First, no one will be allowed to limit their happiness.
EQ people will feel good about what they do and won't be unhappy with others ' opinions or achievements. Of course, other people's evaluation, you can not indifferent, but also do not have to compare themselves with others, and can have reservations about the views of others. No matter what other people think or do, eq People's self-worth comes from the heart and knows that at any moment, no matter what others say, one thing is certain: you are not as good or as bad as they said.
Second, not forgetful.
EQ will soon forgive, but it does not mean they are forgetful. Forgiveness is the need to let go of what has happened so that we can move on. But that's not another chance for a bad person. EQ people do not want to get caught up in others ' mistakes, which is not necessary, so they usually get away quickly so they don't get hurt in the future.
Third, not to die in battle.
EQ people deeply understand the importance of striving for tomorrow. In times of conflict, unrestrained emotions are opinionated, and this kind of struggle can be very damaging to you. When EQ businessmen feel emotions, they will rationally choose whether to fight, only when the time is right, choose to stick to the end.
Four, do not put the perfect first place
EQ people do not set the perfect as a goal in life, because it does not exist. People can make mistakes, and if you aim for perfection, you will always struggle with a sense of failure, and ultimately your time is spent lamenting what you haven't done, what you should have done better, and not enjoying your sense of accomplishment.
Five, will not live in the past
Failure erodes confidence and makes it hard to believe that you will achieve better results in the future. Most of the time, failure is because of the risk, because the goal is too difficult. EQ businessmen know that success lies in the better face of failure, if you have been living in the past, you can not do this. Any goal worth achieving is to take on some risk and not allow failure to prevent your confidence in success. If you live in the past, your past becomes your present, which will put you at a standstill.
Six, will not stay in the problem
What you focus on determines your emotional state. When you focus on the problems that you face, you create and encourage negative emotions, stress, and impact. And when you focus on improving yourself and your surroundings, you will have a sense of personal fulfillment that will make you feel positive and perform better. EQ people do not stay on the issue, they know that the key to solve the problem.
It's not a waste of time on a negative person.
People who complain often indulge in their own problems and cannot focus on solving them. They want others to complain with him, so that they can feel better. When you hear complaints, people often feel pressured, they do not want to be treated as ruthless or rude, but compassion is limited, not at the end of the vortex of other people's negative emotions. By setting limits and keeping yourself away from them when necessary, the way to set boundaries is to ask the complaining person how to solve the problem, and he may settle down and make the dialogue more constructive.
You don't have a grudge.
Negative emotions are often accompanied by resentment, which is actually a stress response. Thinking about what is happening will put your body into the "fight or escape" mode. When threats are imminent, this response is vital to survival, but when the threat is over, clinging to stress can cause serious damage to your body, and the longer it lasts, the worse the consequences. EQ businessmen will try to avoid this situation, learning to put down resentment will not only make you feel better, but also improve your health.
Ninth, will not easily promise.
The harder you say no, the more likely you are to feel stress, burnout, or even depression. Saying "No" is a challenge that most people have to face, but "no" is a powerful word and you shouldn't be afraid to use it. Should say "no" when the EQ people will not euphemistically say "I do not think I can" or "I am not sure" and so on. To say "No" to a new commitment is to take responsibility for the promises you have made.