When the head is down or with the parents?

Communicating with children is the most fragrant "chicken Soup for the Soul" of the parents. With the younger generation "the Talk Cure", is the old person best spiritual consolation

This is old news: Home for the Chinese New Year, the parents prepared a table of good rice, children are not in the mood to eat. They brush their phones, on Weibo, play games, send micro-letters, grab red envelopes, and parents to say a word. Children go home are "bow family", do not want to look up parents. The father could not stand the indifference, and angrily turned the table upside down.

Will similar stories be repeated when the year of the sheep is coming? It's hard to predict. At present, China's population over 60 years of age exceeds the total population of 10%, is the world's only one of the elderly population of more than 100 million countries. The wave of silver hair is too urgent, the whole society is not ready, young people do not know how to respect the old, but also do not know how to the elderly. The holiday gives money to the object is the same choice, but ignores the spiritual needs of the elderly.

Now, from food and clothing to well-off, the elderly not only to pursue material satisfaction, but also need spiritual satisfaction. Pure tangible matter, can not meet the intangible spiritual needs. The elderly need to have a sense of happy, full, warm and live well. With the children of heart-to-heart exchanges, parents are the most fragrant "soul chicken soup." With the younger generation often "the word cures", is the old person best spiritual consolation.

In the past, the Chinese generations abound, the family's youngest more than 10 or even dozens of people live together, enjoy the happiness. With the rapid economic development, urban and rural change, the young people have left their ancestral home, work and even drift in a foreign country, the traditional way of life no longer, "homesickness" can not be pinned, parents even see their children on the side are wishful thinking. The old people eagerly look forward to distant wanderer, wistfully, the day and age, this kind of anticipation mood "no account can be eliminated". Some parents leave the familiar environment, come to strange city, even with children living together, by language, geography, living habits and other restrictions, lack of a sense of belonging. and Empty nest old man "Enter a lamp, go out a lock", is long and the world without sex, lack of emotional talk to vent the object, full belly words have no place to say. Over the same term, psychological disorders, depressions, there will be mental illness. According to the survey, about 8% of the elderly people have a more obvious depressive symptoms, showing an upward trend of the year. Social sense of loss, loneliness of life and mental depression intertwined, the elderly psychological problems such as not timely adjustment, wait until the red light, the children are afraid of conundrum.

It is said that loneliness is the patent of the old. The physical decline of the elderly, prone to psychological depression, depression, anxiety, these negative psychological emotions often in turn accelerate the physical decline. The old people jump out of solitary circle, inseparable from their children's help. In order to make old people happy, we must first create a comfortable environment for them. Life troubles with mother said, work things to Dad talk, with words knock open the heart of their parents, open their dust-laden memories, convey the warmth of family affection.

CCTV once aired a public service advertising: Dad's memory is getting worse, forget a lot of things, even do not recognize the son, also do not know where home. Son took him out to dinner, the plate left two dumplings, dad actually directly with hand grabbed dumplings into the pocket. The son froze, father said: "My son favorite eat this." "Children may forget their parents, but they will never forget their children." Young people often say: "When I earn enough money, and so I developed, then to honor their parents." However, when children are really free, parents tend to be seriously ill or die. So, go home for the new year, hurriedly put down the mobile phone, accompany parents chat!