Seven philosophical stories about effective communication

Seven philosophical stories about effective communication

 
Effective communication is a basic problem that enterprise management and our individual often encounter in social life. It is not easy to achieve real communication between people. The following simple and profound stories may be more direct to you than the professional articles written by other communication experts, and have a shocking effect and enlightening significance.

1. One talent went to buy firewood. He said to the person who sold firewood: "The paybyload is coming !" The people who sell firewood do not understand the word "paybytraffic" (the person who bears firewood), but can understand the word "come", so they took the firewood to the front of the talent.

Xiucai asked him: "What is the price ?" The seller did not quite understand this sentence, but understood the word "price", so he told the scholar the price. Xiucai went on to say: "The Internet is real and the Internet is virtual. The smoke is large and the flame is small. Please damage it. (Your wood looks dry, but it is wet inside. It will burn up and smoke more and the flame is small. Please reduce the price .)" People who sell firewood leave because they do not understand talent.

It is best for managers to use simple language and easy-to-understand words to convey messages, and to have a certain grasp of the objects and timing of the speech. Sometimes the excessive modification cannot achieve the purpose they want to accomplish.

2. A famous American host, Lin CLEIT, visited a child one day and asked him, "What do you want to do when you grow up ?" The children replied naively: "Well... I want to be a plane pilot !" Linclet went on to ask, "What if one day your plane flew over the Pacific Ocean and all the engines turned off ?" The child thought, "I will first tell the person on the plane to bind his seat belt, and then I will hook up my parachute and jump out ." When the audience at the scene looked at the child and looked at him, he wanted to see if he was a clever guy. Unexpectedly, then the two lines of the child burst into tears, which made lincit realize that the child's compassion is far from being described by pen and ink. So he asked him, "Why ?" The answer from the Child reveals the sincere idea of a child: "I want to get fuel, and I want to come back !!

When you hear someone else talking ...... Do you really understand what he means? Do you understand? If you don't understand it, please let others know. This is the "art of listening": 1. Be obedient. 2. Do not project your meaning to what others say.

3 A said to B: "I want to leave this company. I hate this company! "B suggested:" I give your hands in favor of revenge !! The company must give it some color to see. But leaving now is not the best time. "A: Why? B said: "If you leave now, the company will not suffer much losses. You should take advantage of the opportunities in the company and try your best to pull some customers for yourself to become a stand-alone person in the company. Then, when these customers suddenly leave the company, the company will suffer major losses, very passive. "A thinks B is very rational. So he worked hard and made his wish. After more than half a year of hard work, he had many loyal customers. B asked a when I met again: "It's time to take action now !" A smiled and said: "the boss has talked with me for a long time and is ready to upgrade me to be the assistant to the general manager. I have not left yet ."

In fact, this is exactly the original intention of B. A person's work will only give you more opportunities to create more profits for him if he sees that his ability is greater than his position.

4 once there was a small country who came to China and paid tribute to three identical gold men, breaking the Emperor's happiness. However, the people in this small country are not generous. At the same time, they come up with a question: which of the three kingdom is the most valuable? The Emperor thought a lot of ways, and invited the jeweler to check the weight and workmanship.

What should I do? The messenger is waiting to report back. I don't even know this little thing, don't I? Finally, a retired old minister said that he had a solution. The emperor invited the messenger to the main hall. The old minister took three straw in his chest and inserted it into the ears of the first Kingman. The straw came out from the other side. The straw of the second gold man fell out of his mouth, and the third gold man fell into his stomach after entering the straw. Old Chen said: the third gold man is the most valuable! The messenger was speechless and the answer was correct. The most valuable person is not necessarily the most talkative person. God gave us two ears and one mouth, which was supposed to make us listen less. Listening is the most basic quality for mature people.

5. Before a performer came on stage, his disciples told him that his shoelaces were loose. The master nodded and thanked him. After the disciple turned around, he squatted down again to loosen his shoelaces. A bystander saw all this and asked, "Master, why do you want to loosen your shoelaces ?" The master replied, "because I played a tired traveler and made his shoelaces loose during the long journey, he could show his fatigue through this detail ." "Why don't you tell your disciples directly ?" "He can carefully discover that my shoelaces are loose and enthusiastically tell me that I must protect his enthusiasm and encourage him in time, as to why I want to unbind my shoelaces, I will have more opportunities to teach him to perform the show. I can talk about it next time."

6. A daughter complained to her father about her life and how difficult everything was. She does not know how to cope with her life and wants to abandon herself. She is tired of fighting and fighting, as if a problem has just been solved, and a new problem has appeared again.

Her father was a cook and he brought her into the kitchen. He first poured some water into the three pots and then burned them on the fire. Soon the water in the pot burned out. He put some carrots in a pot, put only eggs in the second pot, and put the last pot into the powdered coffee beans. He intruded them into boiling water and did not say a word.

My daughter gave her mouth and waited impatiently. She wondered what her father was doing. About 20 minutes later, he closed the fire, fished out the carrots and put them in a bowl, fished out the eggs and put them in another bowl, and then scooped the coffee into a cup. After that, he turned around and asked his daughter, "dear, what have you seen ?" "Carrots, eggs, and coffee", she replied.

He approached her and asked her to touch the carrots with her hands. She touched and noticed that they were getting soft. The father asked his daughter to take an egg and break it. After the shell is peeled off, he can see that it is only cooked eggs. Finally, he made her drink coffee. After tasting the fragrant coffee, daughter smiled. She asked her father, "What does this mean ?"

He explained that these three things face the same adversity-boiling water, but their reactions are different. Carrots are strong and strong before they are put into the pot, but they do not show any weakness. But when they enter the boiling water, they become soft and weak. The eggs were originally fragile, and its thin shell protected its liquid internal organs. However, when boiling, its internal organs become hard. Powdered coffee beans are unique. They change water after they enter boiling water. "Which one are you ?" He asked his daughter. "How do you respond When adversity comes to your door? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean ?"

7. One person forced to sell his new house because of a business failure, and even his beloved sports car took off his hand and changed it to an electric bicycle. One day, he and his wife met several couples who had a very bad relationship with each other to go out for a visit. The newly married wife of one of their friends did not know the details, when they saw their couple take a bicycle and come to the agreed location, they burst out and asked, "Why are you riding a bicycle? 」 The scene was very embarrassing, but the wife was not in a hurry to respond: "We ride a bicycle, because I want to hold him.