Entrepreneurial emotional confusion: busy with work and anger, self-centered

"He always asked me to discuss his company's business with him, I do not understand him to scold me stupid, I learned to put forward their own views he said I was wrong." Wang Qing said she was going crazy: "What does this man really need?" "This is the Valentine's month of 2011, and China is going through the broadest technological entrepreneurial tide ever."

In Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and even more second-tier cities, young people huddled around restaurants to talk about financing and projects everywhere. Earlier, when the successful listing with Youku had set off a new wave of "demonstration effects", several sentimental stories also entered the public eye at the end of last year:

Tudou on the eve of the IPO encounter ex-wife "interference"; Guoqing Micro Bo revealed will invite the first girlfriend to participate in the listing bell; Liu very touched: if one day Jingdong Mall on the market, he should invite the first girlfriend celebration, because "Jing Dong" two words originally from his and her name combined.

An abstract and fashionable noun "technology entrepreneur" from this three-dimensional, their investment and financing model is the most future of China's entrepreneurship, a group behind them also surfaced, they are the Chinese commercial civilization process of the perceptual witness.

But "Men from Mars, women from Venus" don't seem to explain the full extent of the emotional friction of entrepreneurs--psychologists say: entrepreneurship and working are two completely different mental states. How will intimacy be tested when conflicts in different worlds are concentrated in a couple or under one roof?

Wang Qing, cosmetics salesman, 1985 Stranger, 26 years old this year. Unlike an entrepreneur who has achieved a phased success, her boyfriend is the vast majority of Chinese entrepreneurs who are still struggling at the bottom of the pyramid or have not yet been able to invest, and the confusion of Wang Qing has revealed the inner secrets of this particular group of entrepreneurs in the fast-changing China.

Speculators

How big is this possible "morbid" group? At present, the Chinese Mental Health Association and other institutions do not disclose relevant data, however, they show a similar face: In the "Not Madness survival" of the persistent and excessive expansion of the selfish desires, when the two sides of the coin can not be effectively balanced, this selfish desire to consciously or unconsciously invade the relationship between the sexes, wandering in the boundaries of law and reason.

At the end of 2010, after McCann won 3 million of the venture capital, Rebecca made a breakup. For the man, she had an inexplicable feeling that her experience was beyond explanation and acceptance, and that she did not know whether to condemn, to avoid, or to help the man whom she had loved.

A former electronic athlete, McCann, 32, is one of the founding shareholders, a "pimp" role in the technical team and capital--to find a project and then quickly wrap it up. When he was more than 20 years old, he pulled a millions of investment and had a glorious experience, after the collapse of the capital chain. Before meeting Rebecca, in addition to working in a foreign-owned gaming company in Shanghai, he bought a game development team and placed them at people's Square.

There's a term in the game called "Rush," which means beating each other quickly, this has a certain risk, because pushed not to fall the other side basically was the other side down, McCann character has its ingredients-the company registered to the seventh month, he has not drawn to the investment, began to use monthly salary cushion for entrepreneurial team expenses; When the money was tight, he made a decision, The acquisition of another technical team in the south, which gave the team a better concept, but also faced the risk of a faster loss of funds; a few days after McCann's funding arrived, the company's former employees were exposed to false information on their official website.

About their fate, Rebecca friend opinions, but there is a basic consensus-not so simple. When "workaholic" Rebecca met McCann in the summer of 2009, he felt that the woman who focused on the financial statements was different from other women: "They know nothing about handbags."

This is a long-distance love, he is very busy, she is very busy, love has become the important sustenance of her life. But slowly, she felt depressed: they seldom had a lover's whisper, he seemed only interested in his business plan, and his emails were filled with all sorts of questions. This way of getting along with her because of work related to Shanghai has not been spared, in addition to frequent discussion of his entrepreneurial, is the alienation of emotion.

One night, Rebecca asked about his emotional history, and McCann said he has not had a stable relationship. "Because I always feel I can't get married before I succeed." I also know that I am very selfish with them. I can be tolerant or even tolerant to them, but I am also extremely selfish. ”

McCann had a lot of women, but it didn't seem to have happened. Rebecca, who couldn't stand the snub before he rushed to his buddy, asked him if he was gay.

He gave Rebecca the money.

Once, a US hedge fund found McCann, wanted to use hundreds of dollars to get the trade secrets of his foreign game company, McCann was thinking, she said she couldn't do it, and another time, never used a smartphone. After he saw a mobile internet research report, he quickly concocted a business plan, excitedly said "help me change."

Some say McCann is smart, but Rebecca begins to look at him in a complex way-"morality is a relative concept, only to know the bottom line", Rebecca says, in fact she could not introduce him to her friends because she could not guarantee that he would hurt them.

After endless quarrels, it is breaking up. In private, McCann's friends gave her a new definition of the relationship-"It's inevitable, it's just a matter of time, and he has always had a problem with his feelings; ”

In the past the frequent friction, McCann had left a sentence: "Other women are cheated also doesn't matter, you are the kind of husband who broke the law will be the first to send him to prison!" But after the breakup, he said, this is one of the most rational and thoughtful women he has ever met.

In the United States, if employees change jobs and dedicate a company code to company B, the company B usually "Fire" him on the first day and tells a company about the facts: "You can enable legal proceedings if necessary". But in China, the contract spirit of one of the required business civilizations is not yet firm.

At the same time, unlike the United States, the lack of complete and thorough due diligence by individuals or institutions before investing is also a breeding ground for McCann, they present the first kind of pathological features--"operating" business and intimacy with speculative thinking; feelings are not important to them, but they seem to be important; they have many women, but they never seem to have them.