0101 mental illness of Project Manager (1) loneliness

-- Project Manager's loneliness

 

A long time ago, I sent a trip to a programmer friend. After a long time of Self-torture, he chose relief: he resigned.

 

After pouring a beer, he said,"

I went to work at a.m., dragged my tired body back home at a.m., watched TV and went to bed.

Repeated every day.

I can't see the future or the direction. Do I want such a life? Will I keep living like this?

Now, I have no girlfriend, no money, and no improvement in my work ability.

......"

 

As a project manager, I comforted him like this:"

To be a programmer is to be lonely. Because you need to devote yourself to technology.

To be honest, this road is not suitable for you.

Now, you have made a new choice and it is the right one. You should be happy ."

 

......

 

Finally, he left with a smile.

 

At this moment, suddenly there is a feeling from the bottom of my heart, cold I feel trembling. It turns out that I am also lonely!

 

Yes, as a project manager, I am still lonely, just like I am a programmer.

 

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There is a like sentence:

--Programmers need to be alone. They have time to think, and they have time to learn.

 

Speaking of the loneliness of the programmer era, I can't help but recall the passionate years of my elders:

 

Do not contact people on their own initiative.

I don't always have to communicate with others, and I often have to come up with good reasons to talk to others. It is even more obvious to deal with customers and bosses when dealing with project team members.

 

◎ The dialog is too slow to respond.

When others say hello to me or ask questions, my brain is always overwhelmed and the response is neither rapid nor decent.

 

◎ The conversation content is ultra-simplified.

Every sentence of mine is like an assembly language, not C #. A serious lack of affinity, and even make the other Party feel chilly.

 

◎ Strong technical attachment.

During my project, I like to put the technical tasks that I am interested in under my own name and enjoy my taste. If there are technical problems related to the project to interrupt, we will try to send them in a few words; if there are non-technical problems, we will first give a few cold eyes.

 

Not to mention, it is this loneliness that allows me to reap the technical strength, the hope of my colleagues, the reliance of my superiors, and the position of the Project Manager.

 

However, is this still true for the project manager? Does the project manager need to stay alone?

Rethinking is necessary, and the result of thinking is:

◎Loneliness is actually a continuation of the programmer's mentality!

◎The tendency to be lonely is absolutely reactionary to managers !!

◎Loneliness is a kind of pathological spirit of the Project Manager !!!

 

Here, sun calls the project manager's severe loneliness as a "Lonely Heart ].

 

First, we should admit that the power of the heart of loneliness is very powerful. Because it can turn you into the master of your own life, you can turn others into the embellishment of your life, or even regard them as the NPC in your life game (of course, someone is a boss, someone is a passer-by, but you will always be the hero of the game ). Therefore, when you face the world by yourself, the heart of loneliness will be your powerful spiritual pillar.

 

However, what will happen when you lead a team to face the world as a project manager?

 

After a long time of thinking and observation, Sun found that the heart of loneliness is essentially a dose of poison, a dose of mental poison that can cause the project manager to die.

 

Specifically, the heart of loneliness can isolate the project manager in his work. When he returns home, he gets lonely and loses his career. In the long run, the heart of loneliness will bring great mental pressure to the project manager. It is light to make you suffer from depression and bring you into a mental breakdown. It is a spiritual poison.

 

"Although I am a little lonely and have little friction with my colleagues, my customers are very satisfied with me ." Some friends think that sun is alarmist.

 

Yes. If you are a project manager, you may leave late in the project team every day to finish your work and check others' work carefully. The customer has no reason to be dissatisfied and has no reason to trust you. However, you must have a clear understanding of the key points:

 

--The customer is satisfied with you because he has only business needs but no psychological needs!

 

However, your colleagues have higher requirements for you. He not only has business needs for you (such as planning communication, checking and coordinating reports), but also has strong social needs (such as mentoring and friendship ), and non-low requirements for respect (for example, trust understanding, acceptance and encouragement ).

 

If you only meet the business needs of your colleagues and ignore their social and respectful needs, will those who are not satisfied continue to support your maintenance? Without support, can you still expect your future or development?

 

So,

In the sunshine, the heart of Loneliness is the greatest luxury of the Project Manager!

To be honest, the heart of Loneliness is the spirit of the Project Manager !!

 

Finally,

If you have a lonely heart, please remind yourself at any time:

1. The project manager should not only do things, but also be human!

2. The project manager not only represents himself, but also the project team!

 

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So how can you determine whether you have a heart of loneliness?

 

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* ** The following is a questionnaire designed by Lao Sun, which is not scientific.

 

Please complete this survey and determine whether you have a heart of loneliness based on the results.

 

A few colleagues are chatting with each other. You are passing by, but something happens. What will you do?

A immediately joins; B is busy with his own affairs; c Others

 

2. You are working hard and ask questions from your colleagues. Please ask him to come back later. But he never came back. What would you do?

A. Ask the question, B. Don't pay attention to it, and C.

 

3. You picked up your phone and asked for a temporary leave from the company. Who will you call?

A. Lead by yourself; B. Administrative Secretary; C. Others

 

4. What do you do if you want to send a text message to your colleagues to celebrate the holidays?

A. All friends send text messages to New Year's greetings. B. Whoever sends a letter to me will reply to New Year's greetings. C. Others

 

5. You are having dinner with a few friends. My colleague calls to ask if you are free. What do you do?

A invites him to come and have dinner together. B answers that he is busy with the next day. c Others

 

6 What do you do if you hear a fashion topic over the past two days?

A to figure out how it works; B is not interested in High-hanging; c Others

 

7. What do you do if you find that the lead is not far from the front on the way to work?

A takes two steps to catch up with the discussion; B slows down and makes ignorance; c Others

 

8. What do you do if the project fails and you want to drink alcohol?

A. Ask the project team to drink together to eliminate their worries.

 

9. The project is successful. Prepare your own treat. What will you do?

A asked the project team to make fun of themselves at home.

B. Ask the project team to go to a public place to get busy.

C Others

 

Ten people walked down the street and found that the flowers were blooming. The sky was blue and the moon was round. Next, what will you do?

A calls and tells others; B goes on alone; c Others

 

Calculation method:

Add your score on B together. The higher the score, the more likely you are to be lonely.

If you score more than 7 points, congratulations! You have a lonely heart!

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