Who are the masters of your emotions?

What is emotion?

The concept of emotion is derived from the Latin verb "motere (Action)", which indicates the tendency of individuals to take certain actions, it is a physical and mental excited state that an individual is subject to an internal or external stimulus.

The ancient Arab scholar avi once placed the two lambs of a child in a different external environment to live: A lamb lives happily with the sheep in the water plants; when a wolf is tied to another lamb, it always sees the threat of the beast in front of itself. In an extremely frightened state, it cannot eat anything at all, soon I died of panic. Medical psychologists also use dogs for emotional jealousy experiments: Keep a hungry dog in an iron cage and let another dog outside the cage eat meat and bones in front of it, in the cage, the dog is in an impatient, angry, and jealous negative mood state, and produces a neurological pathological reaction. The experiment tells us that fear, anxiety, depression, jealousy, hostility, impulse, and other negative emotions are destructive emotions. Long-term psychological problems will lead to physical and mental illness. The Influence of emotion on animals is still the same. The influence of emotion on humans with highly developed minds can be imagined.

The world billiards championship semi-finals were held in New York on April 9, September 7, 1965. Louis fox was very proud and proud, because his achievements were far ahead of his opponent. As long as he played well, he could go to the Championship several minutes later. However, just as he was about to go all out to win the game, an unexpected little thing happened to him: A fly fell onto the main ball.

Louis did not care about it. He waved away the fly and leaned down to prepare for hitting the ball. But when his eyes fell onto the main ball, the nasty fly fell onto the main ball again, and he waved and ran away, then the audience laughed. Just as Louis leaned over to prepare for hitting the ball, the fly seemed to be deliberately opposed to him and fell onto the main ball. In this way, the competition between Louis and the fly, the audience at the scene laughed. At this point, Louis's mood was clearly so bad that when the fly fell onto the main ball, Louis finally lost calm and Reason and angrily hit the fly with a club, accidentally hitting the main ball, the referee sentenced him to hitting the ball, so he lost a turbine.

At this time, I thought that the defeated competitor John derui had a great deal of courage, confidence, and even pass through. Louis was driven by extreme anger and failure, and suffered successive losses. John eventually caught up with Louis and won the world championship.

Louis left the stadium in frustration and someone found his body in the river the next morning. He threw himself into the water.

A little fly beat a world champion who captured the land! Not only does it make people sigh, but it is even more shocking and thoughtful.

In ancient China, there were seven emotions: Happiness, anger, sorrow, thinking, sorrow, fear, and surprise. American psychologist prachke proposed eight basic sentiment theories: grief, fear, surprise, accept, ecstasy, anger, vigilance, hate. Generally, researchers agree that humans have four basic emotions: Happiness, anger, fear, and sorrow.

We can see that three of the four emotions are negative and only one is positive. Some people say that the history of a person's life is a history of fighting against extreme emotions. It is reasonable to say that. It also shows the importance of overcoming negative emotions to the success and happiness of life. Negative emotions are very harmful to our health. Scientists have discovered that people who are often angry and hostile are prone to heart disease. Harvard University once investigated 1600 heart disease patients, and found that those with frequent anxiety, depression, and bad temper are three times higher than normal people.

What are the sources of these four basic emotions?

• Happiness is the emotional experience produced by a person's expectation and pursuit. Because of the need to be satisfied, the desire can be fulfilled, the anxiety and tension of the mind are relieved, and happiness is born with it.
• Anger is the emotional experience generated when the demand is restrained or blocked and the desire cannot be fulfilled. When you are angry, the tension increases, and sometimes you cannot control yourself or even launch attacks.
• Fear is the emotional experience that people attempt to get rid of and escape when they are unable to cope with dangerous situations. Therefore, the emergence of fear is not only due to the existence of crisis scenarios, but also related to the ability of individuals to respond to crisis.
• Sorrow is the emotional experience generated when your beloved things are lost or your dreams are shattered. On top of these four basic emotions, we can send many complex emotions, such as disgust, shame, regret, jealousy, happiness, and sympathy.

How can we identify our current emotional status?

The emotional state refers to the general characteristics of various emotional experiences within a period of time under the influence of certain life events. According to the intensity and duration of the emotional state, it can be divided into mood, passion and stress.

1. Mood

It is an emotional state that is infectious, relatively stable, and persistent. We usually ask our friends "Are you feeling well recently ?" This is actually a concern about the status of friends. When you are in a state of mind, you will be unconsciously influenced by this state of mind, and observe people, things, And things around you with the same emotional experience. For example, when we are in a good mood, we can see that everything is pleasing to the eye and pleasing to the eye. People who do not like it have some different looks, and I think there is something wrong with it. However, when we are in a bad mood, even the best meals are hard to swallow, and even the best songs are upset. In addition, different moods will lead to a completely opposite emotional experience for the same thing. It is also a bright moon. Some may see the sadness of the month, and some may express their feelings through the month. The state of mind can be sustained for several hours, weeks, months, or even more than a year. In this case, we should try our best to prolong the happy sunshine and shorten the time for those bad moods, such as sadness, anxiety, and fear.

2. Passion

It is an explosive, intense, and transient emotional reaction. Such an external manifestation of this emotion is as follows. The story of rulin's external history tells a story about Fan Jin. When the poor Fan Jin saw his name on the Red List, he suddenly said, "Wow! I ...... I am in the middle !" Just as the voice fell, it fell backwards and fainted. After Fan Jin was so happy that he was crazy, he was beaten awake only when he lost his old man's hand. American Gymnastics player reton was originally a substitute. After unexpectedly winning the Olympic championship, he was so excited that he saw her holding her head with both hands for a while. Later, he looked up for a long time. Later, he fell to the ground and remained unchanged for a long time. She was helpless and did not know how to express her mind. Obviously, be careful not to be overly excited, whether it is happy or sad. In a passionate state, you must be able to regulate your own emotions to avoid excessive impulse.

3. Stress

It is an adaptive response generated under unexpected or sudden stimulation. For example, when a person is facing a robbery, accident, or other danger or emergency, his or her body and body are in high tension and lead to a series of physiological reactions, such as muscle tension, accelerated heart rate, trembling legs and feet, and eye-dropping blood pressure rise. Stress is a normal physiological and emotional reaction of people. However, this reaction cannot be too long. Being under stress for a long time will lead to disease.

Overcome failed emotions

The defeated person has many characteristics: fear of the future, complain about the present, and regret the past.

1. Fear: reject the sunshine of the future

Fear originates from ignorance. Anything we have never seen, or unexpected things that we have never experienced in our thinking, will enhance the human body's responsiveness, when stress is increased to be recognized by an individual, it is fear. When consciousness is not, it is anxiety, which can be detected by an instrument. Therefore, fear itself is an objective emotion and protective and plays a defensive role.

The biggest difference between human fear and animal fear is that animal fear has real objects, and people can fear things in their hearts and the future, at this time, fear is subjective and becomes a kind of cognition, not just an emotion. That is to say, when the animal's fear is at the time of the incident, the human's fear is before the incident. For this reason, fear is the number one enemy! It is the first mood to fail. If you are afraid of words, you will not be able to act freely or thoroughly, or simply cancel all actions. In fact, the future has the same good and bad sides as the reality, but fear to reject the entire future, regardless of whether it is advantageous or not.

He said that there are two enviable aspects of animals: ignorance, that is, they have no idea about the future's misfortune or difficulties, and comments, which are hard to understand. These two points are exactly what people are most concerned about. To ensure zero loss or the most reliable guarantee of face preservation, they do not act. In the end, fear of failure means fear of face loss. It's just that people who want to succeed are motivated by the ideal sail. But when they think of the real situation that may happen after failure, they can still seek out. From this point, those who must succeed have evolved slowly. Psychology uses experiments to prove that after many people fall, the first reaction is often not to look at where they fall, but to look at whether there are people around, especially acquaintances, this is exactly the same as watching children. When a child falls down, raise his head to see if there are any moms and dads. If there are any, he will cry and get up without it, however, the child does not want to give face but to seek support.

Objective fear is inevitable. A person can destroy everything in his heart. As long as he lives, he cannot destroy fear. A wise and high person can see that the giant python of the vomit core is still afraid, and those who have never seen it are still afraid. However, subjective fear can be eliminated through rich experience and cognitive improvement. Rich experience means that the more you are afraid of action, the more you want to act. Otherwise, where will your experience be accumulated? Looking at successful people, they do more than you "will", but than you "dare". Their firm belief and strong and clear goals can resist all fear.

In his book "advantages of human nature", karenski proposed specific steps to overcome fear.

1. Ask yourself what is the worst possible result.
2. Write down your worries in detail.
3. Accept the worst case if necessary.
4. Write down all the solutions to this problem.
5. Determine which method is the best.
6. Do it instantly.
7. Improve things you think are terrible.

There are actually only two cores at these seven points:The worst plan + do it now.

Do what you fear immediately. This is the only magic weapon to overcome fear.

A journalist named Jones in the United States is very shy and shy. One day, his boss asked him to visit justice branders. Jones was shocked and said, "No, he doesn't know me ." A reporter picked up the phone and called the other party's secretary's office. "Hello, I am Jones, a celebrity newspaper reporter. I am ordered to interview Judge branders. I wonder if he can meet me for a few minutes today ?" Jones was so scared that he hated me. "How do you mention my name ?!" At this time, the phone has heard a sound: "01:15, please be on time ." "Mr. Jones, your appointment has been arranged ." My colleague shrugged and Jones suddenly fell asleep. "That is the most important lesson I have learned over the past 20 years ." Jones always said that after he became famous.

How to get rid of fear is a question that everyone pursuing success is thinking and answering. It is a sign of human fullness. Nietzsche said: "After a major achievement is completed, it belongs to humans. For myself, it is just to free him from the fear of failure-now I can finally lose ." This kind of loss is earned by themselves. They considered failure in the first place and are ready to bear all setbacks. They are confident that Shi Zi cannot send a person to the mountain, however, most people have always hoped that the God of luck will give them a big deal and then show off to others that he can afford to lose. They have always hoped for Blurred beautiful scenery, and even a whim. When a shot hits the wall, they are panic, such as a big enemy, who suddenly saw the train braving white smoke.

• The loser has only one mentality: Fear is everything,
• They have only one rule: They are determined not to take action,
• They only have one process: Swear to the end of the failure.

2. Complain-make the dark clouds today

Regardless of the differences between race, culture, education, and other factors, as long as we engage in social interactions with people, we will encounter the same or similar problems-differences of opinion, conflicts and compromises and concessions, and so on, become part of people's lives, so almost everyone faces the same challenges of life, there is no such thing as who is worse than who is worse. Unlucky people are their own, lucky people are others, but on the contrary, those who complain are healthy people in appearance, even more robust than others, but they have never heard of another voice, such as the voice of single-parent families, the voice of families inherited from each other, and the voice in harsh living environments ......

Based on the principles of the moment and process and the cause and effect, if you are not satisfied with any situation under any circumstances, you are insufficient to pay for it because of the past, rather than the present. If you complain about poor health, it means you have invested too much in your health. If you complain about poor interpersonal relationships, it means you have not paid enough attention to others in the past. If you complain about a low level of knowledge, it means you have not learned enough in the past, your complaints about your lack of experience indicate your past experiences are insufficient. Your complaints about your low income indicate that you have not served a large number of customers in the past, if you complain that you cannot break through the bottleneck of your life, it means that your past information has been exhausted. if you complain that you are always in a bad mood, it means that you have never done anything you are interested in ......

Those who complained about everything around them. When the sun was shining, they complained about how it was not raining. When it rained, they complained that the sky was not clear. The darkness always followed themselves, and they never asked themselves how bright they were, the essence of this idea is actually nothing to gain.

When it was impossible to get it out of work, a large number of complaints emerged. The tree will have bugs. This is the law of nature, and there is no complaint. The grievance is to stare at the bugs all day long and stare at the bugs. A German author said: If you are only committed to discovering the flaws of a great man or a great age, this is a very sad personality. Ostrovski said more: the smoke is not burning things, but it is very rough. This kind of person Is Everywhere smoke and put drugs to make pollution, what we need to do is stay away from them!

You know how happy you areFor example, if the population of all races in the world is counted as a village of one hundred people, the village will include:

57 Asian; 21 European; 14 American and Oceania; 8 African;
52 women and 48 men;
30 white people and 70 non-white people;
30 Christians and 70 non-Christians;
89 straight people and 11 gay people;
6 people have 89% of the village's wealth, and these 6 are from the United States;
80 people have poor housing conditions;
70 people are illiterate;
50 people suffer from malnutrition;
1 person is dying; 1 person is born;
One person has a computer;
One student (yes, only one student) has a university diploma.

That is to say:

• If you are healthy when you get up this morning and have no disease, you are luckier than millions of people who even don't see the sun next week;
• If you have never tasted the danger of war, the loneliness of jail, the torture and hunger, then you are in a better situation than the other 0.5 billion people;
• If you can freely access churches or temples without any danger of being threatened, violent, or killed, you are more lucky than the other 3 billion;
• If your refrigerator contains food, clothing, room, and bed, you are richer than 75% of the people in the world;
• If you have a deposit in a bank, a vote in your wallet, and a change in your pocket, you are the 8% luckiest person in the world;
• If your parents are not divorced, you are indeed a rare person on earth;
• If you read this letter, you just got a double blessing, because someone thinks of you, and you do not belong to the other 2 billion illiterate people.

Now you know how happy you are, right?

3. regret-chasing the shadows of the past

Regret is regret and hate. It is hope that it will not happen for what you have done, and hate yourself for "making a mistake" and failing to happen in the best way as you are confident. Fear is fear, complaining is complaining about others, regret is remorse, This is the inevitable outcome of the first two, is a more unfortunate state.

From fear of what has not happened to complain about what is happening to regret what has happened, a person will completely send himself back to death, they have lived a life without sunshine like a tree root. In remorse, the present and the future are missed. The rest is only the fear of remorse, which becomes an endless loop. You can never stop the fear or stop the regret. They are always misaligned. They thought about work yesterday and work when they were sleeping. There is no real moment for him to live, and his mind is fully rooted in a memory of the past and an unrealistic vision of the future at the edge of memory. They do not have the present. They stick to their past habits and mourn the past bad luck.

"Making Mistakes" is a normal activity of human thinking. before finding a true rule, all thinking activities can be wrong, but some people may pursue not making mistakes for a lifetime, the result is no action for the rest of your life, but no action for the rest of your life. Faraddi said that he was the most successful scientist. He could not achieve either of his ten hopes or preliminary conclusions. What is remorse for this?

The three failed emotions eventually turn a person into an empty, boring, idle, and impetuous person. They float like a wooden block in the sea. Aier maintenance even believes that it is precisely because people are empty and bored that people become cruel and human. It can be said that:

• There is only one fear that is necessary;
• Only one kind of complaint is necessary, that is, complaining that you are not diligent enough;
• There is only one kind of regret that is necessary, that is, to do immoral things.

From: My Learning Network -- my emotions are my master