All life conditions are under siege

A friend who has been searching for many years on his emotional path has not yet entered marriage. One day, she suddenly sent a text message asking me, "Is it okay to get married ?"

Her words put me into thinking. In terms of form, a paper certificate makes the relationship between the two people legally recognized, and a ceremony is sufficient to declare them to friends and friends to establish a connection. From unmarried to married, it can only be achieved through such a simple program, but the days after marriage are long and complex. After passion, it will always become dull, and the rice and oil are mixed with bitter, sour, and bitter, can I simply use "good" or "bad" to easily assert it.

Don't get married, each has its own advantages and disadvantages. If you don't get married, you can enjoy free space, but excessive freedom will turn into loneliness. If you get married, you will inevitably lose your freedom. If you don't get married, you can decide on your own. But you may also want to give advice to someone when you have no idea. If you get married, it is good to have a personal discussion in everything. But when both parties disagree and refuse to give in, a dispute may arise.

We have heard of the fairy tale from an early age. The white horse and white snow princess walked into the castle with their hands. They lived happily ever since. Fortunately, the story was written, and the perfect ending was achieved. I'm afraid that their daily locks are similar to ordinary people's. In addition to warmth and harmony, there will inevitably be a quarrel and anger, and occasionally they will be born. The difference between life and fairy tales is that life is real and vivid, trivial and messy. It is not perfect, but belongs to us.

As we all know, the perfect beauty of fairy tales exists only in the illusory world, which is so fascinating but not close to each other. We all understand that reality is full of cruelty. In many cases, happiness is at the cost of pain, and it teaches people to look forward to it.

People are used to comparing marriage to a besieged city. people both in the city and out of the city feel that they are in a bad situation and envy each other, but they do not know that the other party is envious of him. This kind of psychology often makes us fear and hesitate beforehand, and regret it afterwards. It seems that no matter how we choose, it is wrong. In fact, it is because we do not know what we want, and we strongly pursue perfection.

What exactly do we want? If it is just a simple problem, no one will be stumped. However, what we like will be bound with some of our annoying items as an option, so we are in a dilemma in the face of this unsatisfactory buy one get one free.

"That person's career is stable, his income is high, his personality is good, that is, his appearance is not what I want. He is too fat ." A girl once told me about her two-month relationship with her boyfriend's status in her mind. If she continues to interact, it may be difficult to find the feeling of love and break up, but he was afraid that he would not be able to meet another person.

Such a situation is not uncommon, so timid people are still hesitating, the courage of the person has been broken through the blood.

If you don't walk in, how can you see the scenery in the City? You can never feel it in your own way. It's just because you have many different experiences that will enrich your life. A divorced colleague told me that his life is now clear. Thanks to the failed marriage, he understands that life should be wonderful for himself, he traveled around the world, and he was brave enough to fall in love.

In fact, all life conditions are besieged, and marriage is only part of it. In our lives, there are still many unpredictable futures that are full of risks. There are also many choices that need to be faced by us. In addition to the extremely intelligent analysis and judgment, sometimes, we also need the courage to make a bet on our lives.

It seems that our choice has never been perfect. It always has two sides. We are always in the same state as the negative, and both the good and the bad coexist. We either choose the one that is best suited to our own needs, but at the same time, we must accept its negative impact to a certain extent, or choose a less negative one, but at the same time, we have to close our eyes and ignore the pity that it cannot meet our own needs.

There is no perfection in the world. If we are strongly pursuing perfection, nothing will happen. Fairy tales are like stars shining in the night sky. They are crystal and beautiful, but they are far away from us. We can only enjoy them far away, but cannot enter the world of them. The reality is like the natural Yanyu. It was originally defective, the temperature was cold, and it looked so imperfect, but it was closest to us. We can warm it with our bodies, and we can sculpt it with wisdom, therefore, in reality, every one of us is trying to become an artist who masters our own lives.

If you have to think about it before you can grasp the future, and are willing to make progress, then you will only be standing in place forever. Because the future is full of variables, no one can grasp it. Life is a gorgeous adventure, because there is adventure, the plot will be exciting, we must do our best to live up to this time. Assuming that we can set a good outcome in our life, this game will lose color, and without the challenge, we will not be able to do our best, and this life will naturally become tasteless.

Of course, our life has its own trajectory to find, and our work can also be planned. However, even in those clear tracks and complete plans, there are still many uncertainties, as a result, unexpected results are displayed. Therefore, in people's hearts, there is always a vision and worry about the future, but also the joy and sorrow after the end.

The results are not important. What is important is that we have experienced a wonderful process. Have you ever had such an experience? When you are traveling to a place, you are always full of expectation. Maybe you listen to the songs and enjoy the beautiful scenery along the way, or have a pleasant conversation with friends around you, maybe those scenes will be used together with memories and thoughts, and there may be unexpected surprises ...... After the end of the trip, I suddenly felt that I was most excited, and that every step of the trip was rewarding, And the destination scenery, it's just a wonderful ending.

In addition, we have many different experiences, some pains, and let us consolidate and strengthen. There are some mistakes that help us accumulate experience. There are some regrets that teach us how to cherish them. There is no need for us to stagnate because of our worries about the results. Every experience is the wealth of our lives.

Life is always faced with choices and risks. It is wise to adjust your own mentality to avoid it. You know, the results are not important. What's important is that I don't have any regrets when I try my best. What's important is that even if I fail, it will prompt me to grow.

The mystery of the universe lies in its incomprehension, the beauty of life, and its unpredictability. The loss of server guard makes sense. The mountains are full of water, and the flowers are dark. The status of life is in the unknown and changing, waiting for us to touch bravely.

Marriage is a besieged city, and it is surrounded by a heart that is yet to be practiced.

Life is surrounded by conditions, surrounded by a heroic spirit.