Entrepreneurs please be sure to cherish your "other half": Invisible Partner

Entrepreneurship is never easy, and as a leader of startups, they tend to overlook a role that has always supported and offered advice: their partner, the invisible partner of the start-up company. Suranga Chandratillake his own experience with his gentle and delicate words, and summed up his experience for later entrepreneurs. Suranga Chandratillake is a pan-European partner of the early venture capital company Balderton. Prior to joining Balderton, Suranga was the founder and Ceo,blinkx of Blinkx and was listed in 2007.

A few years ago in Friday, Cambridge, a technical house and his fiancee were planning their wedding, expected to be held in Cambridge a few months later. The day they have to go to the wedding site to confirm work, and service personnel handover and communication, choose wedding flowers, food, red wine, and let the wedding to do a little romantic.

But our tech house wasn't there because his company had an IPO in six weeks, and he spent all his time talking to the lawyers, the investors and his own operations team.

I was the one who was talking on the phone all day, and my fiancee had become my considerate lady. Even though I used to rush our private lives during our wedding preparations (Note: Do not arrange weddings and IPOs in close months), my wife still indulges me in my work when I need it. When I had to put aside the preparations for the wedding, she always took over.

Later, at the hotel we can have a romantic wedding, she also no lax, help me comb the IPO process encountered in the various problems, and in the choice or difficult time to give me a lot of support and help.

From my experience, I've found that "invisible partners"-entrepreneurs ' husbands, wives, girlfriends, boyfriends, or same-sex couples-often have an undoubted contribution to the success of startups. Why? Because being a founding partner of a business, or being an entrepreneur, is not a nine-to-five job. Startups, for their competitors, are often short of money, lack of access and lack of resources. As a pioneering company leader, overcome these difficult situation to create their own enterprises, the need for superhuman workload and input, need a commitment to dedication, a sense of mission. You're nervous about the state of the company, and that's the nature of it. You need to do a lot of official travel, sometimes even around the world, whether it's prepared or convenient. You need to devote yourself to your company, it's a mission, and often you stay up late, overnight, or spend the whole weekend working.

But the more disturbing fact is that this physical tension tends to cause mental tension. As the leader of your resource-poor team, you need to remain in the best state, maintain the most positive mindset, and take the load out of your hard work and hard work, so that the team can keep up the morale and the best status.

All this tension and anxiety will catch up with you, and you need to get extra time and energy from other parts of your life, usually the part of your family, to cope with them. If your partner can change your plan at any time, take on the task you have no time to accomplish, protect your family when you work hard, and even provide support, understanding and advice for the stage (say, who is more suitable for your life advice?) Is the secret to keeping you in the best position at work.

If this relationship is to be maintained over a long period of time, I personally believe that every partner needs to be absolutely aware of the sacrifices made by our invisible partners and work hard to compensate them and do everything they can for them. Every relationship actually needs these factors, and according to my personal experience, they are:

Respect

Respect for your invisible partners (their careers and prospects are often overlooked in this) is unimportant, respect them, and support them unreservedly. Respect can be shown in the proportion of your limited personal time with them, and your commitment and devotion to them. Given that you should be in lack of the former, give them your commitment, unreserved devotion and support for them. For example, when you promise to send your child to school for a week so your partner can go on business, don't break your promise.

Share

Share your team with your invisible partner and introduce her as your team. I formed a big family with some team members working together in Blinkx. We spend more time together than many real families, just like real families, we also experienced highs and lows, but we encouraged each other, supported each other, and persisted. When your team members are in this relationship with you, don't create an interval between them and the person you really care about, especially your partner, and let them know each other. Make sure they understand each other and know the other side of your life. If you have to work overtime, it makes it easier for your partner to understand that if your co-worker needs you to help him covering, you will know why. If your partner knows how good and caring you are with the people you work with, it will be easier for her to understand and support you.

Balance

I don't believe that real work/life balance is a possible reality for a start-up company leader or member. But I think you can take it as a long-term goal (or a lifelong goal) and work on it. My wife and I never realized the goal of going home for dinner every night. So we balance our schedules, and when one of us (of course we both are) is going to have to work overtime-usually for more than a year-the other one of us will do something supportive, or do something we're interested in.

Resonance

Work will be very tired, when home often some people will be encountered in the work of all fatigue and not incidentally home. Your invisible partner will often have to help you defuse these fatigue and bad times and support your difficult time. However, for some reason, entrepreneur partnerships tend to forget to share a successful flash of work with their partner. You need to always remind your team or invest people that these moments need to be shared with their partner, and of course, don't forget your own.

It's never easy to create a company and take it to the right track. You need to realize that the only person who can help you at any time is your partner, and please remember to respect their support and help and give them the same reward. This may be the most important investment you can make.