The cornerstone of good interpersonal relationships is emotional savings.

Interpersonal relationship problems, both commercial and individual, are generally caused by lack of understanding, followed by poor communication. In most interpersonal relationships, emotional factors are dominant. In a relationship, the most powerful foundation is emotional attractiveness --Establish emotional savings through various emotional compensation.Emotional compensation is a kind of activity that makes the other Party feel comfortable, including all kinds of intangible things, such as respect, understanding of the other party's feelings, sympathy, apology or concession. The emotion brings people closer to each other, people attach importance to each other and give positive feedback. Emotional compensation can be both open-minded and silent. Below are some actions that reflect emotional compensation:

1. Pay attention to others and affirm the value of the other party. Do not make fun of the opinions and opinions of the other party. If you do not take your fears and feelings seriously, the other party will be angry and hate you.

2. Build trust. Trust is the foundation of all relationships, trust and emotion. We also need to develop and establish skills to consolidate interpersonal relationships. First, we need to gain the trust of others. To gain the trust of others, you must first trust others. Trust can provide people with faith and vision. We should develop the habit of affirming others, affirming others' potential, clearly informing them of value and potential, and stimulating their enthusiasm is active trust. For more information about how to build trust, see the blog post "establish interpersonal trust ".

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3. understand each other's feelings. People are not sages, and almost everyone will feel nervous, frustrated, angry, sad, fear or disappointed at every moment. Emotional compensation is actually to help the other party eliminate these negative emotions, maybe you have to endure the mean and hurtful words of the other party in this process. Please believe that this is not their intention. They need to vent. You must stay calm and accept their rude comments or emotions, this serves as the starting point.

4. Emotional compensation also includes "face preservation". The true significance of face preservation is to help the other Party maintain dignity or eliminate embarrassment in front of the person in which it is intended.

In addition, the use of a common enemy is also considered an emotional compensation behavior. Using a common enemy to bring people closer, the enemy's enemy is a friend. The quickest and powerful way to bring people together closely is to find out the common enemy for everyone. The enemy can be a person, a group, an idea, or a phenomenon. Uniting Together Against the "enemy" will make people more psychologically close. You may not realize that "common enemies" often appear in daily life. If you complain that the weather is a good conversation, you can also complain about "traffic congestion" or "poor communication.