What do you think about a 19-year-old girl who was abused to death in the school of "abstinence from addiction"?

How to look at this problem, which is about the heavy topic of death, we will not talk about, the wicked people from someone to dispose of. We first say such a school and related to a Duan (Zi)

Internet addiction to quit school or to quit school or some so-called Life training schools, in recent years, as the beginning of the general springing up around us, all kinds of children sent into the "evil" or "evil" or "incurable" "problem children" and so on, and then they choose this school, and then the miracle happened , these children unexpectedly "change the normal" to become the home in the eyes of the "good Boy" school teachers in the mouth of the "nice boy" everyone excitedly, this school is simply the savior of "problem children", the "gospel" of parents, the "Holy Land" of children. Do you think this is like a joke? If the child to see the parents of tears, you said that the children do not send the child over, the loss?

In almost all of my answers to education, I have emphasized the importance and specificity of parental education (home schooling). Briefly, the important thing is that family education is one of the basic components of a person's educational, before the children start formal school education, the family education will bring a lot of habits, cognitive aspects and so on the tone of the training, the child will take this kind of family education habits to begin to accept the school teaching. The particularity lies in the family education often affects the child's character characteristic to a great extent, but the relationship between the family member is stable and the health has the influence to the child is important. But! In our education, the family education this link is missing very formidable! Or quit school not so rampant, the lack of family education is one of the helping.

Let us first put the family education aside, and then turn to see the existence of the school.

I'm going to talk about a reason (Duan) here (Zi), in order to narrate conveniently, use first person.

I was fortunate enough to have been in a similar institution for a few days, also looked at the so-called internal Training manual (will not disclose the specific content, because it is not necessary) I was shocked, here for the definition of addiction, as well as training is almost to my mind hammer a stuffy hammer, I can't breathe, But I also want to embarrassed smile and cover up the internal injury, but let the unexpectedly is, let me more shocked quickly came. The first day I heard a director's reception for the visiting parents.

The general situation is that a child internet addiction, the night does not belong to the parents come to school counseling, want to let the child admission to receive "education", with the parents of the words is "transformation under" "Clean up" I was in the next room, heard such a word I first a surprise, and then silent continue to listen. The director began to inquire about the basic situation of the child, after the general details of the understanding, he said a let me to the present memorable words "Well, basically is the internet addiction, no problem, we have so many children are this" and time away from the couple sat in less than 10 minutes, he concluded, I can only persuade myself that people "battle" Why。 The conversation went on until the end of the total of 90 minutes, the director except for the first 10 minutes is talking about the child's situation, the rest is in and the couple understand other information, understand their suffering. Like what:

The couple is actually the child's uncle and mother (I do not spit, really do not spit, I hold the table) the director said really good, responsible for the children;

They say their two children still can't control, this child also steals home money, should send over good "education" (I endure) the director said so good, after good filial piety to him so good uncle parents;

Send over how much tuition, the director said to talk about money hurt feelings, education is the most important, money can be slow to pay;

The effect is not good how to do, go back to do, the director said not to go out of the not a well-behaved;

is not completely closed, the director said a fly do not come in, do not go out and so on.

Finally, the uncle and his parents said to go back to the next week with the children's grandmother will definitely come ... Sure... Come ..., I am a man in the next room messy like the meow of the wool ball.

The next day was my resignation the same afternoon, I met the office staff and the parents of the dialogue. A middle-aged woman came in and said to a female employee in the office, "How's she doing?" Did you get better grades? 』

The employee said, "Better, as it goes, you can go home next week."

"So fast!" By the end of the month, at the end of the month.

Month？ You're going to have to renew your money.

"No problem ah, is that she always and the family of the youngest make unpleasant, a girl always don't let brother"

This time the staff immediately interposed to "now all know to share, the performance is very good, I show you her file" said to take out the file to parents

Parents roughly turned a few eyes "well, I believe you, last sent back after the very good, but recently dishonest." Well, I'll pick up the money at the end of the month.

"OK, then you don't go to see her?" It's just an outdoor activity.

"No, I'm going to drink my saliva."

I resigned a little later that day. The cause of physical inconvenience, can not be dedicated to work. When I look at this school in the Scarlet Sunset, I seem to see not the school, is a furnace, a monster, a place to eat people! I shook my head hard, hard pat on the body, thought too terrible, stepped back home footsteps, head also dare not return.

So (Duan) (Zi) said finished. I can only say that there is something in it that is true, and schools like this are almost as usual. Therefore, it is naïve to think that the school is for students, parents are all for children. Such schools, plainly, they are not to quit students, but to comfort parents! They are smart enough to lock their consumer groups on their parents, locking in families whose home schooling is largely failing or beyond control is not necessarily a completely psychologically healthy child, but it certainly gives the parents a relief-I've tried my best, for this child, I've already paid for this kind of school. However, do not say such a school, formal school education, and a few parents are not holding money to send in, how do not give me a good this commodity barter mentality! Is it true that the sadness of education or the shame of parenthood?

However, how to have a very reverse effect in a short time? Corporal punishment is the inevitable orientation and choice, constant corporal punishment allows students to establish a simple stimulation-response mode chain, is the fastest way, the reputation of "quasi-militarization management." Because even the master of psychological counseling can change a person slightly at such a time, but can't be a group of people, let alone a school student, corporal punishment and violence are inevitable measures. This explains to a certain extent, why some students Higen, three into the palace, because such a trace of the stimulus will fade, will weaken, the reason is very simple, the environment and cause the source of the problem has not changed! As bad family relationships, as bad relationships, as bad parenting, as bad relationships, when the student is put into the unchanged environment, tell me what he's dealing with?

Although cruel, but it is the fact of the red. Our lack of family education, it has led to a large number of such parents who have no better choice but to take refuge in such institutions as to do what they consider to be a rescue of their children, or simply to evade their responsibilities as parents, but I do not want to believe that the latter, I think more, Many families with lower levels of knowledge, or families with difficult conditions, lack the means of family education, this is not the result of the school but the social cause, we should give them more training, education, care and help, but some bad people sent them to such schools, with the "Problem child" of the high hat, In the Green Youth Road and line and hurt.

The young boys and girls who are in need of psychological assistance or counseling are being put into such an environment, suffering almost unbearable pain, but know the only reason they endure? Is TM to go back to their parents, ah, back home ah, back to friends Ah! Back to the people they think they love, who they love.

Parents education, home schooling! The most important thing is that the child is impossible. Any child must have a variety of problems, need is not the "cure" but the "positive attention" of "love", they need a sound psychological assistance, rather than the transformation of the shape of the "transformation" or even "sticks under the filial piety", What they need is understanding and recognition from family members. They went out to Cheng the internet, probably because of the drunken father and the scarred mother. They fight and play, pretending to be a bully, probably because the hug and kiss he had hoped for was just a cry of scolding and a beating. I am not the virgin, I say these, just say a lot of seemingly not save "problem child" maybe they want very simple. Rather than let a similar tragedy happen again, resorting to the law to close the illegal school is a fist, and the other fist on the education, only when our education concept, family education concept of the popularization of the promotion may not let such a school appear! No business, no killing.

Finally, summarize. The cause of such tragedies and strange phenomena is that the lack of family education and the understanding of the students ' psychological status, let these schools drill the loopholes of the parents, providing a "relief" of "comfort", but they use the means of violence, the drastic change, and eventually lead to tragedy repeatedly. Perfecting the national social psychological assistance and the popularization of family education is an urgent need to pay attention to the problem. Behind a tragedy, in fact, the implication is more, as parents for their children's education and psychological attention and the weak social construction, the flower of the motherland can not be watered, how can Vauzel people?

Wen/Qin Nan