Many people are too anxious to love, thus ignoring their own ability to love

When you love someone, you not only have to get along well with the person you love, but also learn to get along with yourself happily.

This is a truth that we all know but easy to ignore.

Mr. Zhou once told me the question of eternal loneliness, and now I think that's the answer. Even in the face of eternal and inevitable loneliness, we can choose to get along with ourselves happily, and this kind of get along with is regardless of occasion and single or not.

A lot of bitter, will only make you a negative impression of the world more profound; if you drink too much chicken soup, you can either think too softly about the world you've never experienced or think too cruelly about the world you've been through, and you always feel like you could use a lover to wash away your life's confusion.

In fact, this is not the case.

Just smile and accept and do what makes you happy. If you don't go to other people and pour the bitterness day after day, you will not remember, if you do not drink chicken soup, you will not have so many illusions about the world and cause to see the reality of the confusion, if you do not want to have a lover to change you, then you can start to change.

It is true that everyone has their own innate loneliness. But can not endure their own lonely people can not be with their partner good together, no matter you love each other and then the sweet and sticky together is no use. Only those who are able to have a good time can be happy when they are two together, they are the ones who truly have the ability and freedom to love.

Those who are happy to be alive are often the ones who can tolerate a momentary loss of affection, and only they can truly withstand the beginning of a relationship, and those who are unhappy in their own way, expect a mate to change, And the end result is that their luck will be changed into a person who will be happy, but a lot of people just interact with each other, distrust each other, and then inevitably get into a state of disgust. In the end, they still have to blame each other even if they separate, accusing each other of defects and deficiencies.

Don't feel like you have a lover and your life will change dramatically, each of your words is first to let you hear and let others hear you, every thought is from your own inner cultivation and transformation, your every thoughts and even small emotional fluctuations are from your own.

If you feel that you are not being understood or feeling well in a relationship, it is not necessarily your lover's fault, it may be your own.

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Many people are too anxious to love, thus ignoring their own ability to love.

People who do not have the ability to love can also experience the sweetness of love, but I feel that more should be the suspicion of each other, distrust and suspicion of their own, not self-confidence. You devote yourself to the other person, and it's a kind of ego-giving, which is a stupid thing to say.

Many people think that their concern is meticulous, but in fact only their own wishful thinking. What one needs is not absolute indifference, nor absolute concern, but an appropriate distance. The distance between each couple is different and will change with the flow of time, need both sides together to find together. However, if you only judge this distance by your own standards, you will be mistaken and confused by your fantasies.

Two hands on the road together, each other can hug each other tightly and can give up at any time, with a can love heart and can entertain themselves.

This is probably the most beautiful thing I can think of.