recently, a little annoyed, the next door aunt from time to time, on their own 10-year-old daughter, yelling.
today is a wonderful Saturday, I am writing 1 long speeches, preparing the 3rd article to cast to the change.
Helpless, the sky clouded, next door aunt again attack, early in the morning and baby daughter staged a battle of the Roar.
If you are somebody else, like the one who is reading this article, you probably choose "sidelines"  after all, it's not your business, it's easy to get into trouble by meddling in other people's family affairs.
Think about it, it's too much trouble, I don't know where the neighborhood committee is, who is more suitable, So I have to find this person in charge, and then explain the situation, and finally whether they would like to come to the door and the aunt to communicate, the effect of communication is not guaranteed.
 SO, "instead of ... The classic sentence pattern in elementary school is the perfect practice for me (*^__^*)
with its recourse to the troublesome and probably not the Community neighborhood Committee, it is better to do their own, after all, Comrade Ray is the village's first think tank AH ~
I have just done a terrible, to help the aunt next door changed the computer password, little girl don't bother me ah ~ door has been locked well ~".
2.2015 November 21, one of my QQ space to say,"/Despise the aunt next door, shouting her own daughter, really bored to death ~ Poor little girl ~".
3. Next door aunt, this year rent this House, occupation with children, should go to primary school.
The little girl, may not be very clever, also may not love to study, her mother is very anxious, always think of a good way, how to reverse the status quo. In the end, patience was lost. Early on, he started arguing with her daughter, and it was more and more frequent and intense lately. Today, it can be said to be a "climax", probably quarreled for 1 hours.
Can say, I have already lost patience, listen to them so "nonsense" ~o (︶^︶) o
To solve their own troubles, "the next door mother and daughter noisy problem", the essence of the problem is "aunt do not know how to educate the problem of adolescent children."
1. Personally.
2. Never say, "Auntie, stop arguing, I'm writing an article."
In this case, it is actually the isolation of the neighborhood, we do not disturb each other, this is only a little possible, temporarily solve their own problems. The problems of neighbourhood relations, mother-daughter relations and education have not been solved at all.
3.calm, giveAunt some way of educating children.
a few suggestions for my aunt next door
1. Please be patient with your aunt.
When people are anxious, they lose their patience and are apt to make foolish things.
The aunt obviously realizes that she "loses the patience", but she does not have the method, she is too eager to educate her daughter well, the study achievement has improved.
Therefore, the loss of patience is the result of the deterioration of things.
So, preventing things from getting worse is the first step.
Aunt went on to tell her own difficulties and expectations, I do not know how to educate her?
2. teleology.
Or my usual "teleology", what is the purpose of your doing this thing, you pay so much, for what?
I have read a little psychology book myself, I also feel to my own emotional changes, try to think of other people's mind.
Next door aunt, obviously pressure is very big, quarrel only vent her discontent, but there is no use, but mother-daughter relationship tense, cause the next time the emotional eruption.
"You are so anxious that you must think for the child." The noise released your discontent, but it didn't bring good results. You pay a lot, is for what, must be to achieve a lot of effect. Loss of patience, noise, and inability to achieve your goals. "
Children are the most important, learning is always the second. This simple question, too many parents have neglected.
Many parents, out of kindness, too love children, the result has been bad consequences. It is because, neglect oneself "beginner's mind".
It is time, reflection, I am so hard, so hard, is for what?
If it does not cause good results, why do you have to do it.
3. Attach importance to mother-daughter relationship.
Be patient, listen to your child's thoughts, understand her thoughts, and make a good relationship.
Otherwise, the child is always shouted, plus in adolescence, once suppressed for too long, produced a "rebellious", in the future no matter what you say, said the more beautiful, no effect.
My stupid brother, that's the case. Dad from small to most is said, often no patience, the result, Dad said, whether good or bad, my brother basically will not listen, listen to tired.
Say three times light like water ah ~
Marginal effect, seemingly ~
4. Solve your child's learning and education problems.
Patience, understanding the child's ideas, maintaining good mother-daughter relationship, is the most important, followed by learning problems.
My advice is to:
A. Be patient and understand your child's thoughts.
B. Think about the characteristics of your child's personality.
C. Learn about your child's learning and other situations from the teacher.
I also said "learning to make a better, in the future she and your relationship is not good, no use AH." Study well, admitted to the university, also not necessarily can be good. "
Did not say is "so many doctoral students, high-ranking dignitaries," and finally not useless, because neglected the fundamental problem ah.
General recommendations: Patience, understanding of the children's thoughts and personality characteristics, clear their own objectives, control their own emotions, pay attention to mother-daughter relationship, not to learn to see too important, and finally the problem of solving learning.
Aunt's practice: After listening to my calm advice, aunt and her baby daughter exchange, although there is friction, but significantly reduced firepower. As an adult, thinking more comprehensive, self-control initiative, to try to change and control the situation. Aunt began to clean up, temporarily did not surround the child's side, nagging. (*^__^*)
Personal views: For a child's growth, physical and mental health is the most important. Secondly, it is learning. Many parents, the study to see too heavy, but ignore the parent-child relationship, the cart before the horse. Whether it is educating children, or learning, solving problems in the work, the essence is the same, is the problem. Analyze problems, find out several ways to execute, feedback, and execute.
just a few more words .: Although I didn't bring it in, it was coming from the children after all. Seeing a lot of parents, including their parents, the way they treat their children, is very worrying.
It can be said that Chinese parents, at least for the last generation to two generations, treat their children too rough and lack the necessary patience.
Perhaps because the level of education is too low, do not know how to educate.
It can also be under the pressure of the material economy, impatient to treat their children.
Ray fansunion-made a "Lei Feng" today.
November 21, 2015
Hubei-Wuhan
Next door aunt, teach female incompetence Allende, anxious; first think tank, give advice, do wonders
