The girlfriend is higher than oneself salary, how to reverse attack?

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Let's introduce the general situation:

I and my girlfriend college students, not the same professional, the same year graduated, not married at present.

After graduation the salary basically is similar, one year you are taller than me, one year I taller than you.

I work in a security software company to do technical support work, not research and development, the university did not learn, graduated did not do, a few years down is all forgotten. Girlfriend Internet company doing market work.

Recently his girlfriend changed a new job to an Internet start-up company, the level rose to the director. The salary has turned nearly one times (that is, the salary is more than me). I said I was happy for her, but the pressure doubled inside.

But I do this position, visual job-hopping will not rise too much, 50% basic is the limit. OK, I admit that the previous job hopping is because my girlfriend is higher than my salary, feeling depressed, so chose to change jobs.

Please ask the great God, to my present situation, how fast (a year or so) on the salary to improve themselves?

My thoughts and doubts:

1. Re-learning development? The foundation of the university is poor, and the graduation work seldom touches the code, even if the evil completion goes to the interview, is also the fresh student's treatment, even inferior.

2. Due to security-related work now, the network security related knowledge, seek to change the technical support, to more technical content of the network security Engineer/consultant, network security researcher conversion. Doubt: This type of work requires more knowledge than development, and it is impossible to talk about security consulting without development experience. No company will.

3. Job interview.

Please the work of the Great God to guide the maze, thank you!

Psychological and emotional experts also want to be able to divert me. Thank！

Add: Face If say don't mind that is a lie. Of course there are other factors, we have not married, but also to consider her family's opinion of me, two people are true love but society is very realistic.

At the same time, worry about is a step down not anxious, after the gap is getting bigger. Do not live in a class, without a common language, the feelings of the future is also unfavorable.

Secretary：

From the psychological to do a lot of guidance, but I think the Lord should have practical difficulties, that is, today's China, the community for the income is lower than the spouse of men, there is a certain degree of discrimination and pressure. Perhaps the master's girlfriend is not interested, but the family how many will have knots, so for the subject, if can be more successful in business, can reduce the pressure on both sides.

I'm an information security practitioner, so it's my specialty to talk about career planning.

The main hope is to raise the salary substantially in the short term, which is debatable in the way, knowing that it is not a sprint, but a marathon.

Let's first analyze why the main girlfriend is higher than your salary.

General salary-related elements are: industry, region, company nature, company salary strategy, position, position, personal ability.

The main girlfriend in the industry "Internet", the main topic is "Information security software company", did not say what type, estimates should be traditional in the enterprise-level market information security software company, although all belong to IT industry, but one in the front, one in the back field, the industry on the first gap.

Company Nature, the main company does not know what stage, the assumption is a medium-sized bar, the girlfriend in the start-up, in fact, in the short term, but the title is added, but long-term if the start-up company smoothly, the future of the option incentive can not be underestimated.

Job title, the main technical support, girlfriend market, generally speaking, the closer the company's main business, the more can help the company "direct profit" position, the more inclined salary.

Positions, supervisors and engineers.

The other is not clear, from the above view, if the title does not change the nature of the work, short-term and long-term is difficult to "reverse attack."

Analysis of the end, began to give advice: first of all, the main decision is to accept psychological guidance, attitude, face this fact, believe in each other, or catch up, pay more efforts.

If it is the latter, the Lord will have to carefully analyze the subject, he is suitable and like to do what, rather than simply see what the immediate salary to do.

Because you don't know anything about it, you can't give too precise advice, but a few basic principles can be said:

1. Better treatment in the rising industry (e.g. mobile internet, smart home);

2. The treatment of scarce talents is higher;

3. The main business, direct profit-making sector better treatment;

4. In the short term see if the company boss is generous (this is what you said 50%), long-term see if you can upgrade (this is what your girlfriend did before)

Finally, although I've been talking about career planning, but still need to add, the result is not important, the process is important, as long as you have efforts, girls will not because you pay low leave you, but if not enterprising, self-pity, two people can not communicate at one level, that is the greatest risk.

Best。