base
Play the ball.
Successful people are very active, taking action as their own direction, testing
There are many new approaches. Therefore, after a busy schedule
Some valuable achievements.

Explore

I started to study music in college, and I never thought of anything else before.
. My family is engaged in music, and music is part of our family life.
Is a very important component. We have two pianos, one of which is placed in the building.
On, one rack is placed downstairs. In this way, Charlotte and I can practice the piano at the same time.
Do not interfere with each other. I learned music when I went to college in Charlotte. So did my parents and friends.
They all want me to take her path. I chose music as my main course.
However.
When I went to school at Fairfax, I got hit by music.
Many opportunities have made me a star in this school ". School performances
I play the piano, join the choir, and write songs. That's how I got out.
And I think it is not common. However, there are almost
I attended 2,500 students later at the University of garifnia at Yangsu.
More than 25,000 students. Music students come from all over the world. There is
Shi Lai's new piano student, playing the piano is almost impeccable, the skill is very pure
Well, there is also a fourth-grade Russian student who plays well.
I slowly learned: "This is not a middle school. I have nothing here.
It's not average. "I'm not as enthusiastic and happy with music as others do.
Love is not as talented as others. However, every
People think that I want to take music as my career. Two years later. I only know
"I don't want to do what my mother wants me to do, but it's annoying to see it. When
My friends thought I was very interested when I played the piano or wrote a good song. However
Yes, I understand that I am just Mediocre ."
I made a wise decision and left the music system. I am not spending any more
Time and regret. I realized that music is not what I want to do.
After two years, I have never spent my whole life.
I began to explore what I really wanted to do, but I was still dependent on others.
Select for me. One of my friends is financial, and he wants me to leave him.
Road, I changed my learning to economics. He likes to study in a class with me, but I
I don't know much about economics, I don't know what to do during class, or even want
A dry and tasteless textbook is thrown to the professor. He is the author of the textbook. Hard on me
Just because my friends agree with me. However, once again
I realized that "this is not my career ..
Then, I tried to do what another friend did. I like to give it to myself
Design clothes style, one summer also made sportswear designers. So,
I decided to do business and make clothes and juice.
I changed my plan multiple times. Every time I listen to the adviser,
They are all very happy. Almost every semester I have to change to a major.

However, this is good.

After exploration, failure, and attempt, I finally found out what I could do.
I was so excited that I was excited. Then
It's my psychological research work.
If life is a mythical story, I will wake up one morning
When I heard the voice of the violin, someone suddenly gave me a revelation: "You
You should be a psychologist, and you will do well ." So, I am
Suddenly, I took my flying blanket to the University of California, Los Angeles. Yu
Yes, I chose to read all the required courses and quickly completed all the lectures.
The best course, and the full score is obtained after the exam is returned.
It is an experienced and discerning psychologist. In a few seconds, I will
Famous for all over the world.
However, life is not such a beautiful God for me and anyone.
. In fact, I made many stupid decisions and made many stupid decisions.
After the mistake, I learned psychology only because of school regulations. Then I
I gradually like the content and research work of psychology, and the psychology department and its
Some professors like the whole field of psychology. This seems incredible.
External tasks. What's even more miraculous is that I spoke in the psychology class.
When talking about something, the classroom is often very quiet, which surprised me very much.
Exception: "Everyone is listening while I am talking! Apart from my family and friends
In addition, when I speak, it seems that no one listens with great attention !"
I was inspired, So I enrolled in another psychology course.
Cheng, and do their best to work hard, other students go to the library only a few
I have to watch the documents for a few weeks. Then, I start
Go to the hospital for an internship. When I went to treat a child with mental illness
One slapped me and the other slapped me. At that time, I thought, "What am I doing?
? Should I be crazy? "However, it also makes me very happy.
Then, I went on to take one course after another.
Several professors are particularly interested in me. So I started
A child suffering from mental autism is studied, and he has gone through my documents with remarkable advantages.
In turn, psychology workers from all over the country have come to investigate this research,
Life magazine also reported.
Then I was invited to Europe to continue working as an lab engineer at the University of London.
And some metallurgy and research. One person did not speak for 30 years.
It took me 30 days to talk to him! I wrote this case
I have published my doctoral thesis in the newspaper. These are six
Things of the decade.
When I review myself, I find my love for Psychology and what I 've learned
I am very grateful for the twists and turns. As a psychologist to help people
They have lived a fruitful life, which has brought great significance to my life.
And clear goals. Although people now praise me as a winner, I started out
However, as a mediocre music student, it is a loser because I learned music.
Happy is the hope of my family. However, once I do not know anything else
Start to explore in learning and try it the same way.
My fantasies gradually form the path I want to go.

Now you should start exploring what is your need and success!

The first step is to do the exercises I mentioned before when talking about patients.
If you have just started your career, or you are not satisfied with your current job
To make changes, follow the exercises listed below. Maybe you are
It's not about your career, but about how to work with your spouse and friends.
Improve the relationship between your parents and children.
Heavy, smoking habits, living in the surrounding environment feel unhappy, then, below
Column exercises are also useful. Modify it according to your current concerns.
The purpose is the same, to help you remove those in your mind.
It helps you find out what you want to do.
Preliminary clue.