This document is used only for those who are with poor doctoral students and do not seek any return! This article is only intended for students who are still struggling to pursue knowledge! I will only pay homage to the upcoming doctoral career in this article! The doctoral girlfriend has something to say !!!
Before I met my boyfriend, my admiration for doctoral students was like Yan jiangshui. I thought they were the pride of my hometown and the elites of my country. They seemed to be gods on the mountains, who devoted themselves to scientific research, it is a great difference from our mortals. However, I have discovered that the doctoral students I have been studying are especially "disadvantaged ".
The other day I heard from my boyfriend that he broke up with his girlfriend next door, and his parents did not agree to marry his daughter without a house. My boyfriend's roommate broke up with her girlfriend for two or three years. The reason is the house, money! They are about to get married. His girlfriend is working in his hometown. She wants to come to Shanghai after she gets married. She wants to buy a house in Shanghai. His current financial situation cannot be bought, so he is in a quarrel ~~~ Minute-breaking. Minute-breaking ~~~ Points, that's the point, because of the house, money! House! I heard that the doctor's brother drank alcohol every day and couldn't help crying at night.
I am a girl. I can understand girls and their parents. All parents want their daughter to marry in a more favorable way, so that she can suffer less and suffer less. I once had a bad financial condition because of my boyfriend. I burst into tears: Why are other girls married, romantic weddings, diamond rings, houses, and cars. But do we have to borrow money for a wedding? Let alone the house and car. Why? I feel wronged. I am no worse than other girls. Why is my life like this ?!!
My boyfriend is also in a bad mood. I can't tell if I have something to say. In the past ten years, he has been admitted to Jiaotong University from the countryside, studying, and reading blogs. in his hometown, he is an example of his younger brother and sister. He is regarded as a genius and proud of his hometown. At school, he devoted himself to scientific research and received many praise for his achievements. But he couldn't stop the tears of my grievance. in material terms, he could not give anything now, and he could not understand why he thought he was good, but it was like this. School subsidies can only ensure that you are satisfied. My birthday present this year is a rose gold necklace. I am so happy and distressed that he has saved me for a long time in order to give me a gift.
He has no money, but is he wrong ??! No !! He studies hard and works hard every day. Am I wrong ?! I can understand his situation very well. However, I just want to cry, and I just can't stop my tears. In this material Society, I admit that I am a little worried. I also want to be as weak as a fairy, sometimes, really sad. Why? Tell me why ......
I remember asking my boyfriend why he applied for an exam at Jiaotong University. He said that in high school, he especially liked military affairs, especially those who liked military magazines and military ships. He dreamed of becoming an expert on Chinese aircraft carriers. Later, I asked him why he was a doctor and said that he hoped to have a better life in the future. But I knew that now, it would be better for the undergraduate students to come out to work now. Like those undergraduate students, they have already lived a good life.
I would like to tell students, especially students, that if the family is not very wealthy, please think clearly before deciding whether to study by doctor, no matter how suitable you are for research, no matter how enthusiastic you are, devote yourself to science. Because the stress from life and emotion can surely drop your passion.
Doctor, it is very difficult to read. Many doctoral students have white hair when they are less than 30 years old, and their hair also decreases with the increase of thinking. Moreover, they should at least read and begin, your subsidy at that point is enough for your own food and clothing. If your parents are providing for you to go to college, you cannot take a rest after your graduate students. They think that you have not yet worked, they want to help you save money to marry a daughter-in-law (my boyfriend's parents are nearly 60 years old and have grown a lot of food for sale. You can think of all the vegetables on the market. No matter how hot the day is, they are all busy in the field. To occupy
A good stall. I went to the city to sell food every morning at. How can I persuade them not to listen to the food because he hasn't worked yet ).
Another thing that makes you sad is that the children of your classmates can go to soy sauce, and you have not had a girlfriend after several years of late marriage. If you have a girlfriend, the situation is even worse: originally, the pressure only came from the feeling that I couldn't help my parents. Now my girlfriend is under another pressure. Even if she is very reasonable, gentle, considerate, kind, and simple, she will not make any noise or complain, and you will be under pressure. A man with a sense of responsibility will do his best to make his/her lover live a better life. Now, you basically cannot give her anything, or even half of her salary.
The worst thing is that you were hurt when you were under a lot of pressure: she left you. Everyone thinks that there is a bright future after graduation. Yes, after graduation, you are considered to be a great girl. However, how many people have survived these years? Emotional injury, the heart stabbed by a knife, all a lifetime of scars.
I probably know why almost every year the famous university has sent a message about the suicide of a doctor. It is certainly not because of which algorithm is difficult to push out, but because of the dead end of thoughts and feelings, it cannot be solved because of the depressing pressure of all parties. They have a high IQ and are elites in a certain scientific field.
But emotionally, they need support too much and cannot withstand too many attacks. In fact, I think they are special "disadvantaged groups ".
We all know the needs of the kingtower: physiology, security, social networking, respect and self-fulfillment. I found our physiological and social needs, but our hard-working doctoral students were fewer and fewer than ordinary people of the same age. It is hoped that the leaders of the Ministry of Education will spend some time to write the 44 Chinese characters better, and at the same time, they will spend some time caring about the doctoral programs we have developed over 20 years. They don't expect that doctoral students have a good life experience. Most of them are people who are used to poverty, but they hope that they will not be put too much pressure on their lives to give them too much attention. I hope I don't have to be too slow. I can buy some supplements for my parents during the Chinese New Year holiday to buy two clothes. I don't have to worry about how to shrink my clothes in the next few months when I get married and give a red envelope ...... Let them devote themselves to scientific research. Maybe we still have the possibility of winning the Nobel Prize. Last
I also say something to my sisters: Nowadays, society is popular with saying, "who will marry you without a house or a car ?", In fact, we do not need to follow the big stream. I once thought about what is the most necessary thing after I got old? Of course it's not a car-it's a pair of people holding your hands and walking with you. What is the greatest nostalgia for leaving the world? Of course it won't be a mansion-it's the one you love!
If you meet a person who loves you, and you love him, your character is suitable, and you know you will not change your mind, then -- marry him!
No matter how many rooms he has, how much money he has stored, how many acres of land he has at home, and how many cows he has in the ground ~~~
Believe me, you will be happy forever!
May everyone have a peaceful heart, and wish life better ...... |
