A lot of people on the surface, it looks like one of the wussy, but in fact, they are more than anyone in their hearts conceited, Strong , vain, even sinister. When you see more in your work, you should get used to it.
And some people, everything is written on the face, on the surface they often offend people, and even annoying. But they are not necessarily the true temperament.
I believe most of us have seen the old Hong Kong movie. Jacky Cheung, Tony Leung's flattering scene is too interesting, there are such a paragraph: When two horse fart fine to help the boss said that the boss immediately stopped, and then patted the forehead: "Oh ... I've got it... "Think of others as your own." I have more than one time in the work of this kind of thing, I put forward the idea of the old people as their own original, of course, individual thieves triumphantly describe their ' original ' when they will secretly aim at me, see if I am not happy,, I am not unhappy, probably because of the thought that the film jokes were amused. The world academic is a big copy, not to mention what idea, what innovation, all are clouds! You don't see a lot of innovative projects, have been copied into Ashes! But not to give up innovation, the earth can not because there are animals to eat grass and no longer vitality, spring is not because there is a king eight steal water and do not run the waters. 1th: Maintain a vibrant heart. Because this thing is stolen by others, but also the greatest wealth. If you are not prepared for this thing, then please use a heart to cultivate it. Everyone is a dazzling pearl, just blinded by the dust.
Remember just into the company that will work, full of passion. But in the first week of his boss to offend, I did not do anything wrong, I remember that there are colleagues to help me speak, and then slowly found that he is a very conceited person. But then again, there are a few technical aspects of technology that are not conceited. I didn't learn to behave after this. I will point out the unreasonable design of others and suggest how to do it. For those colleagues who have weak language base and weak design patterns, I would kindly recommend some books, and,,, to be kind enough to help others without being appreciated. On the contrary, most of you will feel that you look down on them, but not only will not reflect on improving their weaknesses, but retaliation "despise" his people. So be sure to remember the 2nd: You can't make any comments. I did not say no, just say not too casually, think clearly and then mention. It's important to make good suggestions to others, but learn to be tactful. This is equally useful in everyday life.
As opposed to the 2nd, 3rd: Often affirmed, praised the achievements and progress of colleagues. Note that this is not about asking you to curry favor. It is also more positive and necessary to see the virtues of others and to be sure. This will not only enhance the relationship, but more importantly, encourage others.
I always think that a person without self-knowledge is equivalent to garbage. Know your nickname anytime, anywhere. In other words, I have a colleague, the foundation is very weak, but too much love to express themselves, often everywhere pointing point, lest others do not know that they are "master." Because the old open "yellow cavity" is often a person behind the smile without knowing. 4th: Low-key some, modest, and constantly improve their strength.
Into the company when the department is just set up, after a period of time, I found that because of the particularity of the Department team development is necessary in the company's general coding standards based on the internal code and design norms, so to the boss mentioned my idea, he agreed. So I drafted an internal specification manual. But in the course of the execution, someone came by the manual and someone didn't follow the manual. The root cause of this situation is that the boss does not support. There is no need to analyze the reason, give the 5th to remember directly: not in its place, not to speak of it. Do your job well. No matter where, the enlightened and magnanimous good boss is not much, so this is very important.
Often when meeting to discuss design plan, will find a very interesting thing. The meeting would have been normal and harmonious, when the turn to some excellent people to speak, the atmosphere suddenly disharmony. Everyone can not wait to pick out his faults, even if they do not understand the meaning of others will be nonsense. The scholar met the soldier,,,,, and the former internship companies often see this situation. At this time I will be in the following sigh: a good picture hundred birds "mocking" phoenix map. Please remember the 6th: Wood Show in the forest Wind will destroy, to know how to bide your time, do not always sharp.
The company has an old staff, the strength is relatively strong, is a dudangyimian person. However, in a departmental reorganization has not been promoted, is promoted to the manager is not too strong, but also later than he. Before that, I heard rumors that an old employee was in contact with another company and was ready to jump. 7th: Less than the last moment, the idea of leaving your own will never be shared with anyone inside the company. Because from the company's point of view you have been unfaithful, do not want to reuse you. However, in the staff's own standpoint, the company's treatment and ability is not proportional to, do not agree with the company's culture, want to change the environment, want a better development opportunities, these are reasonable. I personally found a rule: in the general company, those who adhere to the last withstood the "test" of "loyalty", often are not capable of mediocrity (generally speaking, the more advanced company management, this situation will not happen, this is the big boss should worry about). If you are a senior manager of a company, how would you treat a similar "traitor"?
8th: Do not offend the women in the office. Here the woman is defined as follows: (1) National treasure level of female programmers, (2) Female testing, this is not rare;(3) Female assistants, everywhere are; (4) Female bosses, this is the most deadly! The male is together, what conflict contradictory quarrel had been noisy had forgotten. But the woman is not the same, accidentally offended, after a catch to the opportunity will put you together, but also endless! The most deadly is: secretly mercilessly yin you, and in front of the show like your warm relatives. Well, in line with the principle of equality between men and women, this can be done without 、、、、、、
Our research and Development Center has a very cute leader, not very clear what the above gave him what potion, so that his position was dropped, the authority was sold a large part of the whole day dancing happy. After a month or two to react to something wrong, and then all day long frown 、、、、、、 with this kind of communicative reaction speed, being withdrawn is inevitable thing, really not suitable for management. Most of the technical men's heads are ' square ', not very good with dealing with interpersonal relationships. 9th: Strengthen communicative competence. Most programmers are smart, and it's not a big problem to notice a little bit. But do not feel good about themselves, our company has a more than 10-year work of it men, a few years ago began to be sent off and customer communication, ya, so far that a hesitant and lame Mandarin let people listen to the sad.
Dix: If there is no special situation, you must not report across the class. This detail is very important. In a sense your superior is your boss, directly determines your development, you are his soldiers. It is not who the official to listen to, otherwise the history of so many mutiny can not be successful, because we all only listen to the emperor, hehe. On the other side, you're ' loyal ' to your boss's boss and he's afraid to use you, because who knows if you're going to get a second grade after you've been promoted?!!
11th: Be good at reporting to your superiors. It is not clear whether the state cadres are public servants of the people. But the company's big and small managers must be (if not so he is not a good boss)! Those "splint men" (image name, no derogatory) size is indeed an official, but very tangled. Not only to cope with the leadership above, but also to fully mobilize the following people to make their achievements, all day to get burned. The top of the white face, then the splint men sing the black face. It's not easy anyway. Most of their suspicions are very heavy (for everyone else)! Often suspect that the following people do not work. Although the general company has any task allocation management system, but that thing is far from enough. You need to find the time to let him know what you're doing and what you're trying to do.
12th: Do not easily cause emotional pollution. Don't let others see your face because you are not happy. Learn to hide your emotions in the snow. If you are a leader, that is too important.
13th: Every move to find their own position, the location of others. For example: the seating of the meal, the position of the photograph, the order of the recipients in the mass mailing, the position order of the document author 、、、、、、 these are important. "I Ching" in the said: Ming-phase, Li-tak industry. If you don't even know where you are, how can you get to the destination.
14th: There is no need to be an angry youth. Just graduated from that will, I am very angry green, I do not appreciate this frown. But what about it? The nature of the jungle has never changed, you have to learn to try to understand the society, understand the various relationships. At some point you will find that everything is taken for granted. If you are really dissatisfied with a situation, then do your best to change it. Potential, not all of them!
15th: Remember others ' good, forget others ' evil. A person in the heart should not have too much hatred, hate is the rubbish that others throw to you, you are not trash cans, old pretend to do what? In the company as algorithmic engineer nearly three years, others how to me, my heart and mirror like clear. I don't care much for people who are bad to me, let alone revenge. On the contrary, when they ask me for help, I can always be sincere to help, and even actively help solve the problem. This is the only thing I am satisfied with for the past few years. I believe in one word: To live is to practise. But you have to know whether you are doing good or bad deeds.
Graduated three years, look at the road, always feel a bit desolate. Really understand a lot of truth. Thanks to those who helped me, and to those who have hit me. Maybe a person only experienced the difficulties can really grow up, which I have to sigh the cruelty of the good fortune.
Hey, another piece of literature.
I didn't think there would be so many people interested in this summary, and in order not to be misleading, I had to do something to emphasize:
1 suggestions above are just some tips you should pay attention to when dealing with interpersonal relationships. Mainly to those who do not sensible new.
2 I didn't ask you to be a hypocrite. Or to be who you really are. One of the mentioned snow Tibetan mood, just let you not in the office casually affect others mood, this is a person's basic quality.
3 programmers to do technology-based, above I have emphasized to be humble, to constantly improve themselves. There is no suggestion to engage in politics. Programmers should be proud of the goal of making good work (with no exceptions to this field, of course).
4 discerning should see, I put the most important in the first and last. If you can do these two points, the middle of the can not.