How many aspects of your life are there? It takes one second to imagine you are wearing a negative package. Now, I want you to feel the feeling that your shoulder straps hold your shoulders. Do you feel it? Then I ask you to put everything in your life. From an early age, there were small ornaments in the shelves and drawers and various items collected. One side is placed inside, and the other side is scaled. Then enlarge the things-clothes, desk equipment, desk lamp, and tablecloth TV. The package should be heavy now. Move bigger things inside. Your home sofa, bed, dining table. Everything is in the bag. Enter the car. Whether the house is a single-door villa or a two-bedroom apartment. I want you to pack all of them into your package. Now, try to move it. Difficult, isn't it? That's how we treat ourselves day after day. We keep increasing the burden on ourselves until we are unable to move. But there is no doubt that life is mobile. I want a fire to burn this package now. What do you want to extract from it? Photos? The photo is for the forgetful person. Take a drink and the photo is burned. If we forget to burn everything, we will wake up early tomorrow morning and find ourselves as light as a swallow. Isn't that a good thing?
How much does your life weigh? Imagine for a second that you're carrying a backpack. I want you to feel the straps on your shoulders. Feel 'em? Now I want you to pack it with all the stuff that you have in your life. start with the little things, the things on shelves and in drawers the knick-knacks, the collectibles. feel the weight as that adds up. then you start adding larger stuff-clothes, table-top appliances, lamps, linens, your TV... the backpack shoshould be getting pretty heavy now. and you go bigger. your couch, bed, your kitchen Table. stuff it all in there. your car, get it in there. your home, whether it's a studio apartment or a two-bedroomed house. I want you to stuff it all into that backpack. now try to walk. it's kind of hard, isn' t it? This is what we do to ourselves on a daily basis. we weigh ourselves down until we can't even move. and make no mistake Moving is living. now, I'm gonna set that backpack on fire. what do you want to take out of it? Photos? Photos are for people who can't remember. drink some ginkgo and let the photos burn. in fact, let everything burn and imagine waking up tomorrow with nothing. it's kind of exhilarating, isn' t it?
However, this time is a little different. Keep up with me. Now you have a new package. The difference is that this time I want you to put people in. Starting from an acquaintance with a nod, a friend of a friend, and a colleague in the office. The next step is to share your most private secrets, including cousins, aunts and sisters, uncles and uncles, siblings, and parents. It is your husband, wife, your boyfriend, or girlfriend. You put them in the package. Ann, you won't be set to fire. I just want to tell you the weight again. Without a doubt, your interpersonal relationship is the heaviest part of your life. Do you feel the feeling of being down on your shoulders? All those concession disputes and deception hold you down. You do not have to carry heavy burdens. Why not let it go? Some animals are born to bear each other and become a symbol of the everlasting and immutating death-the so-called Cowherd and Weaver girl. We are not such animals. The more slow the action, the sooner the death is greeted. We are not a pure hacker. We are sharks.
Now, this is gonna be a little difficult, so stay with me. you have a new backpack. only this time, I want you to fill it with people. start with casual acquaintances, friends of friends, folks around the office. and then the people you trust with your most intimate secrets-your cousins, your aunts, your uncles, your brothers, your sisters, your parents, and finally your husband, your wife, your Boyfriend or your girlfriend. you get them into that backpack. don't worry. i'm not gonna ask you to light it on fire. feel the weight of that bag. make no mistake, your relationships are the heaviest components in your life. do you feel the straps cutting into your shoulders? All those negotiations and arguments, and secrets and compromises. You don't need to carry all that weight. Why don't you set that bag down? Some animals were meant to carry each other, to live symbiotically for a lifetime-star-crossed lovers, monogamous swans. we are not those animals. the slower we move, the faster we die. we are not swans. we're re sharks.