Are many people with high IQ quotient low? Why?

I have always felt that there is a bias in the general understanding of the emotional quotient and the true EQ definition.

Most people in the society, especially those who have no systematic study of EQ knowledge, always think that the person who is unhappy is the emotional quotient is low, the person who speaks stimulates the person is the EQ low, in front of the crowd seemingly out of place person is EQ low. Those who are easy to fit in everywhere are emotional quotient.

In fact, however, the real EQ definition is the ability of a person to recognize, manage, and control their emotions. In other words, a person with high EQ is not necessarily to make you comfortable, as long as he can understand his current mood, can control and manage his emotions, but also can clearly understand the other's emotions, but also can make appropriate response to the other side of the emotions to their expectations of the reverse development, this is EQ business. Of course, I am not a psychology major, perhaps this understanding is not completely accurate, but the sense of self is more close to the truth than the public definition.

So people with high IQs, I think, are fully capable of learning these abilities. It is not difficult to learn to focus on yourself and others ' emotions over a period of time. That's why EQ can be improved.

But this person's ability doesn't mean he wants to be comfortable with the people he's dealing with right now. Could he have deliberately been trying to control each other's moods in the direction of depression, anger and even collapse?

It is because this human quotient is high that it is easy to be manipulated and controlled by people who do not have such abilities and have no relevant IQ or knowledge to understand this situation.

Some people have high IQ, EQ, but not necessarily a good man, see their own eyes, and can be manipulated and controlled by their own people, may be for a variety of reasons deliberately to make each other uncomfortable. In short, he does not want to get along with the object, naturally there is no need to please each other. It doesn't affect his social life because he expects a different social circle. On the side of being teased, it may be that the other side is less emotional than the knowledge you know.

Although I dare not boast high IQ, EQ High, but encountered some annoying phone calls, marketing staff, but also a change in the usual gentle appearance, with various methods to make each other uncomfortable, uncomfortable, and then as soon as possible to end these waste of time of dialogue to save their lives. However, people who really want to have a good relationship with others will naturally use another face.

To sum up, as Lei Feng said, treat comrades as warm as spring breeze, treat the enemy as cold as winter. Really do this, is the emotional quotient high.

So, when a person thinks the other side IQ is high, EQ Low, will it just because the other side of the heart of the "enemy"?