Business Week: Little-known big data on marriage

When the memory of happiness is distorted, it's a sign that this marriage needs help. Married divorce rate is 10% higher than the first marriage. Psychologist John Gottmann used the "Love Lab" to conduct a 40-year marriage and family relationship study involving 3,000 American families, 700 newlyweds, in a "happy marriage" The following love figures are published in a book. 67%67% 's first-married couple will be divorced within 40 years of marriage, and half of the divorces take place in the 7 years after marriage. Married's divorce rate was 10% higher than the divorce rate at the marriage. In 85%85% marriages, husbands are cold warriors, not because men are missing parts, but because of our evolutionary legacy. 50% of all the positive things that couples do for each other, the happy couple notices almost all, while the unfortunate couple is less than 50% aware of their spouse's intention to love each other. 35% of the unfortunate marriages suffered a 35% increase in risk, and the average lifespan was shortened by 4 years. 70% people are satisfied with the sex, romance and passion in their marriage, and for their wives and men, 70% depends on the quality of the marital friendship. So men and women come from the same planet. 81% compared to men who resist the influence of their wives, men who are affected by their spouses have a happier marriage and are less likely to get divorced. When a man is unwilling to share power with his spouse, the likelihood of his marital breakdown is 81%. 10% If fitness enthusiasts spend 10% of their time each week exercising their marriage instead of their body, their health benefits will be 3 times times the!67%67% of running on a treadmill. Married couples experience a precipitous deterioration of marital satisfaction in their first parenthood, but there are still 33% Husband and wife have no such experience. And half of the 33% couples have improved marital status. More than 80% of the 80% people who cause tough marital problems are wives, and their husbands try to avoid them. 80%80% 's divorced men and women think their marriage is broken because they are estranged, lost intimacy, or because they don't feel loved or appreciated; only 20% to 27% of couples say they are partly responsible for extramarital affairs. 94% of those couples who have a positive view of their marital history, 94% are equally likely to have a happy future. When the memory of happiness is distorted, it indicates that the marriage needs help. 69% Unfortunately, most of the conflicts in marital life are permanent. To be exact, the ratio is 69%. From: Business Weekly Chinese version