The Silence of education

The fundamental problem of humanity lies in coexistence and self-existence.

Human beings have been suffering from coexistence and self-existence for thousands of years, human beings always inspire others with the slogan of coexistence, but they do their own dirty work, which is the root of the increasingly lost human ego.

Self-existence and coexistence are the paradoxes of human nature, and they always get the correct cognition. The diplomatic community has a famous saying: There is no forever friend, only eternal interest. Why can't you be a friend forever? Why is there only the eternal self-interest left?

The country, the society and the family is too complex, perhaps we all think that the thought is justified, is not shameful, below we are specific to the simplest blood relations to study the coexistence and the self existence paradox of human being.

Parents and children are the most basic blood units in the whole social relationship, whether they exist also: there is no forever friend, only the eternal interest? This is an embarrassing question!

There are three main relationships between parents and children: blood, Honor and the future, thus forming three behaviors: blood oppression, honor pressure and fear of the future.

Blood oppression: the parents are based on the blood relationship, in line with their own ideological progress as the principle of the growth of children to intervene behavior.

Honor pressure: Parents because of comparisons, jealousy, face and honor and other psychological, to take a strong twist on the children's growth process behavior.

Fear of the future: Human to the unknown, the future there are inexplicable fear, death deepened the fear, parents to their children with a strong attachment mentality, in order to eliminate these inexplicable fear of behavior. Parents in the growth process of children are strong groups exist, virtually will impose self-existing needs, and inadvertently dilute the needs of parents and children coexistence, fragmented between parents and children's coexistence. When a child becomes a strong group, children often find no value to coexist with their parents. Many of the children did not list their parents as the first consultation for help, more is to ask friends around for help. This is sad, but the tragedy is continued from generation to generation, the fundamental reason is that parents can not exceed the needs of self-existence, to achieve the value of coexistence.

So when I reflect on these questions, I choose the concept of coexistence when it comes to educating my children. As parents, first of all, to establish respect for the child's philosophy, not because of their own learning and despise the ignorance of children.
I often reflect on myself: as a child, I should be the child's most trusted friend, when I leave the world, he will feel the loss of a deep understanding of his friend and sad, rather than just lose a blood-related relatives.

As long as I have a co-existence of the heart, the children will not be alienated from us, but more respect for us.
What children are most reluctant to lose is the understanding and support of their parents, and what their parents crave is the understanding and support of their children: the old and new forces will be integrated on the basis of coexistence, benefiting both sides, and the new and old forces will be damaged if they disintegrate in their own struggles.

The relationship between man and man is not the parent-child relationship, if the parent-child relationship can not be based on coexistence, what about the ideal of coexistence?

Parent-child relationship can only be based on coexistence to be more pro, based on the self-existence of the increasingly weak affection, which is the simplest coexistence value and significance.
Mankind should gradually eliminate the dependence on self-existence, release the energy of coexistence, as long as people have the value of coexistence, recognize the meaning of coexistence, can achieve beyond

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The Silence of education